Overcoming regret.

[dandan]

So regret shades through my life.
20 years medicated when finally discovered dianabol and cypionate Testosterone, Damm I could have saved me a lot of pain and horrible feelings and life.
Had 56 bitcoins and 2200 ethereums, lost it all, sold them because I was going to kill myself and because had a car accident and had to pay debt.
Split from a beautiful girl because if my mental and situation.

How can I overcome it?
I simply can't , not bitcoin, not my parent insulting me for believing in Bitcoin.
Not for allowing this affect my relationship with her.

What I can do is do the shit I know I want to do , and not leave space for further regret.

Now, this helps, buy I still have a few pending things to do and it's just though. But I will or I will regret it down the line.

 

[puppy9]

Thanks for sharing your recovery journey, because it shows that recovering is not easy and if you wanna do it, one need to open to many possibilities.

Me too, spent all my money just because I was close to CTB. Now I regret it. I want my money back.

It's been more than 2 days that CTB doesn't cross my mind, even though my life sucks but I view this as a win for me.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

My opinion...

You can't overcome it, but you can view it from different perspectives that aren't so disempowering or self-negating. We are our experiences, and what we do with them.

For example, what lessons did you learn from the difficult experiences that you wouldnt have otherwise? What made you a better person, say, more compassionate or empathetic, that wouldn't have happened if things had gone easy? How did the pain refine and improve you?

Or, what if you had stayed with that beautiful girl? Are there things about her you didn't see or didn't want to, but in retrospect you can see how it likely wouldn't have turned out according to your wishes? For instance, for decades I regretted not taking an opportunity, then when I later met up with others who did take it, turns out they had some challenges and shitty situations that I didn't realize I bypassed when I turned down the opportunity. Or I've looked back at old boyfriends and how they turned out, and I would not have been happy to have been on that same path with them and the relationship still would have ended.

You didn't get to spend your bitcoins as you would have wanted, but how screwed would you have been if you didn't have that resource to tap into when you needed it?

So your parent insulted you. If there is truth in it, it's not an insult, and if there is no truth in it, then their ignorance is their shame and burden, not yours. Is that situation reflective of how they've historically negated and invalidated you? You were right about bitcoins, they were wrong, and conceding error is likely not a part of their character, correct? Whatever was knocked over in you by such invalidation is for you to set right so that you don't even need an apology not admission of wrong, this to me is true empowerment when others refuse to be reciprocal, as much of the world is not.

By moving forward with what time you have left, and not wallowing in regret, you are freeing yourself, perhaps even more than you would have if you'd never had any regrets. And you may have more or not, we all make mistakes, but you are certainly wiser and more capable than you were before. People who have it easy are also oblivious, which can be a serious handicap if shit ever gets real for them.

Anyhow, these are just my thoughts. No expectation for you to take on my point of view, but if anything brought encouragement or freedom from unnecessary shackles, yay. If not, I trust you have the ability to figure out your own stuff. :)