Nothing makes me happy anymore

[Tomino'sNightengale]

Nothing makes me happy anymore. I used to like things like playing video games or programming or language studies or just walking. I don't want to do things anymore because I don't get any enjoyment out ot them anymore. I have no friends, and I don't know happiness anymore. It's called anhedonia, and I sometimes feel like I should have never been born or that I'll never be happy again. I'm 41 years old, and I'm at the age where I'm supposed to be done building a life. The life I've built sucks. There's nothing anymore that makes me happy or fulfilled.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

The phrase building a life is a corporate propaganda phase

Life is temporary. There is no infinite growth or finished product

 

[timf]

Sometimes people find that the ambitions they had in their 20s fade in their 30s and life can feel empty in their 40s. Others can find that over time those things that provided stimulation also fade. Even people who raised families can find that their grown children move away and they also become detached.

One can revisit old pleasures like a favorite book or movie. However, exploring new interests like taking a leisure learning class, joining a book club, or dabbling with marksmanship, bowling, or amateur radio might uncover new interests. Sometimes finding out what groups meet at the local library can open options.

Another line of inquiry can be volunteer activities. Reading to the elderly, cleaning up litter, or even being a mentor might make some connections through which a vitality and zest for life can be restored.

Suicidally Curious is right about the idea of life as a construct or product. Too often people are brought to dissatisfaction with their life because it falls short of what has been presented in TV and movies. Satisfaction does not generally lie in the direction of trying to live someone else's idea of life. If you explore and experimenter, you may find what is right for you.

 

[whatevs]

The phrase building a life is a corporate propaganda phase

Life is temporary. There is no infinite growth or finished product

No, when you are of a mature age you need to have something secured, a corner of the world for yourself. This is why this concept that you call propaganda is so popular. It's true.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

No, when you are of a mature age you need to have something secured, a corner of the world for yourself. This is why this concept that you call propaganda is so popular. It's true.

"You need to have something secured"

According to who? According to Fox News ?

Bush secured about 200 billion barrels of oil but he genocided millions to do it . So congrats I guess !

Good luck with securing your land , your homes , and your SUVs. God hates America and he kicked your ass in Afghanistan. He took thousands of your young boys away from you because you believed in the propaganda of "securing a corner of the world for yourself"

You couldn't be content to live a low impact lifestyle an now you're paying the price .

 

[WhiteDespair]

What do you mean by "makes you happy?"

Can you define "happy"? Personal definition, no dictionaries, etc.

 

[JakeFlake]

Nothing makes me happy anymore. I used to like things like playing video games or programming or language studies or just walking. I don't want to do things anymore because I don't get any enjoyment out ot them anymore. I have no friends, and I don't know happiness anymore. It's called anhedonia, and I sometimes feel like I should have never been born or that I'll never be happy again. I'm 41 years old, and I'm at the age where I'm supposed to be done building a life. The life I've built sucks. There's nothing anymore that makes me happy or fulfilled.

I know what you are talking about. I have lost interest in all my hobbies and nothing excites me. I find it difficult to get excited when people ask me to join them at the movies. Most of the time I just sit there and fake smiles/reactions. No news excite or interest me. I don't even bother to read the news even though there seems to be a lot of things happening.

 

[Tomino'sNightengale]

What do you mean by "makes you happy?"

Can you define "happy"? Personal definition, no dictionaries, etc.

Dopamine transfer in your brain that makes you feel fulfilled and glad you got up this morning.

 

[WhiteDespair]

Dopamine transfer in your brain that makes you feel fulfilled and glad you got up this morning.

What activites did that before?

What did you like about those activities?

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

Sometimes people find that the ambitions they had in their 20s fade in their 30s and life can feel empty in their 40s. Others can find that over time those things that provided stimulation also fade. Even people who raised families can find that their grown children move away and they also become detached.

One can revisit old pleasures like a favorite book or movie. However, exploring new interests like taking a leisure learning class, joining a book club, or dabbling with marksmanship, bowling, or amateur radio might uncover new interests. Sometimes finding out what groups meet at the local library can open options.

Another line of inquiry can be volunteer activities. Reading to the elderly, cleaning up litter, or even being a mentor might make some connections through which a vitality and zest for life can be restored.

Suicidally Curious is right about the idea of life as a construct or product. Too often people are brought to dissatisfaction with their life because it falls short of what has been presented in TV and movies. Satisfaction does not generally lie in the direction of trying to live someone else's idea of life. If you explore and experimenter, you may find what is right for you.

True story

 

[whatevs]

"You need to have something secured"

According to who? According to Fox News ?

Bush secured about 200 billion barrels of oil but he genocided millions to do it . So congrats I guess !

Good luck with securing your land , your homes , and your SUVs. God hates America and he kicked your ass in Afghanistan. He took thousands of your young boys away from you because you believed in the propaganda of "securing a corner of the world for yourself"

You couldn't be content to live a low impact lifestyle an now you're paying the price .

I don't know why you are projecting on me your infantile take on American politics. It is an intemporal fact of life (which existed thousands of years before 'SUVs' or neocon crimes) that men and women try to build a career, or relationships, or a family, or a more resilient personality during their prime and by the time you reach half of your lifetime is when you typically assess what progress was made.

 

[Wizard999666]

How you feel now is how I used to feel around 5 years ago. I don't know what advice to give you, I used to bike a lot during that time, it provided some sort of escape. My depression is so bad now that I'm bedridden half the day. It's not really a question about happiness; doing things are impossible any longer. I can't watch a movie, play a game, read a book; nothing.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

I don't know why you are projecting on me your infantile take on American politics. It is an intemporal fact of life (which existed thousands of years before 'SUVs' or neocon crimes) that men and women try to build a career, or relationships, or a family, or a more resilient personality during their prime and by the time you reach half of your lifetime is when you typically assess what progress was made.

Career is a corporate propaganda term.

The term did not exist before then. Most people farmed and there were some craftsmen and that was about it . You can convince yourself otherwise but when the doctor watches the EKG fade to flat you will be forced to accept reality .

Life is not linear. There is no progress. This has been proven in scientific fact as one day the sun will go out and we die .

The universe is going to kick your ass . Deal with it

 

[whatevs]

Career is a corporate propaganda term.

The term did not exist before then. Most people farmed and there were some craftsmen and that was about it . You can convince yourself otherwise but when the doctor watches the EKG fade to flat you will be forced to accept reality .

Life is not linear. There is no progress. This has been proven in scientific fact as one day the sun will go out and we die .

The universe is going to kick your ass . Deal with it

For a farmer career was getting bigger and more fertile land, for craftsmen achievements and prestigious clients. It's so easy to refute what you are saying. You are going against simple facts that are understood implicitly
by everyone.

The whole idea of civilization and the essence of humanity revolves around the idea of progress. And so does work.

 

[Tomino'sNightengale]

What activites did that before?

What did you like about those activities?

I used to like programming, RPG video games, walking outside, and family tree building.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

For a farmer career was getting bigger and more fertile land, for craftsmen achievements and prestigious clients. It's so easy to refute what you are saying. You are going against simple facts that are understood implicitly
by everyone.

The whole idea of civilization and the essence of humanity revolves around the idea of progress. And so does work.

There is no such thing as progress. If you believe in that , I just can't help you. You may think there is progress because your western government went and looted oil from somewhere else and it props up your ass, but it doesn't exist.

Life is cyclical. You are born , live a short time , and then you die. You can convince yourself there is progress for a time , but you and everyone here will die. And your descendants will die too given what scientists project for the ultimate fate of the universe. If you're dumb enough to sign up for the American military, you'll die a lot sooner.

 

[WhiteDespair]

I used to like programming, RPG video games, walking outside, and family tree building.

Great!

If you can figure out why you like those things you can find activities that have similar qualities.

for example, if you like the puzzle solving aspects of programming you could try an escape room. or, if you like getting an rpg character just right, designing an aquarium could do.

 

[Tomino'sNightengale]

There is no such thing as progress. If you believe in that , I just can't help you. You may think there is progress because your western government went and looted oil from somewhere else and it props up your ass, but it doesn't exist.

Life is cyclical. You are born , live a short time , and then you die. You can convince yourself there is progress for a time , but you and everyone here will die. And your descendants will die too given what scientists project for the ultimate fate of the universe. If you're dumb enough to sign up for the American military, you'll die a lot sooner.

I was trying to stay out of this conversation but something you said just made me screw up my face. "There is no such thing as progress." Really? We've cured disease, made new inventions, gotten better at living together, fought racism (yes, with some success.) enlightened people, provided education, ended Communism and Fascism, lowered poverty, fed more hungry people, and made art for the world to see, but there is no such thing as progress? Are you fucking blind?!?!

 

[whatevs]

I used to like programming, RPG video games, walking outside, and family tree building.

You sound similar to me with these interests. Just add conspiracy theories and literature/soft science books. Sadly they have lost much of their appeal for me as well. I still like programming, it's not amazing but you pass time and people are forced to pay attention to you/pay you, since everyone is rushing to fuse with technology like lemmings.

 

[Tomino'sNightengale]

You sound similar to me with these interests. Just add conspiracy theories and literature/soft science books. Sadly they have lost much of their appeal for me as well. I still like programming, it's not amazing but you pass time and people are forced to pay attention to you/pay you, since everyone is rushing to fuse with technology like lemmings.

What programming languages do you use?

 

[whatevs]

What programming languages do you use?

I'm now working with Flutter so I use Dart. But I have used JavaScript, Java, C#, HTML with CSS, Python. The starter pack. What have your worked with?

 

[Tomino'sNightengale]

PHP, JavaScript, VB.net, and a little with Java. While it's not technically programming, I've done database/SQL along with CSS and web design.