Help No friends or money and rent going higher, what should I do?

[Yukako]

Should i just kill myself? i feel like there's no fucking way out of this, i have money for one more month and that's fucking it, i can barely eat properly, i'm fucking desperate.

 

[xyzasd]

Could you move back to your parents?

 

[Yukako]

Could you move back to your parents?

sadly i can't, they're in another country.

 

[xyzasd]

I'm sry to hear that. But bc they're your parents you would be allowed to enter that country as well and live at their place, no?

 

[starrynighty]

I feel you, I'm trying to figure out the same problem. My wife moved out and wants a divorce and is struggling with her own mental health. I've been told by her sister that I emotionally abuse her and financially take advantage of her when I make more money and work at least 60 hours a week and when she had hours cut for covid I picked up a third job to help cover the loss. I have no friends or family I feel I can count on. came out trans a few years back and since I've lost connection with friends and have been uninvited to family functions and had gifts exchanged secretly behind my back. Therapist advises me to consider if my relationship with my family is toxic and if it would be better to have more distance.

My support network is 0, I am going to have to sell my house because I can't make the payments alone. Tried to CTB over a decade ago and ended up in the hospital for over 6 weeks. And now it feels like it's all coming back. Come home to a silent house that I slowly have to get cleaned up and redone to sell.

Life is an avalanche of despair it feels like.

So…. I hope someone has some good advice for you and it might help me and others too

 

[timf]

Hard times make difficult choices. If there are no governmental social services available, it may come to family, friends, finding a roommate, or asking a church for help.

 

[Yukako]

I feel you, I'm trying to figure out the same problem. My wife moved out and wants a divorce and is struggling with her own mental health. I've been told by her sister that I emotionally abuse her and financially take advantage of her when I make more money and work at least 60 hours a week and when she had hours cut for covid I picked up a third job to help cover the loss. I have no friends or family I feel I can count on. came out trans a few years back and since I've lost connection with friends and have been uninvited to family functions and had gifts exchanged secretly behind my back. Therapist advises me to consider if my relationship with my family is toxic and if it would be better to have more distance.

My support network is 0, I am going to have to sell my house because I can't make the payments alone. Tried to CTB over a decade ago and ended up in the hospital for over 6 weeks. And now it feels like it's all coming back. Come home to a silent house that I slowly have to get cleaned up and redone to sell.

Life is an avalanche of despair it feels like.

So…. I hope someone has some good advice for you and it might help me and others too

That sounds so bad, I'm sorry you had to go through all of that, thank you so much for sharing your feelings, you are really helping someone and i hope things go better for you.

Hard times make difficult choices. If there are no governmental social services available, it may come to family, friends, finding a roommate, or asking a church for help.

I'll try to do some research, maybe i can find a place to stay for a couple of months while i find a job, thank you for answering.

 

[Celerity]

Start investigating organizations that help the homeless in your area now. You may have to call around. Churches are a good idea. A small group of people in my hometown help with food, showers, job resumes, and possibly transport. I don't believe they have a website because it's just a handful of people, but they use the parking lot of a local church. I hope you're able to find someone to help you. I can't imagine how scared you must be right now. I'm so sorry that this has happened.

 

[deathLiberation]

Do you have a car? Maybe you can at least sleep inside it.

You can try local organizations, i believe they can help. Government instituions will probably put you in a waiting list and forget about you, but you can also try that.
Maybe sell all the stuff you dont need, since you can make a bit more money and dont have to worry about stuff.

Can you go back to your parents house/country? Maybe find a job that pays just enough for a plane ticket.

Good luck.

A small group of people in my hometown help with food, showers, job resumes, and possibly transport.

I bet these people work with donations and there are zero tax dollars involved in supporting people in need.

 

[starrynighty]

Start investigating organizations that help the homeless in your area now. You may have to call around. Churches are a good idea. A small group of people in my hometown help with food, showers, job resumes, and possibly transport. I don't believe they have a website because it's just a handful of people, but they use the parking lot of a local church. I hope you're able to find someone to help you. I can't imagine how scared you must be right now. I'm so sorry that this has happened.

Thanks for the ideas, I'm on mortgage forbearance through January and I have two jobs I'm working right now but my debt has piled up between both my wife and myself and debt to income is so high it's going to be hard to even find a studio but thank you for the ideas I definitely need to quit sitting stagnant and try to get a plan together.

 

[Manaaja]

I've seen several people create a gofundme account, post a sob story on Twitter asking for donations and then get hundreds of dollars that way from strangers who want to help. Of course the chances are probably really low, but it is one way that no one has mentioned yet.

And to any person with artistic ability who might read this: I've heard drawing furry porn is easy money. I actually knew a person who was abysmally bad at art, but they made pokemon bondage porn and people paid for it.

 

[netrezven]

So the world is going to financially crash everyone that plays by it's rules. People will get poorer and poorer losing their freedom, while being shamelessly blamed for all of this. When people lose most of what they had, already lost and gave up their freedom, why do people still obey the system? I'm sure most criminals are doing just fine as usual.

 

[Manaaja]

So the world is going to financially crash everyone that plays by it's rules. People will get poorer and poorer losing their freedom, while being shamelessly blamed for all of this. When people lose most of what they had, already lost and gave up their freedom, why do people still obey the system? I'm sure most criminals are doing just fine as usual.

Truer words have never been spoken.

I read that many decades ago the USA planned to limit the amount of money one person could hold to 1 million dollars. I agree with them. Once a person gets over one million, they should be forced by law to give the rest of their money to poor people, or be thrown into a psychiatric jail.

I'm against jails, but not if it's used to cure moneytism aka money-hoarding-addiction, which is a very severe mental illness which always requires psychiatric visits, forced medication and a few decades spent in a mental hospital.

 

[hashtagnull]

Should i just kill myself? i feel like there's no fucking way out of this, i have money for one more month and that's fucking it, i can barely eat properly, i'm fucking desperate.

I would say no, this is situational, though horrible and scary it can be sorted out. Can you go to some advice organisation in your area? They could tell you what practical help there is in your local area/country for the living situation and things like debt if that's an issue. If you're too stressed I could search up some places to contact with a general idea of your location. Can you reach out to family or friends, anyone who might be able to help?

Thanks for the ideas, I'm on mortgage forbearance through January and I have two jobs I'm working right now but my debt has piled up between both my wife and myself and debt to income is so high it's going to be hard to even find a studio but thank you for the ideas I definitely need to quit sitting stagnant and try to get a plan together.

I'm not sure how it works over there (assuming USA), but it might be worth getting some debt advice because there may be options for you to have some of the debt written off and keep your home. This link is just from a quick google, but it's worth looking into at least.

Can I File Bankruptcy and Keep My House? - Upsolve

Bankruptcy law lets you keep your home as long as certain conditions are met. Here’s what you need to know if you need to file bankruptcy and want to keep your house.

upsolve.org

 

[dandan]

Damm, this is hard stuff
I wish I have something useful to say
I remember when in despair, nearly going to jail, my mom wouldnt pawn my 2200 ethereum to pay legal fees, I had to sell...
Cause of that im poor, even my mom has to work at 70 years old, she could've help, it was 8 years ago... it was just some hundreths dollars whe wouldnt pawn my ETH

I know what it feels like being in despair
No support network?

Just crossed my mind, what would I do?
The thought just crossed my mind, I would go out begging for money or for ideas, like nicely dressed, and in a professional and smiling way, trying to act like a leader, saying things out right to people, asking for couple of bucks or just couple minutes to see who can share some useful thoughts.... we did that in a leadership course 10 years ago.... I was suprrised by the peoples reaction....
I remember the best place we found to do this was an HEB parking lot, I was not begging, I was reselling some cheap candy......

Damm I feel y'all...