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[Alec]

Something happened that is very likely to push my date WAAAY up. I still live with one of my parents. I'm an immigrant and I'm waiting for my work authorization before I can start working and I thought I'll still have at least one month for that and I dread it because my parent will start to pressure me VERY strongly to take any job I can fight doesn't matter what kind as long as I'll be working and I'm barely going through a day as it is(I'm hiding how I struggle I don't want anyone to know because of many reasons) and I know I can't talk about this because I know no one will listen or understand(don't even try to tell me maybe I should at least try talking because I'm 1000% sure it won't work, I have my reasons to be sure).
Anyway, last spring I finished my studies and did 3 months of internship, and that internship was pure hell for me, I hated everybody in there and how they thought they could give me advices about my life to "set me straight" fucking shit...and I hated the job my god how I hated it and it 9 hours 5 days a week that I had to be there I barely got through it.
And now about the thing that happened today that can move up my date. You see even after I get my work authorization I never planned to go look for a job at the same company I did an internship at, because I hated it, I wanted to find something else. But a few days they called me, thankfully I missed the call but I knew why they were calling, it was because they wanted me to come in and do some murdering paper work shuffling and arranging papers and shit like that and accounting with invoices and there was no way I'm gonna go there again - so I chose not to call them back.
BUT, one of the workers at that company knows one guy who did an intership there last year and that guy KNOWS MY PARENT! So the person from the company told that guy that they were looking for me and he called my parent... and today my parent goes "why don't you answer your phone?! They are trying to reach you they have some work for you, tell them you still can't work but maybe they'll put you somewhere in a closed room so no one could see you are working and you'll make some money, call them back tomorrow morning right away!" CAN YOU FUCKING BELIEVE IT?!? WHAT THE HELL?!
Is this some sign from a universe that I need to pack up and leave this world already?! Honestly FUCK!
I'm gonna have to call them tomorrow and I don't know, I hope they won't be able to let me work, I hope for that really bad. The truth my date is this summer but I hoped to make it at least till the middle of May, and now I just... don't know.
I guess I'll find out tomorrow, but I don't think I can handle working for them anymore and I don't know how to get out of this because if I'll just tell them that I don't want to it's possible they'll tell that guy and he'll tell my parent and then it's...shit.
I guess my point here is, make sure there are no links between two parties you are trying to keep apart for whatever reason because it fuck your stuff up.
I'm sorry for the long post, nobody will probably even read this but maybe some of you are bored and you'll give it a read I don't know.
I hope you are having a good time y'all.

 

[Hopeindeath!]

I'm sorry the company went through someone else to talk to you, and that your parent is trying to force you to work. The only way out of it that I see is talk about it not being legal for you to work with that company. Try to come to a mutual understanding that neither of you want to break the law. Then tell your parent that you can't work because the company agreed it was illegal. I hope this helps.

 

[Alec]

I'm sorry the company went through someone else to talk to you, and that your parent is trying to force you to work. The only way out of it that I see is talk about it not being legal for you to work with that company. Try to come to a mutual understanding that neither of you want to break the law. Then tell your parent that you can't work because the company agreed it was illegal. I hope this helps.

Thank you for replying, it means a lot to me that someone read this and even left a message! It's nice when someone cares.
That's what I've been thinking of trying to do too, I'm gonna make a call soon and I hope it works out.
I hope you are having a good time right now, or as good as it is possible for people in our situation

 

[Hopeindeath!]

I hope it works out for you too. It's hard to do anything when you're struggling just to get through the day. Thanks for hoping I'm having a good time that's really nice of you to say. I hope the same for you.

 

[Painless_end]

Something happened that is very likely to push my date WAAAY up. I still live with one of my parents. I'm an immigrant and I'm waiting for my work authorization before I can start working and I thought I'll still have at least one month for that and I dread it because my parent will start to pressure me VERY strongly to take any job I can fight doesn't matter what kind as long as I'll be working and I'm barely going through a day as it is(I'm hiding how I struggle I don't want anyone to know because of many reasons) and I know I can't talk about this because I know no one will listen or understand(don't even try to tell me maybe I should at least try talking because I'm 1000% sure it won't work, I have my reasons to be sure).
Anyway, last spring I finished my studies and did 3 months of internship, and that internship was pure hell for me, I hated everybody in there and how they thought they could give me advices about my life to "set me straight" fucking shit...and I hated the job my god how I hated it and it 9 hours 5 days a week that I had to be there I barely got through it.
And now about the thing that happened today that can move up my date. You see even after I get my work authorization I never planned to go look for a job at the same company I did an internship at, because I hated it, I wanted to find something else. But a few days they called me, thankfully I missed the call but I knew why they were calling, it was because they wanted me to come in and do some murdering paper work shuffling and arranging papers and shit like that and accounting with invoices and there was no way I'm gonna go there again - so I chose not to call them back.
BUT, one of the workers at that company knows one guy who did an intership there last year and that guy KNOWS MY PARENT! So the person from the company told that guy that they were looking for me and he called my parent... and today my parent goes "why don't you answer your phone?! They are trying to reach you they have some work for you, tell them you still can't work but maybe they'll put you somewhere in a closed room so no one could see you are working and you'll make some money, call them back tomorrow morning right away!" CAN YOU FUCKING BELIEVE IT?!? WHAT THE HELL?!
Is this some sign from a universe that I need to pack up and leave this world already?! Honestly FUCK!
I'm gonna have to call them tomorrow and I don't know, I hope they won't be able to let me work, I hope for that really bad. The truth my date is this summer but I hoped to make it at least till the middle of May, and now I just... don't know.
I guess I'll find out tomorrow, but I don't think I can handle working for them anymore and I don't know how to get out of this because if I'll just tell them that I don't want to it's possible they'll tell that guy and he'll tell my parent and then it's...shit.
I guess my point here is, make sure there are no links between two parties you are trying to keep apart for whatever reason because it fuck your stuff up.
I'm sorry for the long post, nobody will probably even read this but maybe some of you are bored and you'll give it a read I don't know.
I hope you are having a good time y'all.❤

You are exactly like me 100%.

The only difference is I am not an immigrant in my country.

 

[Alec]

I hope it works out for you too. It's hard to do anything when you're struggling just to get through the day. Thanks for hoping I'm having a good time that's really nice of you to say. I hope the same for you.

I did it, I said that I don't want to risk being caught and take the risk of having my period for work authorization getting revoked and that I'm busy doing one other thing that will occupy my time(was a bit of lying involved). It was an offer for a short working time anyway, it wasn't like they were offering me a full time position. They just have a lot of work to do in this period and need some help. But it would also be too long, it would be hell to go through all that again. I said I'm sorry but I can't. And they said ok. I thanked them for thinking of me.
My parent is really disappointed(I'm sorry but for some reason I don't wanna say if I have a mother of a father, I don't know why I just don't feel comfortable sharing it it's weird I guess) my parent thought I was being a offered a full time position and when I said that I talked to them and we agreed it's best not to go because of my work authorization status, my parent got really disappointed and said that it's bad I'm loosing a position. I explained that it was never a full position at the firm anyway, but my parent still spent the rest of the day acting disappointed around me like I wasn't trying hard enough and it's my fault and like I'm a failure all together and am good for nothing. I just keep telling myself I don't need to care about what someone with such low intelligence thinks of me, but it's hard not to care all the same.
I guess all I can hope for now is that this doesn't come back to me somehow and bite me in the ass and blow up in my face you know, I guess maybe un a week if it won't come out yet I'll feel a bit better, but still it can come out even in a month or two, but yeah I'm tense right now.
Thank you again, for caring❤
and of course I hope you are having a good time, it's not nice of me to say that it's just something you deserve!

You are exactly like me 100%.

The only difference is I am not an immigrant in my country.

I'm sorry that you are in this situation as well, but I guess at least we are in this together. What happened with you?

 

[Painless_end]

I'm sorry that you are in this situation as well, but I guess at least we are in this together. What happened with you?

I am mentally inadequate. I just tend to find life extremely difficult. I have quit 2 full-time jobs without another one in hand.

I try my best to live without a job, because I have done my best and found that there's just no way I am able to do one. I lack the mental rigour / discipline / actual f**king interest / desire to take on 9 hours of full-time work.

Currently, my parents, although they are kind at heart, are breathing down my neck about it.

 

[Hopeindeath!]

I am so glad you made the call and got it over with. I'm sorry your parent was disappointed and made you feel like a failure. You are not a failure at all. Right now it's really hard for you, and it's not your fault. Hopefully, things will be better for you.

 

[HereToday]

How old are you? Why can't you just tell your parents you don't want to work there?