ב''ה,
Not particularly helpful, but since it jogs the memory, a certain Jewish comedian has a bit about how Judaism is "you'll never be happy."
In fact, we are commanded to be happy at certain times (our festivals, etc.) and to loathe some things specifically (pork, etc.), so it's basically acting lessons.
We are simultaneously screwed if we violate some of these commandments unknowingly, yet it's worse if we do any of that after specifically learning what our rules are. However there is a perspective that if you make it through Yom Kippur and G-d gives you even one more day, be thankful for that and maybe act like the bad stuff never happened unless He calls you out on that through people or otherwise.
Pardon hijacking the thread with religious study, it's just that Shabbos is rolling in and, technically, I might prefer to ever have anything to say other than *promoting* death, it's just that everything I tried to try to ever give us good lives never worked out.