Emerita
the look of death
- Jan 16, 2025
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I think suicidality as similar to addiction; you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved, just as an addict won't get sober simply because you want them to. You can send them to rehab without their consent or lock them up in jail, or you can take their drug/ supply away, now they may not be able to use it for that period but that is not recovery. It has to be their own choice and decision. People ctb for many different reasons, but a simple "it gets better" doesn't offer any actual help.
People come here for a reason. Some may recover, while others may not, but it's not as though individuals just stumble upon this forum and suddenly want to ctb. They were feeling this way before they arrived, life led them here, and pain brought them to this point. Sadly, circumstances have led us to this stage. Many say that it's an easy way out but if that were the case, why isn't everyone doing it? It's not like this is something we want to do just for the heck of it. Most people here have something in their life driving them to seriously consider ctb.
People tend to get upset about suicide I understand grief, and its complexity and some believe there were many other options available, that it was a mistake or they were thinking irrationally. However, I don't think this outsider perspective is objectively true. Each person's life is a subjective experience, and for them, suicide felt like the answer. I'm not saying it's the right answer, but I can't say it's wrong either. It's a person's choice and that choice isn't made lightly.
The support we are often told to seek doesn't solve many (if not any) of the problems we face. Society views suicide as the problem, but it's everything that leads up to that moment. They see it as an issue only when it starts to affect them. But the person who ctb was suffering long before that. I don't think it's selfish because I think acting in our own interest is a part of human nature. It's understandable for someone suffering to want it to stop. It's terrible that they suffered so much that they couldn't take it anymore. But I hate people only see someone who is suffering but keeps going through it as heroic or whatever but the person who ends it as giving up/ taking the easy way out. That diminishes all the fight that person put into life. I think a person seriously contemplating or attempting suicide is/ has given all that they can/ could with what knowledge, support and resources they know and or available. Society just puts it on us that we haven't done all we can, we need to seek out help. But that can lead to feelings of guilt, or that it's wrong to feel this way. Which just alienates suicidal people more, and for a some brings us here.
I know how it feels to want someone to get better for their life to not be causing them this level of pain. I think that being able to make someone feel less alone feel some understanding is really important. You can hope/ want someone to recover but untimely wanting them to find/ be at peace. I think recognizing/ relating to their pain is what makes this forum so special. Its not that we want people to die, we do however know how it feels to be the person who wants to die.
People come here for a reason. Some may recover, while others may not, but it's not as though individuals just stumble upon this forum and suddenly want to ctb. They were feeling this way before they arrived, life led them here, and pain brought them to this point. Sadly, circumstances have led us to this stage. Many say that it's an easy way out but if that were the case, why isn't everyone doing it? It's not like this is something we want to do just for the heck of it. Most people here have something in their life driving them to seriously consider ctb.
People tend to get upset about suicide I understand grief, and its complexity and some believe there were many other options available, that it was a mistake or they were thinking irrationally. However, I don't think this outsider perspective is objectively true. Each person's life is a subjective experience, and for them, suicide felt like the answer. I'm not saying it's the right answer, but I can't say it's wrong either. It's a person's choice and that choice isn't made lightly.
The support we are often told to seek doesn't solve many (if not any) of the problems we face. Society views suicide as the problem, but it's everything that leads up to that moment. They see it as an issue only when it starts to affect them. But the person who ctb was suffering long before that. I don't think it's selfish because I think acting in our own interest is a part of human nature. It's understandable for someone suffering to want it to stop. It's terrible that they suffered so much that they couldn't take it anymore. But I hate people only see someone who is suffering but keeps going through it as heroic or whatever but the person who ends it as giving up/ taking the easy way out. That diminishes all the fight that person put into life. I think a person seriously contemplating or attempting suicide is/ has given all that they can/ could with what knowledge, support and resources they know and or available. Society just puts it on us that we haven't done all we can, we need to seek out help. But that can lead to feelings of guilt, or that it's wrong to feel this way. Which just alienates suicidal people more, and for a some brings us here.
I know how it feels to want someone to get better for their life to not be causing them this level of pain. I think that being able to make someone feel less alone feel some understanding is really important. You can hope/ want someone to recover but untimely wanting them to find/ be at peace. I think recognizing/ relating to their pain is what makes this forum so special. Its not that we want people to die, we do however know how it feels to be the person who wants to die.
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