My therapist gave up on me

[overthehill]

First time poster.

Long story short, I'm suicidal because I've been socially isolated for over a decade and my therapist just told me he can't help me. For the past 10 years I've been looking for help and finding none. The only thing I have left to live for is my mother and I wish I didn't have her. I love her, don't get me wrong, but her existence is what anchors me to this mortal coil. If I didn't have her I could just die, just rest and escape the pain. It's only going to get worse, I'm already too old for things to get better. I'm at that age where "people" judge you for being lonely, leading to a vicious cycle that only ends in death.

I wish I had a way out, even if that way out is death. I welcome it.

 

[Escape Artist]

That's got to be incredibly painful to hear from a therapist. I'm sorry to hear about that happening.

Welcome to the forum.

 

[overthehill]

That's got to be incredibly painful to hear from a therapist. I'm sorry to hear about that happening.

Welcome to the forum.

It's incredibly painful. It feels like the final nail in the coffin, objective confirmation that at this point suicide is the rational choice.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

The most iconic recognised form of help in this world giving up on people is like the ultimate insult to injury, I'm so sorry...

 

[Arahant]

Your therapist failed you.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I'm sorry you have to go through this. Staying alive for parents is good bc often it's not their fault and they would be the ones suffering the most if it comes to CTB of one of their children. Now, about your therapist - what can he actually do if you're socially isolated? I doubt, he can generate friends, a partner and so on. Why are you socially isolated? Is there an answer to the problem that causes you MH issues? We humans r social creatures by nature and loneliness can kill us. Ik this won't solve your issues, I wish I could help you.

 

[nattanatta]

I'm so so sorry that you had to hear something so painful and are suffering.

 

[overthehill]

I'm sorry you have to go through this. Staying alive for parents is good bc often it's not their fault and they would be the ones suffering the most if it comes to CTB of one of their children. Now, about your therapist - what can he actually do if you're socially isolated? I doubt, he can generate friends, a partner and so on. Why are you socially isolated? Is there an answer to the problem that causes you MH issues? We humans r social creatures by nature and loneliness can kill us. Ik this won't solve your issues, I wish I could help you.

I'd argue that at this point, the fact that I've been alone for 11 years is the biggest reason I'm alone. It makes you a weirdo, and society doesn't forgive men for failure. The more you fail, the more you fail so the more you fail. It's like being stuck in quicksand: the more you struggle, the faster you sink.

 

[F@#$]

I'd argue that at this point, the fact that I've been alone for 11 years is the biggest reason I'm alone. It makes you a weirdo, and society doesn't forgive men for failure. The more you fail, the more you fail so the more you fail. It's like being stuck in quicksand: the more you struggle, the faster you sink.

I'm in the same boat. Except I truly hate the majority of people I encounter. No love lost I guess.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

The more you fail, the more you fail so the more you fail. It's like being stuck in quicksand: the more you struggle, the faster you sink.

This is very well said. My situation is different to yours. I stopped fighting and I didn't sink any further for now. For me it's already rock bottom where I am but I'm sure it would go much deeper if I started to fight destiny again.

 

[RoseGarden]

therapists' skill sets vary. if yours doesn't have the ability to help you it's better to refer you to someone who can. any good therapist would offer bridge sessions as well. imo it's extremely unethical to just drop you out of the blue without any warning, referrals, or anything

 

[Steff1337]

When it comes to me, I don't want a therapist, a doctor of any kind. I just wish to die peacefully. Btw, I'm very sorry about your situation.

 

[Priestess]

Therapy is shit. I've had a similar experience. I told a therapist that I have nothing to live for because, besides being seriously ill and in poverty, I have no hobbies or friends because I've been too ill to have a social life for years. I'm 40, no spouse, no kids and nothing to live for, so why shouldn't I ctb? The therapist said she will ask other childfree, unmarried people over 40 what they live for and get back to me. The following week she told me how she'd asked every childfree unmarried person over 40 that she knows what they lived for and I could see she wasn't impressed with their responses but read them to me anyway. They were things like "I live to walk my dogs," and "I live to see casual acquaintances down the pub." Just boring, pointless cope.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

This happened to me too and the only response I keep getting is "just find another one lol" as if this entire useless profession isn't geared towards lying to oneself just to cope.