Story My girllfriend almost killed herself

[Terminated]

I had pretty much given up on life until I met this wonderful woman. I had a plan to CTB by December last year, but then I met her and things changed. We both had our problems (addiction and mental health), but we were trying to fix it. I suddenly had hope for a new life and a better life. Things were going so great for 2 months and then we both started to slip back into our addictions, and the stress caught up with us. She ended up taking a lot of benzos and cutting her wrists deep enough for her to loose over 1L of blood. I just feel so lost right now, the only person that was able to save me can't save themselves. Depending on how things go I may CTB in a while, but that's on the back burner for now.

 

[faust]

I had pretty much given up on life until I met this wonderful woman. I had a plan to CTB by December last year, but then I met her and things changed. We both had our problems (addiction and mental health), but we were trying to fix it. I suddenly had hope for a new life and a better life. Things were going so great for 2 months and then we both started to slip back into our addictions, and the stress caught up with us. She ended up taking a lot of benzos and cutting her wrists deep enough for her to loose over 1L of blood. I just feel so lost right now, the only person that was able to save me can't save themselves. Depending on how things go I may CTB in a while, but that's on the back burner for now.

It is hard when both are having the same problems. Especially when you take drugs and see the pale world after ceasing taking them.
Tbh it is often easier to help others than yourself. Don't know why.
I used to help many people to start relationships while could do nothing myself.
I gave numerous advice to people which worked for them.
But I cannot understand why that does not work for me.
Might be wrong, but you both can help each other to get out of the place you are now. Just take care of each other.

 

[Terminated]

Tbh it is often easier to help others than yourself. Don't know why.

I used to help many people to start relationships while could do nothing myself.Might be wrong, but you both can help each other to get out of the place you are now. Just take care of each other.

You are so right about helping others over yourself, the only thing I can come up with is that it's a good distraction from ones own problems.

We are trying to help each other get through this. It's just really tough right now. I think we'll be alright. If not we can always CTB together, I guess.

 

[Smashingairwaves]

I'm sorry, that's gotta be rough. I don't really know what to say, but I hope you're as okay as you can be

 

[faust]

You are so right about helping others over yourself, the only thing I can come up with is that it's a good distraction from ones own problems.

We are trying to help each other get through this. It's just really tough right now. I think we'll be alright. If not we can always CTB together, I guess.

It is worth to try again if you are unsure whether you want to stay or to go.
CTB options won't leave you anyway.

 

[HelensNepenthe]

No matter how much you try, a codependency will never resolve any of your mental health problems. Both of you will become the enabler of one's problems. We can give all of our energy to help someone (your significant other for example) while forgetting we cannot change anyone.The only person we can help is our actual selves. it is a struggle being someone's support system while dealing with your own issues. Neglecting your own mental health by channeling your focus onto other her will only makes the situation a lot harder for you. It'll numb whatever turmoil is causing your problems, and when the problems occur again, it'll only be a bigger bite than the one previously.

 

[Terminated]

No matter how much you try, a codependency will never resolve any of your mental health problems. Both of you will become the enabler of one's problems. We can give all of our energy to help someone (your significant other for example) while forgetting we cannot change anyone.The only person we can help is our actual selves. it is a struggle being someone's support system while dealing with your own issues. Neglecting your own mental health by channeling your focus onto other her will only makes the situation a lot harder for you. It'll numb whatever turmoil is causing your problems, and when the problems occur again, it'll only be a bigger bite than the one previously.

You're not wrong. I know I'm using her problems as a distraction at the moment. My shit's only been getting worse as a result. We've already spoken about helping ourselves first. But the best laid plans often go awry.

 

[Isittimetogonola]

As someone who has always puts others first, she still may be that person that saves you. When I am alone, my demons tend to strengthen their grip. Even though when I face myself I see emptiness, I would and still do give everything to be there for the people I love. Stand beside her now. Tell her you are there. It is your turn to help even if it takes every ounce of energy. She will be there for you. Feel free to PM.

 

[I screwed up]

I will pray for the both of you. U have to be each others strength and support. Be strong brother.

 

[oopswronglife]

It's normal for people like us to gravitate toward others like us. They are often the only ones who care to understand or will bother. This naturally results in pain when you lose them. I've gone on and off of forums after losing people just online and it's bad enough. Losing them irl is devastating to a greater degree. Life often seems "no win".