Venting My fucked up life

[Csmith8827]

I hate people who make assumptions about people. So like, i was exposed to "gay" pornography at like 12 years old but i don't identify as gay. I still very much love and find women attractive. I'm 31 now. I'd totally fall in love with and even marry the right woman. People try to label me as gay or argue that i'm not straight and it really just upsets me and pisses me off. I had numerous underrage encounters with men and terrible traumatizing experiences as i got older. Its just terrible to even think about. Yet i'm mocked, jeered at, invalidated etc. On a daily basis about how i truly feel deep inside. It's fucked up. I just wish someone understood where i'm coming from and respected my feels. Thanks for being here and listening. At least I can vocalize my soul's voice here and not have it obliterated and destroyed or extinguished entirely.

 

[Jean4]

In today's society, it is more acceptable to consider oneself ACE, Genderqueer or a million other terms I can't remember.

Fall in love with whoever you want to and don't care what strangers think. I don't care if you love a male, female, hermaphodite, black, white, or purple. Any love is good love.

Be true to yourself. Strangers don't matter.

 

[Final Escape]

Just because you were victimized in childhood and it turned u on to men does not mean u are gay. I mean the exposure in the early years messes with your normal development. You might have some predisposition toward homosexuality but it still does not make u automatically gay even if u have had sex with guys and even enjoyed it. The fact that u have a desire to find a woman pretty much tells me that it's trauma related conflict. You would benefit from therapy if u can access it. Some men really are strictly into men and there's no confusion about it, or longing to be in a relationship with a woman. This is one reason sexual abuse on children is so damaging. It can alter your normal development and preference. It's like they took the choice away from u to form normal development.

 

[Kaczka86]

I don't like this labeling...gay, straight, and whoever there is. Can't we just say that we like people and find people attractive? Without trying to push everyone in small boxes?

Guessing is not wrong. People are curious by nature and that's how it is, but the problem starts when they try to argue with YOU about who YOU are. Do you live someone's life that you know it better than them?

I feel bad you met this kind of people. Hope there will be less of them.

 

[Jean4]

I don't like this labeling...gay, straight, and whoever there is. Can't we just say that we like people and find people attractive? Without trying to push everyone in small boxes?

Guessing is not wrong. People are curious by nature and that's how it is, but the problem starts when they try to argue with YOU about who YOU are. Do you live someone's life that you know it better than them?

I feel bad you met this kind of people. Hope there will be less of them.

Exactly. They are just words made up by humans.