My experience when it comes to sharing your problems with others...

[Still here]

I've come to realize that sharing your problems with others at least for me, is a bad idea.. Most pple out there do not have your best interest at heart, sharing your problems with em will only make you vulnerable. They will start looking down on you, shame you and spread gossip about your struggle..The best course of action is to just close your mouth and keep your problems to yourself..also telling others about your woes will only stroke their egos coz they'll feel that they are better than you... What we don't realize is that most pple we deem as friends are enemies in disguise the so called freienemies.

This reminds me of 2 sayings I came across recently..

1.Dont tell your problems to others 80%are glad that you have them and 20% don't give a crap about your problems.
2.Life is a lot better when they know nothing about you..

 

[Cosmophobic]

Schadenfreude

There's psychological power games going on all the time in human interaction. Everyone experiences schadenfreude. Your loss of power makes me feel more secure in mine. Being aware of it is good but it doesn't erase the initial satisfaction in anothers failure. I have low self esteem so I really notice that initial satisfaction. Then I'll feel guilty and try to rectify it by putting myself down or raising the other person up. This happens to me IRL not so much online where we have more time to think about what we say.

It is good to be careful about what you reveal and to whom. Don't bear your heart to a stranger. Take note of how different friends react to something undesirable befalling you, even something like telling them you're depressed. Some people are bad at hiding their schadenfreude. Bad at noticing it and redirecting it in themselves. You'll know not to be open with those people again.

 

[Still here]

Schadenfreude

There's psychological power games going on all the time in human interaction. Everyone experiences schadenfreude. Your loss of power makes me feel more secure in mine. Being aware of it is good but it doesn't erase the initial satisfaction in anothers failure. I have low self esteem so I really notice that initial satisfaction. Then I'll feel guilty and try to rectify it by putting myself down or raising the other person up. This happens to me IRL not so much online where we have more time to think about what we say.

It is good to be careful about what you reveal and to whom. Don't bear your heart to a stranger. Take note of how different friends react to something undesirable befalling you, even something like telling them you're depressed. Some people are bad at hiding their schadenfreude. Bad at noticing it and redirecting it in themselves. You'll know not to be open with those people again.

Schadenfreude that's it....EXPERIENCING JOY FROM THE MISFORTUNE OF OTHERS..... So true.