Venting My ex is fully traumatized

[IHurtTheOneILove]

They have non stop been texting me about how me cheating on them is the single most traumatic event of their life and that they'll never heal from this and that this has permanently ruined their self esteem.

Knowing I am capable of bringing this much hurt into someones life makes me feel like I need to CTB. I've told people what theyre telling me and I've heard people say my ex is "just being dramatic" but I know it's genuine pain. I arguably know my ex better than anyone and I know how real this pain is for them.

I'm ready to end it soon guys. Hoping for a peaceful exit by January. I just hate how much worse this may make things for my ex.

They keep texting me all the sorrow and heartache and misery they're experiencing and I hate that in a month that's gonna be tenfold.

 

[UKscotty]

They will get over it and forget about it in time.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I think you should block them. It sounds like they trying to guilt trip you and make you feel like a monster. Based on your post they seem to be pretty toxic and I think that cutting off contact with them is probably for the best.

 

[Groundhog_Day]

I think you should block them. It sounds like they trying to guilt trip you and make you feel like a monster. Based on your post they seem to be pretty toxic and I think that cutting off contact with them is probably for the best.

This seems like the best course of action. It's dangerous to hand over your own happiness to anyone other than yourself.

 

[Little_Suzy]

You cheated, and you are the victim! Nah!

You can't stop telling people she texts "her pain" to you.

Stop attempting to get everyone to trauma bond with you. It's creepy! lol

Block her. Send her $1,000. She needs to start healing.

 

[Groundhog_Day]

As far as I can tell, you didn't commit a crime here. You kissed another person and asked for nudes, yeah not great, but you don't exactly need to go jail for it.

It sounds like your ex will never forgive you for it, and obviously that is hard for you to accept. But accepting that, and moving on, seems like your best option. If you keep in contact with her, and put your happiness in her hands, it sounds like she will try to destroy you out of anger and resentment.

 

[IHurtTheOneILove]

You cheated, and you are the victim! Nah!

You can't stop telling people she texts "her pain" to you.

Stop attempting to get everyone to trauma bond with you. It's creepy! lol

Block her. Send her $1,000. She needs to start healing.

Sorry if I'm making it seem like I'm the victim, I'm fully aware that I'm not lol. I just have genuinely no one else to talk to about this so I'm constantly posting on here. I'm also a little slow and dont know what trauma bond means.

Also I was already considering sending my ex all of my money once I CTB so not worst idea!