My dad claims he loved me but he's a sack of shit

[TheLastSacrifice]

I actually want him to find the body. I hate him

 

[ghostspace]

We should have a Bad Dads club. I want to scream at mine and shake him, but can't because I am a small woman.

 

[noaccount]

I believe you. A lot of people have a warped concept of love that they justify controlling other people with. You deserve people to see you and support you as you are.

 

[disabledandhopeless]

I like how you describe him as a sack of shit...

 

[Despondent]

We should have a Bad Dads club. I want to scream at mine and shake him, but can't because I am a small woman.

Agreed. My "father's" a deadbeat lmao. I absolutely hate his guts.

 

[ghostspace]

Agreed. My "father's" a deadbeat lmao. I absolutely hate his guts.

Should I make a separate thread? Where we can all get out our emotions about being born to irresponsible and horrible people?

 

[Despondent]

Should I make a separate thread? Where we can all get out our emotions about being born to irresponsible and horrible people?

Hell yeah!!

 

[ghostspace]

Hell yeah!!

it is done. Bad Dads club in the suicide forum

 

[Mizzmini45]

I believe you. A lot of people have a warped concept of love that they justify controlling other people with. You deserve people to see you and support you as you are.

It's control

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

Looks like I started something. Cool. My dad was never abusive. He told me he loves me. It's something else.

 

[Throwmyselfaway]

My dad is the reason for my ptsd and I haven't spoken to him in over 6 months because I'm a fucking disappointment

 

[keiichidono]

I wish my dad didn't abandon me so I could make him see my corpse and regret not loving me.

 

[Inferdan]

Joining the #BadDadClub.

He's such a hypocritical, lying asshole who's mind must be twisted to believe that EVERYTHING he does is right, even when our family is telling him to stop and that he's hurting us. He does whatever he wants, and anything that happens, because of him or not, it's my fault. Always. He's sick, but he doesn't want to get himself checked, because I'M the problem, not him. He is perfect. Telling any of my friends he meets everything I do wrong, while stretching and adding things...I lost friends because of him, and those people I lost are a part of my everyday regrets now. I hate him. And he says he wants to be ok with me, when he consistently says I'm arrogant and selfish and filled with pride that I always adhere to. Fuck him. Wish I could make him suffer like he did to me as a child. It was only physical when he provoked me enough that I lost control. The trauma is still with me, and is probably one of the main reasons that I'm indecisive of living or dying. I hate him. I hate him. I hate him so so much.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Joining the #BadDadClub.

He's such a hypocritical, lying asshole who's mind must be twisted to believe that EVERYTHING he does is right, even when our family is telling him to stop and that he's hurting us. He does whatever he wants, and anything that happens, because of him or not, it's my fault. Always. He's sick, but he doesn't want to get himself checked, because I'M the problem, not him. He is perfect. Telling any of my friends he meets everything I do wrong, while stretching and adding things...I lost friends because of him, and those people I lost are a part of my everyday regrets now. I hate him. And he says he wants to be ok with me, when he consistently says I'm arrogant and selfish and filled with pride that I always adhere to. Fuck him. Wish I could make him suffer like he did to me as a child. It was only physical when he provoked me enough that I lost control. The trauma is still with me, and is probably one of the main reasons that I'm indecisive of living or dying. I hate him. I hate him. I hate him so so much.

For decades I felt such strong love and hate for my mother. Around the of 30, I had a therapist tell me that it's not the norm for a child to feel such intense emotions for a parent, and that the abuse caused it. A child from a healthy environment loves their parents but breaks away to become independent. That info helped me a lot, kind of like CBT, it didn't heal the trauma, but the perspective eased it up a bit and gave me some power.