my best friend just lost a close friend to suicide. is this a bad time to kill myself?

[vk1699]

Title says it. I had plans but now I'm wondering if I should go through with it or wait. or is grieving a two birds, one stone type of thing?

I'm trying to be there for him but he won't talk to me and I'm completely useless, he's better off without me around.

 

[AnxietyAttack44]

Im not sure what to say. We cant live for others entire life, but its hard to leave them alone. There will be memories for each person lost, no matter time span of their death. Talking from personal expirience. If person is not suicidal they might even recover through years. Do think this through though

 

[vk1699]

Im not sure what to say. We cant live for others entire life, but its hard to leave them alone. There will be memories for each person lost, no matter time span of their death. Talking from personal expirience. If person is not suicidal they might even recover through years. Do think this through though

I honestly don't think there's any good options. CTB now could make the pain worse but CTB later on could prolong it. But I've been staying alive for my friends for a really long time and things aren't getting better. I don't want to wait any longer than I have to.

 

[4giveme]

I understand where your coming from. I think you just have to think about yourself and in the long run what will make you happier! My friends and family will be devastated when I go and it breaks my heart leaving them in pain but all my life I've never put myself first, so I'm being selfish and I've made peace that I will CTB asap and before I go I will make sure everyone close to me knows that I will no longer be in pain but instead happy and at peace.

I plan to go some where so remote where no one will find me, and before I ctb I will call all of those close to me just to give them a bit of closure and understanding and to also say goodbye and that I'm sorry and thank them for being important in my life!

 

[ebt88]

I think it's better now than later. Instead of doing it when he gets better

 

[I screwed up]

It may sound selfish but I think u need to think abt urself first. Nothing else matters but ur peace of mind. So do it when u r ready. IMO ur friend will be fine eventually

 

[Jean Améry]

Obviously I don't know him but I would think your CTB now would make life even harder for him yes. Of course he'll likely grieve a lot if he loses his best friend no matter when it happens.

I think it's commendable that you're considering your best friend's well-being. I think anyone who stays alive for others inspite of grave personal suffering deserves much respect.

If you were to CTB I would write him a letter and mention how long you've been hanging on for his and others' sake.

 

[Bct]

I don't have any advice whether you should stay alive or not. At least if you decide to CTB soon, I think it's better to send him a message or letter that states it's not his fault that you're going to CTB. Hopefully it will minimize the impact & guilt on him.

 

[_Alfarooq_]

Title says it. I had plans but now I'm wondering if I should go through with it or wait. or is grieving a two birds, one stone type of thing?

I'm trying to be there for him but he won't talk to me and I'm completely useless, he's better off without me around.

If he's better off without you around, then he wont care if you CTB. If he won't talk to you but he's grieving his close friend's loss, this shows he dosen't care about your existence. Don't worry about him and CTB if you want to because It does'nt look like he will care.

 

[pictures]

i dont think thats the wrong time to ctb i think its reasonable to ctb around this time people wont care they'll think its just a add on

 

[NoHorizon]

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