Missing persons...

[Farmmaa]

This has bothered me for a lot of years now - whenever I see those missing person posts in the news or social media that say so and so hasn't been heard from in 12 hours, etc. I've thought about it a lot because honestly, I have no idea how long it would take before someone actually clued in that I might be 'missing'. I could have a stroke, heart attack or accident and be lying here for weeks before anyone would start to think something is wrong.
My kids can go weeks, or more without calling or texting me. My dad is really bad at keeping in touch unless you contact him first. I'm off work for the season, so I wouldn't be missed at work... and even when I am there, I work my own time schedule, so it could be 3 or 4 days before anyone really took notice. No one there would know who to contact anyhow.

My family all know that I'm struggling financially, that I'm depressed and having a hard time dealing with the loss of my brother.... they all know.
I have stopped posting on social media for well over a month and none of them has even noticed my absence.
My one daughter, who is an ER nurse, texts now and then to see if I've gone to get help yet.

I know my kids love me, but they are adults and have busy lives of their own.

It's pathetic to realize that I could very well be laying dead in the bush for weeks before anyone would even suspect that I was missing.
( unless of course it was when rent or utility bills were due, then my landlord would be looking for me )

How long would it be before anyone would start to worry about your well being or whereabouts ??

 

[fightingsioux]

This has bothered me for a lot of years now - whenever I see those missing person posts in the news or social media that say so and so hasn't been heard from in 12 hours, etc. I've thought about it a lot because honestly, I have no idea how long it would take before someone actually clued in that I might be 'missing'. I could have a stroke, heart attack or accident and be lying here for weeks before anyone would start to think something is wrong.
My kids can go weeks, or more without calling or texting me. My dad is really bad at keeping in touch unless you contact him first. I'm off work for the season, so I wouldn't be missed at work... and even when I am there, I work my own time schedule, so it could be 3 or 4 days before anyone really took notice. No one there would know who to contact anyhow.

My family all know that I'm struggling financially, that I'm depressed and having a hard time dealing with the loss of my brother.... they all know.
I have stopped posting on social media for well over a month and none of them has even noticed my absence.
My one daughter, who is an ER nurse, texts now and then to see if I've gone to get help yet.

I know my kids love me, but they are adults and have busy lives of their own.

It's pathetic to realize that I could very well be laying dead in the bush for weeks before anyone would even suspect that I was missing.
( unless of course it was when rent or utility bills were due, then my landlord would be looking for me )

How long would it be before anyone would start to worry about your well being or whereabouts ??

I really hear you, brother. I've got the same situation, I think that it's more prevalent with older people but I could be wrong.

I live in a small apartment in a large Midwestern city. I honestly believe that if I keeled over tonight, stone cold dead, I'd lay there many days, maybe weeks, until the smell finally pervaded the neighboring apartments.

This thought bothered me so much that last year I signed up with a free service that the city offers, Lifecall. Every morning at 9 a computer program calls me, I just have to enter 9 and that's it. If I don't answer, they call back in 10 minutes. If I don't answer then, they call the paramedics.

Pretty pathetic, eh?

 

[Grandexit]

Other than my mother, not one single person on this entire shitting planet. I would be found when my house was repossessed or if thieves broke in or something. I think I read about a woman in England who was on public benefits and had things set up on auto-pay, she was dead on her sofa for years.

 

[Farmmaa]

I really hear you, brother. I've got the same situation, I think that it's more prevalent with older people but I could be wrong.

I live in a small apartment in a large Midwestern city. I honestly believe that if I keeled over tonight, stone cold dead, I'd lay there many days, maybe weeks, until the smell finally pervaded the neighboring apartments.

This thought bothered me so much that last year I signed up with a free service that the city offers, Lifecall. Every morning at 9 a computer program calls me, I just have to enter 9 and that's it. If I don't answer, they call back in 10 minutes. If I don't answer then, they call the paramedics.

Pretty pathetic, eh?

Sister

I'm in a house, on a farm... so I'd get pretty funky before anyone ever caught a whiff .

I used to worry about my dog being locked up with my dead body... but I lost her in August, so no one to worry about now.
It's just a sad thought is all.

 

[fightingsioux]

Sister

I'm in a house, on a farm... so I'd get pretty funky before anyone ever caught a whiff .

I used to worry about my dog being locked up with my dead body... but I lost her in August, so no one to worry about now.
It's just a sad thought is all.

Oops, sorry about that sister! Well, if you feel some fatal attack coming on, make sure with your last breath you drag yourself outside!

 

[Farmmaa]

reported.

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[fightingsioux]

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OMG, I think that she deleted her post to you.Did you report it?

 

[Blue Moon]

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I couldn't make heads or tails of what they were upset about. Hope they feel better.

 

[AnnaJaspers]

OMG, I think that she deleted her post to you.Did you report it?

I thinnk you are a creep

 

[Blue Moon]

I thinnk you are a creep

We're all friends here. If you have a problem with something someone says it's better to explain yourself calmly than blow up on them. Otherwise it helps no one.

 

[Farmmaa]

I thinnk you are a creep

I have no idea what your problem is, but your posts are inappropriate.

 

[Farmmaa]

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Not so. I will try to proove otherwise tomorrow. GN

No need to.
This isn't the place to air personal grievances.


Please feel free to contribute appropriately to the conversation though

 

[AnnaJaspers]

No need to.
This isn't the place to air personal grievances.


Please feel free to contribute appropriately to the conversation though

I'll leave that up to you.

 

[fightingsioux]

I have no idea what your problem is, but your posts are inappropriate.

Please report both the current post and the F bomb post.

 

[waterbottleman]

I'm ctbing in a hotel specifically because if I ctbed in my apartment I worry how long it would be before any notices that im dead.

Also I think my landlords are nice people so I don't want them to have to deal with the aftermath.

when I ctb in the hotel room I'm just going to print a piece of paper beforehand telling the cleaning lady to call 911, so hopefully I won't traumatize some innocent hotel worker from seeing my dead body.

I have a decent amount of money and I'm thinking about buying a couple of iPads for the EMTs/police who come to my hotel as Christmas gifts with a note apologizing about my suicide. What do yall think of that? One last good deed I can do before Im gone.

 

[Farmmaa]

I'm ctbing in a hotel specifically because if I ctbed in my apartment I worry how long it would be before any notices that im dead.

Also I think my landlords are nice people so I don't want them to have to deal with the aftermath.

when I ctb in the hotel room I'm just going to print a piece of paper beforehand telling the cleaning lady to call 911, so hopefully I won't traumatize some innocent hotel worker from seeing my dead body.

I have a decent amount of money and I'm thinking about buying a couple of iPads for the EMTs/police who come to my hotel as Christmas gifts with a note apologizing about my suicide. What do yall think of that? One last good deed I can do before Im gone.

I don't want anyone I know to find me either, it's not really fair to friends and family.
I'm going to drive way up into the mountains and find a logging road and then hike for a while first. That way if someone does spot my vehicle, it still gives me time to die before they find me.

 

[fightingsioux]

I apologize to the others on this thread. There's a person on the website who's stalking me. I honestly don't know what her problem is, I think she may be having some sort of breakdown. I've reported her to the mods a few times, something has to be done.

 

[Farmmaa]

I apologize to the others on this thread. There's a person on the website who's stalking me. I honestly don't know what her problem is, I think she may be having some sort of breakdown. I've reported her to the mods a few times, something has to be done.

All good - looks like she's gone

 

[waterbottleman]

I apologize to the others on this thread. There's a person on the website who's stalking me. I honestly don't know what her problem is, I think she may be having some sort of breakdown. I've reported her to the mods a few times, something has to be done.

Not your fault =)

looks like the person got banned, her name is crossed out.

i hope she isn't having some sort of mental breakdown or something, but that was quite strange. Kept calling you names completely out of the blue.

Hope there's nothing wrong with her......well I mean there's something wrong with all our lives that's why we're here but I'm sure readers know what I mean.

 

[fightingsioux]

All good - looks like she's gone

I must have said something somewhere in the past week or so that set her off. She's stalking me on every thread I participate in. Nasty, often obscene posts like the one you saw, then deleted. It's certainly disruptive to a civilized, friendly conversation, isn't it.

 

[waterbottleman]

I must have said something somewhere in the past week or so that set her off. She's stalking me on every thread I participate in. Nasty, often obscene posts like the one you saw, then deleted. It's certainly disruptive to a civilized, friendly conversation, isn't it.

i feel bad for her, hope she gets help.

Maybe she just wants attention or something idk? Not saying that passive aggressively to shame her btw, I know what it's like to be lonely and want attention. In fact one of the 2 big reasons why I'm suicidal is because I'm lonel.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

Not your fault =)

looks like the person got banned, her name is crossed out.

i hope she isn't having some sort of mental breakdown or something, but that was quite strange. Kept calling you names completely out of the blue.

Hope there's nothing wrong with her......well I mean there's something wrong with all our lives that's why we're here but I'm sure readers know what I mean.

Some of us are more ill than others. I have borderline PD, and when my illness gets ahead of me, it ain't pretty!

 

[waterbottleman]

Some of us are more ill than others. I have borderline PD, and when my illness gets ahead of me, it ain't pretty!

Damn that sucks, sorry to hear that =(

mental illnesses really blow.

im autistic, have depression and anxiety. Could be worse though honestly because I can hide my mental illnesses easily and fool others to think Im a normal and healthy functioning person. In reality though I'm totally dead on the inside from years of rejection and lonelines. Also my depression has consumed me to the point that my Life has no purpose at all and I derive no pleasure/enjoyment from just about anything anymore.

Could be worse but being dead sounds like a better alternative to me.

 

[Blue Moon]

Could be worse but being dead sounds like a better alternative to me.

I used to never find the thought of me dying to be particularly frightening. As an atheist I reasoned out that since being dead is nothing it shouldn't be scary at all. But now that I'm seriously considering suicide it's a lot more scary to think about.

 

[fightingsioux]

I used to never find the thought of me dying to be particularly frightening. As an atheist I reasoned out that since being dead is nothing it shouldn't be scary at all. But now that I'm seriously considering suicide it's a lot more scary to think about.

I'm a long-time atheist, over 50 years. I like to say that I'm a devout atheist.

Have very little patience with all the goodbye threads wishing the person a safe journey (where do they think he's going?) or vowing to see them on the other side (the other side? You're kidding , right).

I'm not considering suicide, I'm doing it this March. Don't have the slightest fear, truthfully. Many regrets about things I've done or not done in my life, but no fear.

I'm not journeying or traveling or floating on angel's wings to some never-never land, I'm going to die. Die dead. Permanently. Just like a horse, a dog, a worm, a protozoa. Cessation of all chemical and electrical processes in the body.

I've always thought that all the world's talk and obsession with heaven, some irrational afterlife, is simply the fear of death. We can't really imagine being DEAD, so we invent something that sounds nicer.

End of rant.

 

[NitriteAnatomy]

For the discussion, I've not really thought of it, because I really don't expect anyone to look for me at all. No one in my personal life cares enough to check on me at any point, so I figure I'd actually just vanish without much fanfare

@fightingsioux Looks like what you were going through got handled. I was napping for a few hours and just woke up, logged in and saw the chaos. Do hope your night/day is going better.

 

[Blue Moon]

Have very little patience with all the goodbye threads wishing the person a safe journey (where do they think he's going?) or vowing to see them on the other side (the other side? You're kidding , right).

I've read a lot of the good bye threads and I took what people were saying just to be nice things to say. I don't think many people here actually believe in an afterlife. If someone says something like "safe journey" I took it to mean "I hope your transition to nothingness is pleasant".

I'm very ardently atheist as well, ever since fifth grade. I went through an angsty atheist phase in my teenage years when I would watch all kinds of videos online and try and debate everyone lol.

 

[Farmmaa]

I've read a lot of the good bye threads and I took what people were saying just to be nice things to say. I don't think many people here actually believe in an afterlife. If someone says something like "safe journey" I took it to mean "I hope your transition to nothingness is pleasant".

I'm very ardently atheist as well, ever since fifth grade. I went through an angsty atheist phase in my teenage years when I would watch all kinds of videos online and try and debate everyone lol.

I'm with you on that... atheist here as well, for as long as I can remember but I can see why people wish those leaving 'safe travels:, hope you find peace, etc. Wishing someone a peaceful passing doesn't translate to religious beliefs.
See you on the other side... I'm not sure if many really believe they will, or that there is another side, but it's just a comforting sentiment.

There better not be another side - because I swear, if I have to spend all eternity with my mother... lord help me !!

For the discussion, I've not really thought of it, because I really don't expect anyone to look for me at all. No one in my personal life cares enough to check on me at any point, so I figure I'd actually just vanish without much fanfare

It's kind of pathetic isn't it.
These missing person reports always say - family and friends haven't heard from them for two days and are concerned.
Two days ??!!!!

Is that normal ? Do most people talk to family and friends regularly every few days ???

 

[noctiva]

To participate to the topic: my partner hasn't checked on me for 2+ months, if I don't reach out, he doesn't do anything. I'm on sick leave since mid November until end of December, so work won't miss me. I have one friend who messages one a week, but she won't do anything if I don't reply for at least a week either.
The first person to miss me will be the bank when I don't pay my loan anymore. I have enough savings that that won't be before April/ May. This is a cold country, I might not even smell enough for neighbours to notice until then.
I'm already dead, inside and socially, I just need to drive that point home to my body still.

 

[jgm63]

I'm a long-time atheist, over 50 years. I like to say that I'm a devout atheist.

Have very little patience with all the goodbye threads wishing the person a safe journey (where do they think he's going?) or vowing to see them on the other side (the other side? You're kidding , right).

I'm not considering suicide, I'm doing it this March. Don't have the slightest fear, truthfully. Many regrets about things I've done or not done in my life, but no fear.

I'm not journeying or traveling or floating on angel's wings to some never-never land, I'm going to die. Die dead. Permanently. Just like a horse, a dog, a worm, a protozoa. Cessation of all chemical and electrical processes in the body.

I've always thought that all the world's talk and obsession with heaven, some irrational afterlife, is simply the fear of death. We can't really imagine being DEAD, so we invent something that sounds nicer.

End of rant.

Just so you know, your post comes across in a somewhat insulting way to those that have beliefs that differ from your own.....
You seem to have a certain intellectual arrogance.

I've read a lot of the good bye threads and I took what people were saying just to be nice things to say. I don't think many people here actually believe in an afterlife. If someone says something like "safe journey" I took it to mean "I hope your transition to nothingness is pleasant".

I'm very ardently atheist as well, ever since fifth grade. I went through an angsty atheist phase in my teenage years when I would watch all kinds of videos online and try and debate everyone lol.

There are plenty of people who believe in an afterlife....