Venting might get an escort

[lamargue]

i have come to realize very recently that i fear women. it is not the kind of edgy incel-esque fear that you see on a lot of social media platforms, nor veiled repulsion, but a flight response which is in no way proportionate to the stimulus. there was a certain dating app which caused me to delete my account upon matching with someone fairly attractive. it is partly the fact that i feel that i simply cannot relate to women fundamentally on any kind of level whatsoever. my niches are too niche, and my more general niches i am not sufficiently capable of building a relationship with. so girls that are completely normal terrify me to no end. i sound like such a fucking loser but this is how i feel. there are other reasons why i want to die but this is partially one of them.

so i thought to get an escort so that my fear may be reduced. the transactional nature of relationships has still made me doubt that i would be all that comfortable, as if i wouldn't be able to give even an escort enough, or lest make them feel uncomfortable. there is a vain part of me that acknowledges that there are many worse looking clients, but i chalk up opportune sexual exchanges to personality and conduct: the problem for me isn't with lookism -- since i am a part of that culture -- but with a radical misalignment in values and an inadequacy with social situations which has lead to my continued isolation.

dad says that all my problems would be solved if i just had a girlfriend, so maybe this is partially a means of achieving that end. has anyone gotten an escort before? is there a kind of protocol that i need to be aware of?

 

[Not A Fan]

Girlfriend won't solve all your problems. You'll just have different problems, lol.

There's nothing wrong with hiring an escort. I suggest checking out the guides at the r/SexWorkers reddit page. They're also just really cool people over there and can help you out if you have other questions after reading the guide. It should answer most of your questions about protocol. Good luck!

 

[lamargue]

Girlfriend won't solve all your problems. You'll just have different problems, lol.

There's nothing wrong with hiring an escort. I suggest checking out the guides at the r/SexWorkers reddit page. They're also just really cool people over there and can help you out if you have other questions after reading the guide. It should answer most of your questions about protocol. Good luck!

i don't think it will solve my problems. but it may alleviate them to a degree. i don't want to be fixed, but just to see why others put so much weight on relationships. it's something i haven't been able to comprehend, which is in part due to my libido

also ty i will check this out

 

[Not A Fan]

Here's the thing, you could also be on the flip-side... trapped in a horrible relationship that you cant get out of, making your life hell. Not that I'm saying that's what would happen. But just think of all the unhappy married couples out there, and consider that being single might be a gift. It could be better with a girlfriend, or it could be worse... just statistically speaking, the incidence of unhappy relationships is very high probability.

I have been in relationships. Only good ones. I've spent more time single, however, because I would never 'settle' for a mediocre situation out desperation. That is a great way to get yourself even more screwed up.

One thing, though... escorts ain't cheap. It's a rich man's game.

but just to see why others put so much weight on relationships. i

Because they can't think for themselves and it's what society tells you to do. And probably they watch too many movies.

 

[lamargue]

Here's the thing, you could also be on the flip-side... trapped in a horrible relationship that you can get out, making your life hell. Not that I'm saying that's what would happen. But just think of all the unhappy married couples out there, and consider that being single might be a gift. It could be better with a girlfriend, or it could be worse... just statistically speaking, the incidence of unhappy relationships is very high probability.

I have been in relationships. Only good ones. I've spent more time single, however, because I would never 'settle' for a mediocre situation out desperation. That is a great way to get yourself even more screwed up.

One thing, though... escorts ain't cheap. It's a rich man's game.

i only really want one night so i'm willing to spend upwards of $400.

i'm still a bit of a romantic at heart, though i understand that a lot of relationships do not end well (i've witnessed a fair share of them). but it seems so invaluable, such that missing being part of something like that would be to make your way through life blind.

i don't want to settle, either. just want to experience something that many consider to be pivotal to a good life (for normal people, not philosophers).

 

[Not A Fan]

i only really want one night so i'm willing to spend upwards of $400.

i'm still a bit of a romantic at heart, though i understand that a lot of relationships do not end well (i've witnessed a fair share of them). but it seems so invaluable, such that missing being part of something like that would be to make your way through life blind.

i don't want to settle, either. just want to experience something that many consider to be pivotal to a good life (for normal people, not philosophers).

I feel you. It's definitely something you should experience, and if you're lucky (and have good judgement) then it can definitely be awesome. I heard dating is really horrible apparently these days, I have no idea.. I just remember using OkCupid years ago and I met some cool girls on there... and I'm probably in just as much of a niche as you are lol.

Not sure if that site's even still around. All I hear about anymore is Tinder which sounds awful, totally not my aesthetic at all.. it's just.. in bad taste, lol. Not something I would be interested in, if I was trying to meet a long-term partner.

 

[avoid]

Escorts range from sex workers to someone keeping you company. If you want to be physically close with a woman without necessarily needing a sexual element then you can consider getting a professional cuddler. However, finding a (professional) cuddler may be harder than finding a sex worker (or escort in general) because there are fewer of them. Alternatively, sex workers can cuddle too.

I don't know what you're seeking exactly. I just wanted to let you know that this cuddle service exists in case you might be interested.

 

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[Lady Laudanum]

If your budget is $400, you'll probably be able to go for an hour at most in North America. I don't know what rates are like in other parts of the world.

I think that as long as you're respectful and the things you want are reasonable as well as within the boundaries set by the escort, you'll be fine.