Making friends as a sex repulsed anti sex woman

[hellonearth144]

With a phobia of certain sex acts 99% of other women perform is so hard bc I CANT be friends with women who have sex or engage in relationships with men. We are on different state and level of consciousness. Its so hard and I feel lonely, I had a friend who was like-minded but she ghosted me without a word. I told her everything and she was also sex repulsed.
I want to only make friends with women like me but they are so rare.
I just want a female soulmate so bad. But I won't get along with normies. It's making me suicidal bc I'm just on another scale of difference

 

[martyrdom]

Look for radical feminist, female separatist & 4B women. There's large communities of them

 

[hellonearth144]

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Look for radical feminist, female separatist & 4B women. There's large communities of them

Im banned from their spaces. And they don't allow friend finder posts or don't allow any post where I ask how to make like-minded friends. They only talk about men endlessly

 

[anonymousperson]

Join some asexual groups! I also am repulsed by sex. My town has asexual local groups on both facebook and meetup websites. You may meet some friends if you go.

 

[hellonearth144]

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Im banned from their spaces. And they don't allow friend finder posts or don't allow any post where I ask how to make like-minded friends. They only talk about men endlessly

I meet my friend who ghosted me in a similar community and I keep trying but failing to meet more.

 

[hellonearth144]

Join some asexual groups! I also am repulsed by sex. My town has asexual local groups on both facebook and meetup websites. You may meet some friends if you go.

I feel like /im scared they still won't accept me bc I'm a blackpilled woman and they tend to be older while I'm looking for gen z and silly people young at heart and not normies.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Do you want to be able to discuss your disgust of sex acts with them or, are you happy to just talk about other interests? Maybe you could look to discuss interests with people but make it clear from the start, you aren't comfortable talking about sexuality.

It might be tricky to find others with exactly the same views you hold but, it may be possible to just avoid certain subjects with them.

 

[ih34rty0u]

i kinda get how you feel, im a lesbian and a radical/socialist feminist and im honestly just so tired that lots of women only talk about men/sexual relationships :((

 

[Dejected 55]

I'm not asexual, but I understand where you are coming from. I have very little experience with women, and no relationship experience at all. I really wish I had a relationship, though... which is different from your situation.

However, where I share your experience is with other people... In the workplace or social outings, most people talk about their dating their families, kids, partners, whatever... doesn't matter if they don't get explicit... I have nothing to add to those conversations and I don't really want to be around them when they are happening.

I used to have people invite me to their house for Thanksgiving, and I had to try and explain how me being alone and depressed isn't at all remedied by going to someone else's home and being around them and their family... immersing myself in other people's happiness (or at least perceived so) is a horrible reminder of all that I don't have.

Being friends with someone who is married or has a partner... just doesn't work for me. Not enough in common for the basis of a friendship and nothing but misery abounding around me and all I want to do is run away.

So, while we are different... I'm closer to where you are than where most everyone else is... and it absolutely is difficult, near impossible from my perspective, to find like-minded people. I wish I had a better answer than to just echo that I understand and empathize.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

... I used to have people invite me to their house for Thanksgiving, and I had to try and explain how me being alone and depressed isn't at all remedied by going to someone else's home and being around them and their family... immersing myself in other people's happiness (or at least perceived so) is a horrible reminder of all that I don't have. ...

Agreed. They mean well, but it's kind of ridiculous.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

With a phobia of certain sex acts 99% of other women perform is so hard bc I CANT be friends with women who have sex or engage in relationships with men. We are on different state and level of consciousness.

I don't mean to offend, but this sounds like OCD/moral OCD or something to me. I'm curious to know what you think most female friendships are based on. Sex is not a subject that I've discussed with the women I was closest to throughout my life. There are just so many other interesting things to talk about. Also, does this mean you "can't" have relationships with any female relatives? You just reject & avoid your mother, grandmother, female siblings, cousins, nieces, etc, because they're not sex repulsed?