Love

[porfin1234]

Just for shits and giggles. I was wondering what you guys think about this quote...


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[pole]

i can see where it's coming from. you have to love yourself to really be able to truly love anyone. if you're solely dependent on love from someone else, that doesn't change the fact that you're still as empty as ever because you can't love yourself. you'll be in love or reliant on someone else to love you, but at the same time, you'll have this emptiness that's gonna force you to ask yourself, "why do they love me?" "I'm not good enough".

point is that emptiness is still gonna be there doubting you and making you question the love reciprocated towards you by others because if you can't value or be able to love yourself, how can you be 100 percent genuine in truly believing someone else can fill that hole of valuing and loving you? being dependent on what you can't offer yourself is what'll break you're heart, cause not everyone you come across in life has the same heart as you. i just look at those who have an absolute loving partner, loving family, loving friends, but still struggle so deeply because they can't show that type of love to themselves as an example.

take care.

 

[Flippy]

I guess it makes sense. Not sure if I find it all that uplifting though, those little nugget of wisdom things usually try to sound uplifting in my experience. Though they rarely are when you really think about it.

 

[porfin1234]

i can see where it's coming from. you have to love yourself to really be able to truly love anyone. if you're solely dependent on love from someone else, that doesn't change the fact that you're still as empty as ever because you can't love yourself. you'll be in love or reliant on someone else to love you, but at the same time, you'll have this emptiness that's gonna force you to ask yourself, "why do they love me?" "I'm not good enough".

point is that emptiness is still gonna be there doubting you and making you question the love reciprocated towards you by others because if you can't value or be able to love yourself, how can you be 100 percent genuine in truly believing someone else can fill that hole of valuing and loving you? being dependent on what you can't offer yourself is what'll break you're heart, cause not everyone you come across in life has the same heart as you. i just look at those who have an absolute loving partner, loving family, loving friends, but still struggle so deeply because they can't show that type of love to themselves as an example.

take care.

Yes...when you rely on others for your sense of happiness, well, you're screwed heh.. and heartbreak ensues (both parties affected).
Story of my life.

 

[GinaIsReady]

Paulo Coelho: One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.

 

[Backwood_tilt]

if you're solely dependent on love from someone else, that doesn't change the fact that you're still as empty as ever because you can't love yourself. you'll be in love or reliant on someone else to love you, but at the same time, you'll have this emptiness that's gonna force you to ask yourself, "why do they love me?" "I'm not good enough".

or you are triggered to CTB when they leave you.

all of it hurts.

 

[Midnight]

i can see where it's coming from. you have to love yourself to really be able to truly love anyone. if you're solely dependent on love from someone else, that doesn't change the fact that you're still as empty as ever because you can't love yourself. you'll be in love or reliant on someone else to love you, but at the same time, you'll have this emptiness that's gonna force you to ask yourself, "why do they love me?" "I'm not good enough".

This is something that has been in the back of my mind all the time. That even if i find the sole thing that's worth living for/the one thing i crave so much, it might not "save" me completely. That perhaps i'm too far gone. That the low self worth,depression,futile kindness,decades of solitude will see the end of me anyway. When i contemplate a lifechanging event i can not help but think it'd be too little too late. The darkness in my mind is persistent, it won't rest untill i'm dead.

Though i must say i was "saved" for a period of 3 years and the darkness kept at bay. I feel that this time arround there's no turning back to happiness. My perception of life has changed a great deal since then .. aswell as a the chances of the good things in life.

 

[FrailPaleStaleMaleSS]

Love is one of if not the worst emotion

 

[pole]

This is something that has been in the back of my mind all the time. That even if i find the sole thing that's worth living for/the one thing i crave so much, it might not "save" me completely. That perhaps i'm too far gone. That the low self worth,depression,futile kindness,decades of solitude will see the end of me anyway. When i contemplate a lifechanging event i can not help but think it'd be too little too late. The darkness in my mind is persistent, it won't rest untill i'm dead.

Though i must say i was "saved" for a period of 3 years and the darkness kept at bay. I feel that this time arround there's no turning back to happiness. My perception of life has changed a great deal since then .. aswell as a the chances of the good things in life.

thats sort of where i've been as well. even if something good happens for once here and there in life, or there's these flashes and sparks of happiness here and there, it'll still be ruined by my own emptiness inside. for me, none of that ever lasts and it always goes away in the end.

as for a someone. i always thought because of the inability to love myself, if i had someone to provide this emotion of love for me, maybe i'd be better. i partially had it with really really amazing friends, but this emptiness still got the best of me. even if i was cherished with love, i'd question why? why and how can someone even love me? am i even worth being loved? i still felt as alone as ever and even though someone gave me this emotion of love i never had, i still couldn't truly feel it because i couldn't BELIEVE IT and grasp it because of the inability to love myself. and i really do believe i'm so far gone that like a partner, or these sparks of happiness, none of this will ever matter.

sorry that you resonate with how i feel being inable to love or be loved because of you're own inability to accept and love yourself is the hardest thing to deal cause absolutely destroys you.

 

[jgm63]

thats sort of where i've been as well. even if something good happens for once here and there in life, or there's these flashes and sparks of happiness here and there, it'll still be ruined by my own emptiness inside. for me, none of that ever lasts and it always goes away in the end.

as for a someone. i always thought because of the inability to love myself, if i had someone to provide this emotion of love for me, maybe i'd be better. i partially had it with really really amazing friends, but this emptiness still got the best of me. even if i was cherished with love, i'd question why? why and how can someone even love me? am i even worth being loved? i still felt as alone as ever and even though someone gave me this emotion of love i never had, i still couldn't truly feel it because i couldn't BELIEVE IT and grasp it because of the inability to love myself. and i really do believe i'm so far gone that like a partner, or these sparks of happiness, none of this will ever matter.

sorry that you resonate with how i feel being inable to love or be loved because of you're own inability to accept and love yourself is the hardest thing to deal cause absolutely destroys you.

I pray that better things lay ahead for you, whether in this lifetime or the next.....

 

[Thereisnothing]

Just for shits and giggles. I was wondering what you guys think about this quote...


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I find it personally true what it says and is very deep. Without love this world is nothing, yet with it, it can be so painful in many ways.