Story Lost my job and I'm lying to friends and family I still work there

[Terry A. Davis]

I was unable to hold down my job because I kept failing to be legally compliant on calls. At this place, if you fail even one tiny aspect of it through absentmindedness or focussing on something else (the latter of which was the case) you fail to be compliant and you get spoken to about it.

I was given extra training because I sucked so much. I was fine making sales and speaking to people but that doesnt matter if I am not 100% compliant. I feel like such a fucking idiot.

I kept focussing on what the customers were saying and trying to fix their issue and speaking to them and just forgot to do certain things. I was getting the hang of some of it but recently I did a call where I completely forgot to do something so easy at the very beginning to where my manager said I was actually going backwards.

I've been trying to make the situation seem more natural in conversations so I will bring up that I'm still struggling at work to people if they ask so when I do find the right time to tell people I've been fired it will seem more natural.

I only lasted a couple of months there and I have a habit of only lasting a few months or so at jobs before I leave or get fired. I REALLY tried my best to keep this job and I didn't lose it for lack of trying believe me.

I also felt some people I was working with despised me for some reason. Maybe (once again) they felt unconfortable with me because of Aspergers but I can never be sure. I had developed a happier personality going into the job but over time I found myself purposefully sitting by myself at lunch and breaks on my phone wearing earphones because I didn't want to talk to people. I was speaking to people all day for a living idk why its frowned upon to want some alone time during breaks.

So now I'm basically pretending to my family I am going to work but I'm actually just wandering around listening to podcasts and going for walks for 8 hours a day. I was supposed to start 11 hour shift pattern this week so I am going to have to wander around in the wilderness for 11 hours a day so people don't see me and know I'm unemployed which is fucking ridiculous.


I just don't want to disappoint my parents who think I'm finally becoming independant and holding down a full time job. Not really sure what to do.

P.S. I also have a plan of faking a mental breakdown (which in reality is a real one but im pretty good at pretending im ok) and going to the psychward for a bit. I just don't want to have arguments with them anymore I know im a useless retard I don't need to argue about it anymore.

 

[Little_Suzy]

Ignoring your problems won't make them disappear; what's holding you back is emotional immaturity.

Think about gigs, freelancing, temporary jobs, or seek vocational assistance.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Sounds like it just wasn't a good fit for you. I don't think lying about this and faking a mental breakdown (wtf?) is going to make things better.

 

[Alexei_Kirillov]

I agree with the other commenters that it sounds like people-oriented jobs are probably not a good fit for you. I understand your desperation (I am also currently jobless and have been hiding that fact from my family), but faking a mental breakdown to get into a psych ward is just straight-up a terrible idea. Do a search on this site for experiences in psych wards and you'll find it to be overwhelmingly negative; you're more likely to come out with more problems than you went in with.

Best of luck with your job search, hope we're both able to find something feasible.

 

[babyharpseal]

some of the ppl here r really unempathetic. its super hard to get a job that ISNT customer service/call centre, he may know full well hes not suited for these jobs but not have another choice. i mean how many jobs (esp entry level) can u think of where u dont have to interact w ppl a ton? every single job has its clients/customers, coworkers etc.

i have a similar issue where social jobs r insanely draining, and yes its fucking awful to finally get ur break only for someone to talk ur ear off the entire fucking time. ive looked for jobs w less socialising, at least no phone calls, and theres literally nothing. once in a blue moon theres a data processing job i never hear back from. its not that easy to solve a problem just bc u know the cause. im studying to hopefully get a job thats at least not a fucking call centre, but ill still have customers no matter what. and for a lot of ppl, bc of poverty or mental issues etc, studying isnt a viable option

terry i think a white lie actually is a decent idea in this scenario, saves the stress of being yelled at over this. just say u were made redundant bc they were downsizing, n they fired a ton of new workers. then its not smthn they can b mad at u for. but atp u've probably already told them. i hope things r going ok n u can manage to find a better job. i have a friend who works in a factory n likes it, if u can handle being on ur feet for several hours n can travel to a factory it could be better