Help Lose virginity before I ctb

[kindawannacrylol]

So I am 20 and a virgin which really isn't a problem, a lot of my friends are virgins and don't really care it isn't something I'm that bothered about. I also don't really have a 'plan' to ctb. I find when I plan it, I overanalyse and mess up attempts or get too anxious last minute. I'm at a terrible place mentally, and my most successful attempts have been the ones where I didn't plan anything and it was impulsive, SI is almost non existent when I'm feeling so bad I'd do anything to end it. Anyway I'm in place where things are bad and I feel as if it'll reach that really bad place in a few days. Long story short I'm going to kill myself in the next few days. Kinda wanna have sex before I die? If you have had sex before, is it something I should be prioritising on my 'things to do before I die' list or is it trivial and something to miss out on? I always imagined losing my virginity to the love of my life, but I have exes and past flings who I kinda trust and would honestly love it if I asked them, so realistically I could lose it pretty easily.

 

[Jrmull1993]

It's not worth having Sex just for the purpose of doing it. I've done it once for similar reasons, and it's a regret I'll live with until the day I die.

 

[Eternal Oblivion]

I've paid for sex many times, but never really enjoyed it. There is no intimacy. The only sex that is worth having is with someone you love and loves you back, otherwise just don't waste your time.

 

[Apathy79]

Sex with someone you don't love is comfortably on the the trivial who cares list. With exes, it's also going to bring other complications. You're not missing anything.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Well, I'll be contrary and say if you can endure it's worth experiencing lol.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

So I am 20 and a virgin which really isn't a problem, a lot of my friends are virgins and don't really care it isn't something I'm that bothered about. I also don't really have a 'plan' to ctb. I find when I plan it, I overanalyse and mess up attempts or get too anxious last minute. I'm at a terrible place mentally, and my most successful attempts have been the ones where I didn't plan anything and it was impulsive, SI is almost non existent when I'm feeling so bad I'd do anything to end it. Anyway I'm in place where things are bad and I feel as if it'll reach that really bad place in a few days. Long story short I'm going to kill myself in the next few days. Kinda wanna have sex before I die? If you have had sex before, is it something I should be prioritising on my 'things to do before I die' list or is it trivial and something to miss out on? I always imagined losing my virginity to the love of my life, but I have exes and past flings who I kinda trust and would honestly love it if I asked them, so realistically I could lose it pretty easily.

Maybe you can use a dating app and meet somebody online… Yes it's worth having sex before you and your life if if it's possible…

 

[brokensea]

Everyone feels differently about it and what they're ok with. I find if I have no connection with someone it feels empty. I feel like I could have just used a sex toy what is the difference. So I always feel a bit disgusted with myself and have to visualize other things to get my mind off the lack of intimacy when I have done this. But some people can be fine and happy having causal sex with people it just depends on you and knowing how you feel about it. You can take it as a lighter experience and have a great time but I am too emotional and sensitive and caring to enjoy what I feel is using someone to get my rocks off. It doesn't compare to the mindset and deep emotions that bring things to another level of closeness and trust and fun that being in love feels like. Knowing what that feels like by comparison causal sex just feels empty to me and another part of the mind set we aren't supposed to be feeling creatures or connect with anything and others are just to be used for our own ends. I love and connect with others too much to view intimacy in a light hearted way. I see them as complex people and view the world too deeply. I have to in some way dehumanize that and them to have casual sex. But that is just me and I know people think very differently about it and that is of course perfectly fine. If you're on your way out and just want to know what that feels like who is to judge and you yourself know if it would be a positive or negative experience.

 

[The Abyss]

Beats me, it's probably nice; the stigma around not getting any slays me.

Get it if ya can, got it?

 

[Tiberius85]

From a male perspective, I can only say: yes, it's absolutely worth it. It's a totally human urge as well. It should be something to experience before leaving this place. No question, with real love involved, sex can take on a total new meaning. But even without love, casual sex is also a wonderful thing "to do" and experience.

 

[ForbiddenSiren]

Sex is overrated tbh. Its good but probably not as good as you are thinking it is.

 

[Lawliet]

your first time is never as magical as they make it in the movies, and it's often times not pleasant unless you're with someone who knows how to get you off. people with penises usually have a better time with it than those with vaginas.

but if you have sex with some stranger and then kill yourself and they find out about it, that's going to traumatize them and is a dick move (no pun intended)

 

[Unlucked]

Speaking as a former escort, it's not all that it's cracked up to be. It can be pleasant if you have a partner that treats you as a human, does it in a romantic / good way. But honestly even in that case, once it's over you aren't going to be blown away for weeks.

It's novel for you because you are young, but honestly, I can say if I could magically become a virgin or go back and not have any of that, I wouldn't have missed anything substantial.

If you want my true opinion, experiencing true intimacy even once is probably what you want, losing your virginity on a whim won't give you that. Neither will going to an escort. Trust me on that.

 

[LeavingEarly]

Speaking as a former escort, it's not all that it's cracked up to be. It can be pleasant if you have a partner that treats you as a human, does it in a romantic / good way. But honestly even in that case, once it's over you aren't going to be blown away for weeks.

It's novel for you because you are young, but honestly, I can say if I could magically become a virgin or go back and not have any of that, I wouldn't have missed anything substantial.

If you want my true opinion, experiencing true intimacy even once is probably what you want, losing your virginity on a whim won't give you that. Neither will going to an escort. Trust me on that.

I enjoyed sex way more in my teens and early twenties than I do in my 30s.

 

[theboy]

I believe that sexual intimacy is important. The first time is never forgotten so I think you should at least try. In fact, sexual intimacy brings benefits to our body and mind. Just make sure you do it with protection

 

[ojinzo]

So I am 20 and a virgin which really isn't a problem, a lot of my friends are virgins and don't really care it isn't something I'm that bothered about. I also don't really have a 'plan' to ctb. I find when I plan it, I overanalyse and mess up attempts or get too anxious last minute. I'm at a terrible place mentally, and my most successful attempts have been the ones where I didn't plan anything and it was impulsive, SI is almost non existent when I'm feeling so bad I'd do anything to end it. Anyway I'm in place where things are bad and I feel as if it'll reach that really bad place in a few days. Long story short I'm going to kill myself in the next few days. Kinda wanna have sex before I die? If you have had sex before, is it something I should be prioritising on my 'things to do before I die' list or is it trivial and something to miss out on? I always imagined losing my virginity to the love of my life, but I have exes and past flings who I kinda trust and would honestly love it if I asked them, so realistically I could lose it pretty easily.

Honestly, I say do it. I've slept with over one hundred bodies so sex is nothing to me. However, I think if you never did it and you are committed to leaving this God forsaken planet, why not try it

 

[TAW122]

I don't think it is trivial if you don't know what it is, I was in a similar mindset a few years ago (before I lost my virginity) and that was one of the things I had in mind (pre-pandemic times) that I will not live to be 30 years old and still be a virgin, I'd CTB if I couldn't get it by a certain age. So in 2019, I made it a mission for me to lose my virginity and I (speaking for myself of course) would say it satiated my curiosity and I did feel great for a while (mostly psychologically and for fulfilling a curiosity that I had for most of my adolescent and adult life), then my life went back to normal just about a few weeks afterwards. It was like lifting off a big rock; though because my mindset was more of a curious and studious one, my reaction and experience differs from most people.

Ultimately, it would be up to your decision and no one can really speak for your experience or know how you feel about it. Some others have commented and mentioned that it isn't 'special' while others say to just try it just to fulfill your curiosity, so I would say go for it if you would like to experience it for the sake of knowing what it is.

 

[IanUK]

So I am 20 and a virgin which really isn't a problem, a lot of my friends are virgins and don't really care it isn't something I'm that bothered about. I also don't really have a 'plan' to ctb. I find when I plan it, I overanalyse and mess up attempts or get too anxious last minute. I'm at a terrible place mentally, and my most successful attempts have been the ones where I didn't plan anything and it was impulsive, SI is almost non existent when I'm feeling so bad I'd do anything to end it. Anyway I'm in place where things are bad and I feel as if it'll reach that really bad place in a few days. Long story short I'm going to kill myself in the next few days. Kinda wanna have sex before I die? If you have had sex before, is it something I should be prioritising on my 'things to do before I die' list or is it trivial and something to miss out on? I always imagined losing my virginity to the love of my life, but I have exes and past flings who I kinda trust and would honestly love it if I asked them, so realistically I could lose it pretty easily.

Personally it's the wrong reason though I'm the wrong person to ask. Because I don't love people and have a wall around me sex has been an act not a joy. It's been to scratch an itch. I can honestly say I've never felt the world move because it's physical not emotional. If it were me it wouldn't be a priority as to be honest it's become messy and pointless. I can't make that decision but it wouldn't be high in my list but I'm not a virgin. Being raised a catholic I guess it's a big plus to die a virgin!!! Like everything don't overthink it - if you want to do it but if you go into it tick a box it's highly unlikely not to be good.

 

[Julgran]

It's not worth having Sex just for the purpose of doing it. I've done it once for similar reasons, and it's a regret I'll live with until the day I die.

I have only had sex twice, but I would disagree with you is so far as having sex for the first time goes, since having had done it could make the person realize that sex is not all it's cut out to be, so then they may be able to focus on other things. Therefore, I say: do it if you can, and then focus on improving your life in all other areas - such as fitness and career.

 

[Jrmull1993]

I have only had sex twice, but I would disagree with you is so far as having sex for the first time goes, since having had done it could make the person realize that sex is not all it's cut out to be, so then they may be able to focus on other things. Therefore, I say: do it if you can, and then focus on improving your life in all other areas - such as fitness and career.

If you can share a very intimate moment with someone and then never speak to them again, then fine.

I learned that it was not the case for me, and I'll forever be resentful of myself.

 

[Julgran]

If you can share a very intimate moment with someone and then never speak to them again, then fine.

I learned that it was not the case for me, and I'll forever be resentful of myself.

I agree with you. My post was just about the sex itself from the perspective of the eager people who has never had sex.

 

[dabestrn]

The act of sex is highly overrated!! And generally the first time is not the most enjoyable. The only time I ever enjoyed sec was when I was in a healthy place and felt I was "in love". I'm incapable of those feelings anymore. So sex is of absolutely no use or enjoyable in any way. If you're to the point of wanting to actually CTB, it's highly likely it wouldn't be the wonderful experience you might think.

 

[Blondie]

I've only enjoyed sex when I've been in the loved up state, have had sex for the sake of it with others but didn't enjoy it. If you do decide you want to go ahead I would say do it with someone you actually have feelings for

 

[hamvil]

So I am 20 and a virgin which really isn't a problem, a lot of my friends are virgins and don't really care it isn't something I'm that bothered about. I also don't really have a 'plan' to ctb. I find when I plan it, I overanalyse and mess up attempts or get too anxious last minute. I'm at a terrible place mentally, and my most successful attempts have been the ones where I didn't plan anything and it was impulsive, SI is almost non existent when I'm feeling so bad I'd do anything to end it. Anyway I'm in place where things are bad and I feel as if it'll reach that really bad place in a few days. Long story short I'm going to kill myself in the next few days. Kinda wanna have sex before I die? If you have had sex before, is it something I should be prioritising on my 'things to do before I die' list or is it trivial and something to miss out on? I always imagined losing my virginity to the love of my life, but I have exes and past flings who I kinda trust and would honestly love it if I asked them, so realistically I could lose it pretty easily.

If you really want to have just sex, then go pay an escort. That said I do not think you will enjoy it a lot. You need to be lucky enough to find an escort that will go the extra mile to make you feel better and that is not common.

If you decide to do sodo not pick up girls in the street. If you live in a big city you should be able to find a good escort site. Contact the site and tell them it is your first time and that you would like to have a real GFE (girlfriend experiences), make sure the girl does french kissing, that will help make the experience more real. Do not try to look for strange or fancy services. Tell them you want a few kisses, oral sex, and intercourse.

The service could be expensive (that is of course relative), but in most western cities you should be able to get a good service for 200 USD (or equivalent). Not sure about your age preference, I would go for a woman above 30/40. If the woman is good you will enjoy a lot more the oral sex than the intercourse.

That said again, what you are looking for is intimacy. You cannot pay for that. It is built after years of relationship (when you are lucky). My suggestion is to remain virgin and move forward with your plan if this is your deside. Belive be putting your penis in a vagina will not make you feel any different after, but I can understand the desire of physicaly touch with another person. I hope you find what you are looking for.