Venting Living with someone who doesn’t care

[burdenox]

If I ctb'ed in my flat I honestly don't think my flatmate would care or even find me for weeks.

I told them I wouldn't be around since my nan has less than a week to live, they asked me if I'll be in for the electrician.

I had a breakdown at 1am when I got the call that my nan had a stroke and left the flat sobbing, they didn't know I had left or even bothered to text me and ask where I was.

My brother died of an overdose, they never asked how I was.

I called them to ask what table we were sitting at, they got pissed said not to call them unless it was an emergency.

When I asked if we would move next year, they said they'd already decided they would move in with someone else and to find somewhere myself saying "why would I not move in with my friends?"

As of writing this theres 183 days til I move out. Living here makes me miserable. We moved in together BECAUSE we knew each other and because we we're friends. I don't know what happened or what I've done. It just hurts so much knowing someone who you thought cared about you couldn't give less of a shit. Stupid I know, just petty drama stuff. I just feel trapped here.

 

[AsteroidBoi]

I understand you're feelings. I'm in and have been in similar situations multiple times. Living with people you thought you knew is hard, given enough time another side of them comes out. I've noticed people need more space and privacy then they'll admit. Living with someone you're not "compatible" with, if there even is such a thing, is a very entrapping claustrophobic feeling. I don't know if you've ever lived alone but I prefer it, freedom to do what you want when you want is underrated. I'd suggest try talking to them about it but in my experience that won't lead to any lasting change. I hope you can make better friends.

 

[FuneralCry]

You just cannot trust and rely on other people, this is the reality. People can certainly be very disappointing and so many in this world don't really care about others at all, they are just focused on themselves. This is why I think that it's for the best to just be alone as other people very often just create more suffering.

 

[DragonWingsOnFire]

You just cannot trust and rely on other people, this is the reality. People can certainly be very disappointing and so many in this world don't really care about others at all, they are just focused on themselves. This is why I think that it's for the best to just be alone as other people very often just create more suffering.

i agree, people around me wants so much for them, but then i have a bad day or something i want to talk about, they dont care. I feels like am just talking to a wall. What i would do is finding something you really like to do as a hobby. Something you are proud of. Its really hard to find one hobby, but trust me, it is worth the trouble. Hopes that help, but if not just do what u want.

 

[burdenox]

I understand your feelings. I'm in and have been in similar situations multiple times. Living with people you thought you knew is hard, given enough time another side of them comes out. I've noticed people need more space and privacy than they'll admit. Living with someone you're not "compatible" with, if there even is such a thing, is a very entrapping claustrophobic feeling. I don't know if you've ever lived alone but I prefer it, freedom to do what you want when you want is underrated. I'd suggest try talking to them about it but in my experience that won't lead to any lasting change. I hope you can make better friends.

Yeah, I'm moving to an apartment on my own. I thought living with a friend would be good for me, a way to stop myself from doing something serious, a way to have someone there to talk to and support you. But ofc that's not what it's been like haha.

Tbh as it stands now, I don't think it'd be any different living alone

You just cannot trust and rely on other people, this is the reality. People can certainly be very disappointing and so many in this world don't really care about others at all, they are just focused on themselves. This is why I think that it's for the best to just be alone as other people very often just create more suffering.

I guess it just doesn't compute to me. I care so much for other people. And I try so so so hard to help everyone around me with their problems and be supportive. But that rarely ever is reciprocated, it's so disheartening and really frustrating. Really makes you lose hope ya know

i agree, people around me wants so much for them, but then i have a bad day or something i want to talk about, they dont care. I feels like am just talking to a wall. What i would do is finding something you really like to do as a hobby. Something you are proud of. Its really hard to find one hobby, but trust me, it is worth the trouble. Hopes that help, but if not just do what u want.

Yeah exactly, I love helping people. it always seems to be the "uwu wholesome softie" "I'm here for you" people that never are there for you. As soon as it inconveniences them they stop caring. Maybe they just want to keep up that false image

Art has never failed to distract me and help me express things I can't say. That and loosing myself in Video games lol, wish life was as easy as it is in those pretty worlds where everything is alright in the end