tinymoon
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- Feb 6, 2023
- 9
You know the expression "one foot in the grave"? I know it typically means one who is dying or something close to ending, but it also aptly describes the way I've lived my life for several years and why I'm uncertain if I can ever live as a normal person. I'm approaching my late twenties and have been suicidal off-and-on since I was in my preteens and it's created a loose attachment to life that I cannot shake. Objectively, my life is going the best it has in awhile: I've improved a lot as a person, I'm in school pursuing something that I'm both interested in and believe I'll excel at professionally, I'm finally making friends and going out on dates, and my OCD and generalized anxiety are no longer hungry monsters consuming my every thought and breath. However, I look at all of this with a removal, an emptiness, and as clear as a bell chime I still feel the urge to die. This is ironic on the surface, but my suicidal desires are most intense after something really good happens, like I finish a project I've been working on forever and I'm proud of the work. Everything just seems so disappointing and not worth all the pain and effort that comes along with it. I'm hit with the questions of, "Is this it? This pleasure is what I've endured all of this for, why I spent so much time recovering from all that sexual trauma, all that mental illness, all those silly mental hospital stays? What's the point? Why should I keep going?" For more than half my life death was the foregone conclusion, and even though I'm much happier than I have been in the past, it's fundamentally altered how I look at life and myself. Death will always be an option to me, something to fall back into easily and readily, and because of this I have a difficult time committing to life enough in order to make it worthwhile. I do believe on some level if I really decide to not kill myself I could make a good life for myself, but a big part of me doesn't want to, and a bigger part of me feels unable to let death go. It all seems so daunting, and I know that the more I throw myself into it the more and more pain I will feel, and I'm not sure if I can take it. My inherent melancholic temperament makes even the slightest of things hurt badly and suicide has been the only armor that has allowed me to perservere through it, but it's also part of what's keeping me from finding fulfillment in life. On a fundamental level, it seem as though someone like me isn't meant to live and I don't know why I'm persisting.
Thank you for reading my vent.
Thank you for reading my vent.