LaVieEnRose
Angelic
- Jul 23, 2022
- 4,174
Such a sad realization. What a waste of privilege. What a waste of entropy. Anyone else feel something similar?
Are you sure you're not me? I came here to write basically THIS. I guess what I've made of my life is an instruction manual for how not to do it. The best thing I can do at this point is to go out in a big enough way that people can point at my life and use it to threaten their children.Yeah. I grew up being told that I was special and I could make something of my life. Instead I grew into a recluse with no support system and absolutely zero motivation to do anything productive. I am the emobdiment of wasted potential. There are so many people more deserving of walking this earth than me, yet I am still here... too cowardly and indecisive to pull the plug. Every day above ground is a travesty for me.
This is exactly my experience. They told me I had the potential to become a writer or illustrator, then proceeded to crush those dreams when they had my best friend tear my doodles out of my math notebook. I lost interest in both writing and drawing, because I never cared for the topics they'd force me to write about, I only did it to appease them but it all amounted to nothing. Whether I was the teacher's pet or the no-show, it was all for nothing. Once middleschool rolled around I developed depression and lost interest in drawing altogether.Yeah. I grew up being told that I was special and I could make something of my life. Instead I grew into a recluse with no support system and absolutely zero motivation to do anything productive. I am the emobdiment of wasted potential. There are so many people more deserving of walking this earth than me, yet I am still here... too cowardly and indecisive to pull the plug. Every day above ground is a travesty for me.
I'm sending you nothing but the best wishes imaginable. This world can be a very cruel place, and you've probably had to endure many things which brought you here. For whatever it's worth though, I do hope you still find small pockets of happiness and hope wherever possible.Are you sure you're not me? I came here to write basically THIS. I guess what I've made of my life is an instruction manual for how not to do it. The best thing I can do at this point is to go out in a big enough way that people can point at my life and use it to threaten their children.
Thank you, and I wish the same thing for you!I'm sending you nothing but the best wishes imaginable. This world can be a very cruel place, and you've probably had to endure many things which brought you here. For whatever it's worth though, I do hope you still find small pockets of happiness and hope wherever possible.
What happened to you was awful, and I understand why you wouldn't be interested in drawing/illustration anymore after that. I hope you still have some other passions that can help distract you from... everything, I guess.This is exactly my experience. They told me I had the potential to become a writer or illustrator, then proceeded to crush those dreams when they had my best friend tear my doodles out of my math notebook. I lost interest in both writing and drawing, because I never cared for the topics they'd force me to write about, I only did it to appease them but it all amounted to nothing. Whether I was the teacher's pet or the no-show, it was all for nothing. Once middleschool rolled around I developed depression and lost interest in drawing altogether.
Kind of. There was enormous pressure put on me. Even though I haven't made anything of it at this stage, I still have my passion but it's like my brain can't engage with it anymore as a result of the stress I've been through.They didn't protect you from harm enough, didn't encourage you enough, or pushed you in foolish ways that made you lose passion.
I'm curious what completely derailed you and prevented you from going back on track? You must have felt so helpless about somethings?Are you sure you're not me? I came here to write basically THIS. I guess what I've made of my life is an instruction manual for how not to do it. The best thing I can do at this point is to go out in a big enough way that people can point at my life and use it to threaten their children.
This is the answer to almost all issues of life, if you have bad parents you are fucked, i used to be really smart, but my parents never set limits, they treated me like if i was their equal and always had issues with authority figures, my mother got into the relationship between me and my dad so i never acquired the abilities you need from a male figure, my mother is a psycho and i developed avoidant personality disorder.I feel the pain of all of you, but I hope you don't mind me disagreeing with your sentiment.
I've worked professionally with children, researched parenting, delved into spirituality and learned a lot from my own miserable life experience. My view is that if you have fallen short of your potential, it's very likely that you were failed by your carers at some level, or denied the right opportunities. They didn't protect you from harm enough, didn't encourage you enough, or pushed you in foolish ways that made you lose passion.
Besides all of that, if I were a parent, I would routinely drill into my children that while I encourage trying hard and aiming for success, any victories are always temporary so don't matter that much. The only thing does matter is knowing you are loved unconditionally and nothing that could ever happen in the world will change that. I send that same message to all of you now. (And yes, my flame suit is on so roast me if you want.)
I feel the same dude I don't know what to do anymore!!Yep, I have so many privileges, and the honour of being a mother…. And I'm such a fucked up excuse for a human being that all I have is not enough. I'm scared of how my mental illness affects my children and I think they'd be better off without me
Sure, disagree. Nothing I say is gospel truth. I was definitely failed by certain institutions, but having autism meant the deck was stacked against me. I didn't even necessarily mean a waste in terms of success, but rather a waste because of being unhappy despite certain advantages (that everyone around me shared, mind you).I feel the pain of all of you, but I hope you don't mind me disagreeing with your sentiment.
I've worked professionally with children, researched parenting, delved into spirituality and learned a lot from my own miserable life experience. My view is that if you have fallen short of your potential, it's very likely that you were failed by your carers at some level, or denied the right opportunities. They didn't protect you from harm enough, didn't encourage you enough, or pushed you in foolish ways that made you lose passion.
Besides all of that, if I were a parent, I would routinely drill into my children that while I encourage trying hard and aiming for success, any victories are always temporary so don't matter that much. The only thing does matter is knowing you are loved unconditionally and nothing that could ever happen in the world will change that. I send that same message to all of you now. (And yes, my flame suit is on so roast me if you want.)
I thought I was reading something I must have written.Yeah. I grew up being told that I was special and I could make something of my life. Instead I grew into a recluse with no support system and absolutely zero motivation to do anything productive. I am the emobdiment of wasted potential. There are so many people more deserving of walking this earth than me, yet I am still here... too cowardly and indecisive to pull the plug. Every day above ground is a travesty for me.