Discussion Letters/messages programmed after CTB

[Dreamland6947]

So, I'm still wondering, if I'm going to do that.
Basically what I want to do is send a delayed message/mail/sms to mostly everyone who could contact me (that's not a lot, but still, even colleagues from university/work)
(A basic message saying the user on the account/number/mail is dead and to not worry if no responses or connections are given)

I'm considering doing a custom message for my family
One one side I could comfort my family and explain that it's not their fault and they couldn't have done anything to prevent it
On the other, nothing could ease the pain that will cause to them

Also I'm considering sending a delayed sms/email to my ex-girlfriend, she cheated on me, guilt-tripped me about it and then taunted me for days about it. So it kinda ended badly.
But it was still the love of my life, as pathetic as that sounds. and it hurt me so fucking much what she did.
I'm split between sending her a message blaming her or just send nothing. Just the automatic bland message that will be sent to the rest of people

Any thoughts?