Discussion Leaving a pet behind

[spicysad]

I yearn to CTB and have so many ideas, but what haunts me is the thought of leaving my dog either 1) home alone and scared for who knows how long until someone helps him or 2) home with my dead body and scared/sad because I won't respond to his barking, etc. after death. Does anyone else struggle with something like this?

 

[sugarh1gh]

Woah, as pet lover, I strongly urge you to not ctb if that means the pet will be alone. You could probably find other to be a owner, or leave the pet at the pet hotel or sitter. Or you can also have an appointment with friends or family couple days after your ctb, so that way the pet isn't going to be alone for long.

And the dog will be probably sad and confused if he finds your body and see you not responding.

 

[spicysad]

Woah, as pet lover, I strongly urge you to not ctb if that means the pet will be alone. You could probably find other to be a owner, or leave the pet at the pet hotel or sitter. Or you can also have an appointment with friends or family couple days after your ctb, so that way the pet isn't going to be alone for long.

And the dog will be probably sad and confused if he finds your body and see you not responding.

It's the only thing holding me back, but I don't know how to ask a friend or family to watch him without raising flags, and it's hard to imagine just saying goodbye at a pet hotel let alone him never knowing what happened, thinking I just abandoned him

 

[sugarh1gh]

It's the only thing holding me back, but I don't know how to ask a friend or family to watch him without raising flags, and it's hard to imagine just saying goodbye at a pet hotel let alone him never knowing what happened, thinking I just abandoned him

I understand, as my dog was the only thing holding me back back in the days. She isn't here anymore but besides the point I guess.

If you think about it, he will be abandoned no matter what if you are ctb. If your family or friend knows him, it's probably the best idea to leave him to them.

If I were you, I would probably say you are going on a short trip and you need someone to watch him for you. You could also ask them to come to your place to feed him and walk him. So there is a faster chance of someone finding your body and dog not starving or in sadness.

 

[ferrie]

I definitely relate to your struggle. I wouldn't be able to leave without knowing that my dog and my cat were taken care of. If you can't imagine yourself saying goodbye at a pet hotel, could you pretend you were going on a trip to leave him with someone you trust? Dogs are very empathetic, and he would probably be more distressed seeing your body than not knowing where you went. It's ultimately your call, but I would urge you not to put him through that stress if you have other options

 

[Traveller12724]

Why not book someone to keep the dog for a few days and then let them figure it out once you are gone.

 

[set0553]

I yearn to CTB and have so many ideas, but what haunts me is the thought of leaving my dog either 1) home alone and scared for who knows how long until someone helps him or 2) home with my dead body and scared/sad because I won't respond to his barking, etc. after death. Does anyone else struggle with something like this?

Wow, this hits close to home, and been over it time after time. My plan for CTB has always been when my fam is away camping, which they do for 3or4 days during the summer, and I always stay home with my 3 dogs during this time, and they're the only reason I haven't done it by now. My dogs mean the world, and the only friends I have that like me no matter what I do and say, or how I feel.. how could I leave them alone, in the house, for days.. I cant do that. :( id be terrified something bad would happen to them, and no one to hear them. If I was going to go thru with it, id first kennel them nearby, with my wife's number, and instructions to call her after 2 days to pick up the dogs and so my wife would know where to find them, id leave a note. That way id know they'd be safe afterwards. But yeah, it'd be unfair for them to do it while they were there.

 

[feelinggloomy]

My two pups are the SOLE reason I'm still alive. I get it. I get it !!

 

[sancta-simplicitas]

Yep, that's what hurts the most in all of this. I have scheduled to send text messages about 12 hours after my attempt telling the recipients that I'm dead, where I am and that my cat is in my apartment and needs help. I don't have any means to rehome him and to be honest I'm afraid that I'll fail my attempt and be forced to live without him, so that solution was the best I could come up with. I do get a knot in my stomach when I think about it because I'm not sure how he's going to react. He's a real daddy's boy, always wants to be where I am.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

I yearn to CTB and have so many ideas, but what haunts me is the thought of leaving my dog either 1) home alone and scared for who knows how long until someone helps him or 2) home with my dead body and scared/sad because I won't respond to his barking, etc. after death. Does anyone else struggle with something like this?

Someone thanked me (I'm not looking for that attention) but she decided not to at this point because of her dog.

I have my dog and it's not fair on her. I don't give a fuck about people - couldn't care less but animals? Can't do it. Even the animals at the sanctuary would be depressed if I stopped going.

It's up to you but it's not a "dog". It's your team player in life unlike people. Human to human = worst shit ever. Human to animal = mutual trust.

 

[Coconut blue]

dogs are emotional animals and in my experience pets generally do get attached to their owners. they probably don't have the cognitive capacity to understand that you ctbed but they're definitely going to have a hard time realizing that you've left them forever. esp dogs...since they're rlly loyal animals (wasnt there this japanse movie about a dog who went to the same spot everyday for years to wait on its owner even after he passed away?)
judging on your feelings towards your dog i would rlly urge you to reconsider ctbing. perhaps try seeking help and getting a bit better for its sake? your dog is very fortunate to have an owner who loves it so much

 

[feelinggloomy]

I plan to wait for my pups to pass.

 

[mistymoo]

Yep, that's what hurts the most in all of this. I have scheduled to send text messages about 12 hours after my attempt telling the recipients that I'm dead, where I am and that my cat is in my apartment and needs help. I don't have any means to rehome him and to be honest I'm afraid that I'll fail my attempt and be forced to live without him, so that solution was the best I could come up with. I do get a knot in my stomach when I think about it because I'm not sure how he's going to react. He's a real daddy's boy, always wants to be where I am.

Scheduling a text with information is a great idea. Thank you

 

[imsotired35]

Yep. This is one of my reasons I have to wait.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Why not book someone to keep the dog for a few days and then let them figure it out once you are gone.

Let someone else take care of your problem? Not cool.

 

[Traveller12724]

Let someone else take care of your problem? Not cool.

I hear you, it's definitely not cool, but it's a minor inconvenience at best, they can choose to keep it or take it to the shelter. It may not be cool but it sure is a whole lot better than leaving the dog alone with your deceased body

 

[Raindancer]

I will wait until my pet has passed and is waiting for me on the other side. recently saw a video where a vet said that when we leave our dogs believe we are not coming back and I could never do that to mine. They have kept me going since I was first suicidal at 19.

 

[feelinggloomy]

I will wait until my pet has passed and is waiting for me on the other side. recently saw a video where a vet said that when we leave our dogs believe we are not coming back and I could never do that to mine. They have kept me going since I was first suicidal at 19.

I feel exactly the same way

 

[malevolentdiety]

What about a hotel? That way the staff would find your dog and take care of it.