Venting Lack of empathy

[gnomeboy17]

I think being suicidal makes me really unempathetic. This began around a year ago where I just stopped empathizing with people's situations. When people tell me sad stuff I genuinely think "then just ctb" because that's what my mind says when something bad happens.

This just makes me feel less human and makes me want to die more. I think when I was younger I was reasonably empathetic but it makes it very difficult to socialize when you can never relate to people unless it's about suicide.

Edit: tbh part of this may be due to autism, and then being suicidal completely got rid of my ability to empathise

 

[Ghost2211]

Depression can do that unfortunately. It really doesn't say anything negative about who you are as a human being, but rather that you are going through a lot of emotional stress.

 

[madbananas]

I am the complete opposite but I can appreciate how you could also end up as you describe. I have wayyy too much empathy. Because I know how damaged I've become through my childhood, I now basically see everyone as having potentially been dragged through hell backwards as children (and/or adults) which impact their behaviour now. I am really self aware now of how I act towards other people, I feel the need to act kind as much as I can and I actually catch my negative thoughts about others very quickly and end up with a complex map of thoughts in my head. Basically I want people to feel validated because I know what it feels like not to be.

im not saying I'm an angel by the way, far from it haha. I get really negative, angry thoughts when I'm alone. But I do try to (and mostly succeed) not act upon those thoughts. That of course does result in me basically beating myself up over a lot of stuff though.

 

[Hazelnut]

I feel you.
And when it's not related to depression like RoseyBird said, I feel like it's also a great ability that tends to weaken with time when a lot of people end up using it against you.

 

[madbananas]

As Roseybird said, it sounds like your situation is coming from depression. And we can go many ways when we are depressed so don't judge yourself for your experience

 

[Friend_A]

I think being suicidal makes me really unempathetic. This began around a year ago where I just stopped empathizing with people's situations. When people tell me sad stuff I genuinely think "then just ctb" because that's what my mind says when something bad happens.

This just makes me feel less human and makes me want to die more. I think when I was younger I was reasonably empathetic but it makes it very difficult to socialize when you can never relate to people unless it's about suicide.

Edit: tbh part of this may be due to autism, and then being suicidal completely got rid of my ability to empathise

wow i was just thinking about this the other day! i used to be a very empathetic person. people often tell me i have a lot of empathy and compassion. i always see the good in people and people always talk to me about their issues.

lately, i've become distant and indifferent to everything. now when someone or my friend talks to my about issues that bother them i feel bad to admit this but i dont feel shit and im just there acting like i give a fuck.

still, i try to give some advice like im on autopilot because im so used to people coming to me for help but at the end of the day i just wanna go home and be alone. i just dont care about connecting on that level with people anymore. i have lost myself

 

[Metalhead]

Who agrees ?