succor
tumbling down, tumbling down, tumbling down
- Oct 28, 2020
- 104
For those who haven't seen me before, I am disabled and homebound. Partially homebound because I'm too sickly and weak to do things without great pain, and partially because the pandemic is still very much here, my state is not handling it well, and I'm unable to get the vaccine due to the medications I'm on and my weak constitution.
I have a very small group of friends. They are lovely people. They are all able bodied and healthy. There's just six of us, three pairs of couples. We used to do things together often before I got sick. We used to go on vacations together and spend a lot of time together. Since I got sick, which was just about 6 months before the pandemic started, we haven't been hanging out as much. This is largely my fault, as I never feel well enough to do things. None of this is their fault, they tried to spend time with me but I'm always just in too much pain.
Now that they've all been vaccinated they've started spending time together again… without me. Which I understand- they don't want to risk contaminating me since I'm under strict doctor ordered quarantine. But they also are hanging out without my partner. I feel… jealous. Jealous that they're vaccinated and able to see each other. That they feel well enough to socialize, even though I know it's horribly selfish and they deserve to see their friends too.
I also feel horribly guilty. My partner isn't invited to hang out because he's in close quarters with me, and they don't want to risk him bringing something home since I'm immunocompromised in general- not just to Covid, but any sort of sickness right now.
The jealousy, the guilt, it's eating away at me more and more. I don't want to be this envious ugly person. I'm already planning on my way out, which will in turn release everyone from any obligations to me. I've just been so lonely. I've only seen my parents, my partner, and doctors since the pandemic started. The last time I sat and spoke to my friends was on Christmas, separated by 10 feet from them, just to exchange gifts and chat for a bit. I'm so lonely. I've been so isolated. I feel as though I'm going mad. Just the same four walls every day, and the only time I leave them is to see doctors and have tests done, get poked and prodded and gaslit and turned around. All of this fight for nothing. I've never been this bad. I'm losing it.
I have a very small group of friends. They are lovely people. They are all able bodied and healthy. There's just six of us, three pairs of couples. We used to do things together often before I got sick. We used to go on vacations together and spend a lot of time together. Since I got sick, which was just about 6 months before the pandemic started, we haven't been hanging out as much. This is largely my fault, as I never feel well enough to do things. None of this is their fault, they tried to spend time with me but I'm always just in too much pain.
Now that they've all been vaccinated they've started spending time together again… without me. Which I understand- they don't want to risk contaminating me since I'm under strict doctor ordered quarantine. But they also are hanging out without my partner. I feel… jealous. Jealous that they're vaccinated and able to see each other. That they feel well enough to socialize, even though I know it's horribly selfish and they deserve to see their friends too.
I also feel horribly guilty. My partner isn't invited to hang out because he's in close quarters with me, and they don't want to risk him bringing something home since I'm immunocompromised in general- not just to Covid, but any sort of sickness right now.
The jealousy, the guilt, it's eating away at me more and more. I don't want to be this envious ugly person. I'm already planning on my way out, which will in turn release everyone from any obligations to me. I've just been so lonely. I've only seen my parents, my partner, and doctors since the pandemic started. The last time I sat and spoke to my friends was on Christmas, separated by 10 feet from them, just to exchange gifts and chat for a bit. I'm so lonely. I've been so isolated. I feel as though I'm going mad. Just the same four walls every day, and the only time I leave them is to see doctors and have tests done, get poked and prodded and gaslit and turned around. All of this fight for nothing. I've never been this bad. I'm losing it.