I've lost my looks

[Walilamdzii]

I know this is shallow and superficial, but it does contribute to my overwhelming lack of confidence. Also it's not entirely superficial because having gained weight means I no longer have the energy I once had. When I was attractive, it just attracted the wrong type of attention, but I wish I could go back to that and not waste energy on those people. Then I feel I could have found a partner in life.

 

[Worndown]

Weight can be lost. It is not easy, but if you want to you can do it. You can meet people trying to loose weight at a gym. You would already have something in common. Workout partners.
Doing nothing gets you nothing. Go be you and share the good stuff inside you. I am sure there are others hoping to meet someone like you.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way, but I want you to know that your worth isn't determined by your appearance or weight. It's completely natural to go through changes in life, and gaining weight doesn't make you any less attractive or valuable as a person. Remember that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and what truly matters is how you feel about yourself on the inside.

Confidence comes from within, and it's important to remember that you are so much more than just your physical appearance. People who truly care about you will see and appreciate the beautiful qualities you possess beyond the surface.

As for finding a partner, know that genuine connections are built on shared values, interests, and personalities. Finding the right partner is about finding someone who loves and accepts you for who you are, regardless of any external factors. The right person will appreciate you for your authenticity and all the unique qualities you bring to a relationship.

It's also essential to focus on self-care and well-being. If you feel that gaining weight has affected your energy levels, consider incorporating some healthy habits into your lifestyle that make you feel better physically and mentally. Taking care of yourself will help boost your confidence and overall happiness.

Everyone's journey in life is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all definition of attractiveness or success. Embrace who you are, and don't let external judgments define your self-worth. The changes you've experienced may have redirected attention away from people who were not right for you, and that can be a positive thing.

Your uniqueness is what makes you special, and the right person will see that and be drawn to you for all the right reasons. You deserve love and happiness, and I truly believe that you will find the right partner who appreciates and cherishes you for exactly who you are. Take care and remember to be kind to yourself.

 

[020x]

recover and start improving your life. unless something stands in your way that makes it impossible, such as some illness or just your general life situation.

i hope that you're not just some lazy person who hopes for things but don't do anything for it. either way, it's your decision.