SterileMoth
Who knows man
- Jul 9, 2020
- 74
I'm scared to ctb. I don't have access to any painless or easy methods. Was going to try VSED but I still live with my parents and they've noticed I've been eating/drinking less, my mom keeps making me food and my dad keeps offering to buy me takeout. I'm grateful to have such caring parents, I know many aren't so lucky, I've wanted to fight most of my friends parents. The other option was partial suspension or really just ODing on a variety of meds, but the OD would suck, could be reversed, and leave me with organ damage. Not great. I feel bad about planning to leave, I've had several friends ask to hang out, I flaked on two of them. They know I'm not in a great space, although I doubt they know the full extent as I've only told one person in depth. To all the others I've mentioned in passing as more of a "I'm tired" way, or more jokey sounding. I want to see my friends and get to say "goodbye" but it sucks trying to act like it isn't the only thing on my mind, like I'm not devoting most of my day to method research. I can't really tell them what I've been up to without spilling everything. I wish I could tell them and then have a proper goodbye without risking hospitalization.
My online friend, the one who knows the most about my interest in ctb, sent this to me the other night: "I didn't come back with any intention of ever leaving your side again" & (after I called myself an idiot) "This idiot kinda fell in love with the idiot many years ago and I don't think he's ever gonna be able to really let her go" and holy fuck did that make me feel guilty. Like goddammit. Dude. I wish he'd stop giving a fuck, I've fucked him over multiple times and he's still there. He berated me last night for being up late, even though he was the one feeling shitty and needing comfort. I honestly don't get why he still cares. It'd be a hell of a lot easier if I hadn't told him or if he left, I've pushed him away MANY times. It's like trying to kill a roach. Oh well.
I'm still not sure how I'll ctb in the end, I am kind of interested in SN, just not sure how I'll obtain everything. Gasses are off the table unless I set up a tent and sealed it off, otherwise I'd just hurt other household members. N would obviously be great but that's never happening.
I just ... part of me wants to chill for a bit longer, see friends more, dye my hair, I mean once I figure it out then it will be there for me when I'm ready. My date had originally been September 18th so, that's still a while ahead. I feel better after deciding though, I'm happy about it. I still had a panic attack today and still struggled to eat (appetite is just gone) but I didn't feel so dragged down, and that's only been since I decided to ctb. I don't want to live ... even just thinking about just continuing for the next 50+ years makes me want to cry. The fact that I can end it whenever I want to helps. I just need time to plan. If I can enjoy little parts of life until I'm ready, that's great, maybe it will be enough to keep me around, well see. I know if I hadn't made up my mind then I wouldn't feel so light though. It's like a weight is off my shoulders. I can enjoy things more, because the weight will be gone soon. I don't have to worry about my future or my life. Like I can finally focus on the moment. What happens between now and ctb, happens. Let's just enjoy the ride
My online friend, the one who knows the most about my interest in ctb, sent this to me the other night: "I didn't come back with any intention of ever leaving your side again" & (after I called myself an idiot) "This idiot kinda fell in love with the idiot many years ago and I don't think he's ever gonna be able to really let her go" and holy fuck did that make me feel guilty. Like goddammit. Dude. I wish he'd stop giving a fuck, I've fucked him over multiple times and he's still there. He berated me last night for being up late, even though he was the one feeling shitty and needing comfort. I honestly don't get why he still cares. It'd be a hell of a lot easier if I hadn't told him or if he left, I've pushed him away MANY times. It's like trying to kill a roach. Oh well.
I'm still not sure how I'll ctb in the end, I am kind of interested in SN, just not sure how I'll obtain everything. Gasses are off the table unless I set up a tent and sealed it off, otherwise I'd just hurt other household members. N would obviously be great but that's never happening.
I just ... part of me wants to chill for a bit longer, see friends more, dye my hair, I mean once I figure it out then it will be there for me when I'm ready. My date had originally been September 18th so, that's still a while ahead. I feel better after deciding though, I'm happy about it. I still had a panic attack today and still struggled to eat (appetite is just gone) but I didn't feel so dragged down, and that's only been since I decided to ctb. I don't want to live ... even just thinking about just continuing for the next 50+ years makes me want to cry. The fact that I can end it whenever I want to helps. I just need time to plan. If I can enjoy little parts of life until I'm ready, that's great, maybe it will be enough to keep me around, well see. I know if I hadn't made up my mind then I wouldn't feel so light though. It's like a weight is off my shoulders. I can enjoy things more, because the weight will be gone soon. I don't have to worry about my future or my life. Like I can finally focus on the moment. What happens between now and ctb, happens. Let's just enjoy the ride