I understand, I want to clear up any confusion. When I say "let's talk," I only mean here, in this thread. I'm not asking for private contact or trying to push anything on anyone. I know this space can feel protective, and I'd never want to cross a boundary that makes anyone uncomfortable.
I'm not here to love-bomb or to try to force a particular outlook. I'm just someone who understands what it's like to feel lost. I've been through my own struggles, and sometimes I wished I had someone who would listen without judgment. That's all I'm here to do, to listen, to share space, and maybe offer a little peace, even if it's temporary.
I know this community has a lot of different perspectives, and I respect that. My hope is just to be part of the conversations here, to connect with others who might be feeling the same way I do. I'm not here to 'fix' anything, just to be present in whatever way helps. If my approach isn't helpful to some, I'm open to hearing that too.
@Fangarina @SVEN @rozeske
Some people who have interacted indirectly, I'd like if you would see this too.
Now, please shift the focus back to h4anh. They deserve it much just like the rest of us when we post.
I find your response quite patronising, especially the last sentence.
We are allowed to have our judgement, and this is how you come across. We post some very intimate posts about our thoughts and health, and of course we are going to be weary when someone brand new comes in and posts an insane amount of comments in a small space of time without actually knowing much about anyone here. As I said, long time lurker and took a while to comment because I followed threads and users and got to know people from the shadows.
This is a pro-choice board, and I have read far too many comments from you within the last 24hrs that make you come across as a pro-lifer who is trying to convince people to rethink.
While I appreciate that this may be helpful for some members, I can assure you that I would find it very distressing if you commented on my post in that manner when I am already in crisis.
You post essays and invite people in to discuss things in depth which again, comes off as you offering adhoc therapy sessions. We are all here for the same reason (or should be unless you have an ulterior motive for being on the board like media looking for stories).
It's great you have joined and want to partake in the community, but you so far, have not shown any thoughts on CTB other than telling people to wait it out and talk to you….
Surely you can see why we are all a little suspicious of your activity on the board? A place we come to, to share our thoughts and views with like minded people and not have the fear of people telling us to 'sleep on it, tomorrow will be better'….
I'm pro choice. I will never encourage or share methods with people, but I absolutely respect the choice people will make - me included when I have tied up all my loose ends. I will listen, support and check in on people. But only when I feel it is appropriate.
Also - apologies
@h4nah4ki for hijacking your post, genuinely not what you needed and l am sorry as it is actually quite inappropriate on my behalf.
