Is tinder helpful?

[Zer0]

I had a thing with a girl few months ago but I got dumped and I'm having a hard time getting over it. I'm not good meeting new people because of some social anxiety but I'm thinking of trying to find some girl on tinder and move on ( like my friends advised one hundred times ).

Do you have any experience with dating apps?

 

[phoenix_borderless]

I find having someone does give us a purpose to live. But it's difficult to talk about problems unless they are empathetic or can relate which is rare.

What about yourself? Do you avoid talking about problems?

 

[CFLoser]

No.

 

[Zer0]

No.

Hmm, why do you say that?

I find having someone does give us a purpose to live. But it's difficult to talk about problems unless they are empathetic or can relate which is rare.

What about yourself? Do you avoid talking about problems?

I do avoid talking about it with almost everyone. My intention on tinder would be finding someone I can have a relationship ( not necessarily a serious one ). Maybe just being around people or having sex will be enough for me.

 

[NextBusLeaving]

Tinder is a looks game my friend. Just be aware. If you're not at least a 7-8 it will be lonely.

 

[Zer0]

Tinder is a looks game my friend. Just be aware. If you're not at least a 7-8 it will be lonely.

I consider myself average.
I'm not expecting woman raining from everywhere, I just want someone to hang out sometimes and if I get lucky I can have sex from time to time.

 

[NextBusLeaving]

I am average and I have not experienced any Tinder success. Ymmv.

 

[ArtsyDrawer]

I set my tinder profile to be "extremely/overly raw", as some people describe it, to act as a filter of sorts against the overly happy, giggly dtf kind of girls.
I've also picked some pretty bad selfies. One is my normal self, another two are of myself during my stay in vEEG (video EEG) of slightly-more-than-a-week, grinning, and showing my fucked up teeth, and one of just a photo I took that I find nice.
Despite this, I did get some matches!
Certainly, it was for a very short time because, as turns out I'm creepy...
Still, though, this method seems to show potential.

 

[ManWithNoName]

I had a thing with a girl few months ago but I got dumped and I'm having a hard time getting over it. I'm not good meeting new people because of some social anxiety but I'm thinking of trying to find some girl on tinder and move on ( like my friends advised one hundred times ).

Do you have any experience with dating apps?

I've never done dating via online but I have plenty of friends (these guys are young, good looking, hard working - normal, good social skills) who have zero luck. Essentially all online dating - be it apps or websites is an arena where the odds are stacked up against men, period. Don't believe the bs hype you see advertised about these sites and apps. This is a harsh thing to say, and I certainly do not mean to offend anyone, but no man with any dignity or self respect should waste his time with meeting women via online.

From what I have been told, many women have profiles on tinder and similar sites / apps just to get contacted / attention from guys with no intent to even respond to the men who showed them interest.

And you'll be competing with rich dudes and their sports cars.

I understand the current state of things and I don't envy young guys today trying to find a decent gal, though I do not think that it is hopeless.

Instead of using online dating means, try using the web to find in-real-life events you might enjoy (for example meetup.com) that are local to where you are, and meet women in a more natural means like an art exhibition, or a movie club, book club, or something that you enjoy as well where members of the opposite sex will also be in attendance.

 

[Futility]

Never used tinder myself, but I watch the boyfriend use it. (We are open/poly)
So far it's been at a 100% failure rate because he's not rich and isn't at least 6ft tall with a face sculpted by a Greek artisan.
Nobody wants to know him personally, they just want a sugar daddy that looks good. :/
I'm also seeing a bunch of women with kids that want for a rich dad to take care of them.

We actually had more luck with craigslist before they removed their personals page. It's so sad that it's gone.

 

[Pointless]

In my experience no, is useless. But if you want try it, maybe you will be more lucky!

 

[Zer0]

I've never done dating via online but I have plenty of friends (these guys are young, good looking, hard working - normal, good social skills) who have zero luck. Essentially all online dating - be it apps or websites is an arena where the odds are stacked up against men, period. Don't believe the bs hype you see advertised about these sites and apps. This is a harsh thing to say, and I certainly do not mean to offend anyone, but no man with any dignity or self respect should waste his time with meeting women via online.

From what I have been told, many women have profiles on tinder and similar sites / apps just to get contacted / attention from guys with no intent to even respond to the men who showed them interest.

And you'll be competing with rich dudes and their sports cars.

I understand the current state of things and I don't envy young guys today trying to find a decent gal, though I do not think that it is hopeless.

Instead of using online dating means, try using the web to find in-real-life events you might enjoy (for example meetup.com) that are local to where you are, and meet women in a more natural means like an art exhibition, or a movie club, book club, or something that you enjoy as well where members of the opposite sex will also be in attendance.

I think I will totally fail if I go this way, I'm not good knowing people and thought online dating was easier. Maybe I will just stay alone and look for a hooker, it is easier this way, at least I know what I'm getting before I start creating expectations.

In my experience no, is useless. But if you want try it, maybe you will be more lucky!

I think I will give it a shot, I'm stuck on profile creation, I don't have pictures of myself so I will have to take a few ones.

 

[Sever]

I installed tinder to use it on its purpose - fast hookup; following the advise of the ss member. I began chatting with one guy, planned to get drunk with him and make him pay and than have sex if he's handsome. Even thought things got horribly wrong, tider definetely works.
We two met, began drinking. He turned out to be real pro in drinking - so when i was literally drunk as fuck and passing out, he was still almost sober. We had cringy drunk walk to the local booze shop tottering, falling down and dropping bottles of beer. It ended up with me passing out on his bed. Ofc we didn't have sex that day.
Next day hungover talks transfigured to the hungover kissing, petting etc.
That's how i got a bf from tinder in 2 days

 

[Bagger]

It is if you state there that you don't look for causal sex and you want to talk and have a good time. Beers will do the rest. And sex eventually came too. Other than that ditch it and move away to more simple stuff, open door for nice girl, talk to some casually, about what YOU like, do not think what she may like, just be what you are. Accept that 10-20-50 throw u away, and think about that you chances are more than 0. ALWAYS.

 

[Wayfaerer]

It is if you state there that you don't look for causal sex and you want to talk and have a good time. Beers will do the rest. And sex eventually came too. Other than that ditch it and move away to more simple stuff, open door for nice girl, talk to some casually, about what YOU like, do not think what she may like, just be what you are. Accept that 10-20-50 throw u away, and think about that you chances are more than 0. ALWAYS.

I'm way too depressed for any of that.

 

[Bagger]

I'm too, but it is just the way it is. It hard, it's exhausting, it's terrible.

 

[ManWithNoName]

I installed tinder to use it on its purpose - fast hookup; following the advise of the ss member. I began chatting with one guy, planned to get drunk with him and make him pay and than have sex if he's handsome. Even thought things got horribly wrong, tider definetely works.
We two met, began drinking. He turned out to be real pro in drinking - so when i was literally drunk as fuck and passing out, he was still almost sober. We had cringy drunk walk to the local booze shop tottering, falling down and dropping bottles of beer. It ended up with me passing out on his bed. Ofc we didn't have sex that day.
Next day hungover talks transfigured to the hungover kissing, petting etc.
That's how i got a bf from tinder in 2 days

That makes sense - online dating definitely works for women.

I think I will totally fail if I go this way, I'm not good knowing people and thought online dating was easier. Maybe I will just stay alone and look for a hooker, it is easier this way, at least I know what I'm getting before I start creating expectations.


I think I will give it a shot, I'm stuck on profile creation, I don't have pictures of myself so I will have to take a few ones.

You will eventually have to meet these women in person right? Or do you keep your contact via online only?

 

[mathieu]

I found it quite useful. Give it a try.

 

[Zer0]

That makes sense - online dating definitely works for women.

You will eventually have to meet these women in person right? Or do you keep your contact via online only?

I intend to meet them eventually but maybe it is easier if I know them first. I get really anxious when I meet someone new and usually that part is where they lose interest in me.

 

[namelessX8]

I'm too, but it is just the way it is. It hard, it's exhausting, it's terrible.

On a different note, Werner Heisenberg is one of my favourite Physicists (c.f. your "signature"). I hope I can have a mind like his in my next life. I try to drown my loneliness in Mathematical Physics...

 

[clownangel]

One of my best relationships was with someone I'd matched on OkCupid (never met up with, we were both anxious as hell) and then matched with on Tinder a year later - thought the situation was funny and figured we might as well try it. Dated for a couple years, still good friends now.

....I did end up banned from the app though (was being harassed, dude reported me as fake despite yknow - being me, I lost my account, really stupid honestly) so assuming you don't run into goofy shit like that it's worth a shot IMO, I'd even met just friends on the app which was nice too.

I intend to meet them eventually but maybe it is easier if I know them first. I get really anxious when I meet someone new and usually that part is where they lose interest in me.

I was really upfront with my anxiety and the people that were actually worth meeting didn't mind. I honestly used that as a gauge of if someone was worthwhile or not - if they were willing to get to know eachother via text etc first then it's all good.

 

[Bathsheba]

Yes I was in different dating sites a few years ago to meet boys and girls. As long as you don't get your hopes up and be realistic about your expectations it can be fun and a distraction. But if you are vulnerable it's easy to get hurt. You need to be thick skinned and enjoy dating for the joy of meeting new people rather than expecting it to lead anywhere.

 

[Nem]

I met my ex online...biggest freakin mistake on earth...,EARTH!!!!!
Peace/hugs

 

[justwhy?]

The data from the companies themselves demonstrated that OLD is a self esteem wrecking waste of time for men who aren't really good looking. They've since tried to suppress that data and spin men yarns - because the truth being out there hurt their bottom lines. Countless experiments (just look around on youtube) affirm the pointlessness of OLD for men.

 

[Bärchen]

You are a guy , right? Good luck with that

 

[Final Escape]

Unless you are quite attractive as a guy, I wouldn't waste my time on Tinder. Women have more options on it especially if they are fairly young. The problem for women is that there tends to be lots of dangerous types of guys on there especially if you're in a big city. I saw one I thought might be interesting, it's for people with mental illness. I forget what it's called, but basically so u can be open about issues and meet others with similar stuff. It's called nolongerlonely. That dating site. On the other hand is it really a good idea to tell anyone u are mentally ill? Might attract predatory types lol!

 

[clownangel]

On the other hand is it really a good idea to tell anyone u are mentally ill? Might attract predatory types lol!

When I started reading I'm like "oh, that's really cool!" and by the time I reached the end of it I realized yeeeeah I can definitely see terrible predatory folks looking for someone on there and got the creeps. (Bummer, in theory it is nice!)

 

[greenlight]

It's not even remotely helpful if you aren't a good looking guy

 

[Lethe]

Don't you have any self-respect? Keep yourself off the meat market (Tinder).

 

[FallenX]

Full of bots now