Venting is this stupid

[coldworld]

I've been ruminating about this, Wouldn't it be super unethical and morally wrong to try and enter a into an intimate relationship with someone, as an actively suicidal person? with you knowing you don't plan on staying alive for much longer? i feel really guilty over this. This is a bad thing to do to someone right?

 

[zdeweilx]

Yeah i think it wouldn't be very fair to the person you'd have a relationship with.

Or at least warn the person you're suicidal before you start dating him or her.

 

[e!kent]

I've been ruminating about this, Wouldn't it be super unethical and morally wrong to try and enter a into an intimate relationship with someone, as an actively suicidal person? with you knowing you don't plan on staying alive for much longer? i feel really guilty over this. This is a bad thing to do to someone right?

If you are following a therapy hoping to get better, then I don't see any problems in dating someone. Important: make your partner aware of your mental state

 

[amor.dor]

Yes. The truly loving choice is sometimes not to be with the person you love.

This isn't empty moralizing. I know this from both sides.

I loved someone who died by suicide. he left words absolving me, saying how much he cared. It didn't matter. For months, I drowned in guilt.

And now on the other side: as a suicidal person. And because of that, I hope my absence goes unnoticed by those who might care. My suffering ends. Theirs, if they notice I'm gone, would just begin,a sentence they'd have to live with for who knows how long.

I should point out that there is a psychological phenomenon called "survivor's guilt," where people who were too close to suicidal individuals developed depression and some even killed themselves later.

 

[Dejected 55]

What about if you have something terminal?

I think if you're always honest with any potential partner about who you are and what your intentions are, then it is up to them to decide.