Is this site more talk than action

[Avicii]

I mean that in a good way before you come attacking - most people who commit suicide probably didn't come to this site

 

[LastDay]

Yeah I think there's different readiness to CTB. Some only come because they find comfort in talking about it openly with like minded people, some for info and logistics, some waiting for the right time, and some to help others cross the bridge like beautiful angels of death.

 

[lemmeeleev]

I mean that in a good way before you come attacking - most people who commit suicide probably didn't come to this site

You not wrong, but some people hide this site so no one knows they were on it. So theres no way to know how many people that ended their life came to this site or how many from this site end their life.

 

[21Neberg]

There have been multiple people who have said goodbye - and never returned. So there is 'action', but that's not the point of it for me. I think the main purpose of this site is allowing for an open-minded discussion about suicide, instead of immediately saying 'life's good dont end it' like most of society tends to do. I love this site, and it's community.

 

[Taylored]

Everybody goes at their own pace. That's why I love this community

 

[Nik]

A safe place to discuss without judgement.

 

[JustAboutDone]

I think this site is whatever individual people want it to be for them. Some people want to find out about effectiveness of methods, others want moral support. There is a whole set of different personal issues - both mental health and physical health problems that lead people to ctb and people can choose to do that, or not in their own time.

Edit: The key thing is that, if people wish, this is a safe and non-judgemental space to discuss ctb. It doesn't mean you have to - today, tomorrow, or any other day. Some people find a path to recovery and that helps others back to their feet. Other people know that will never happen for them.

 

[Ch92921]

true better I should do action

 

[color_me_gone]

Lots of good posts here!
I agree with all of them.
I think this site does an amazing job in lots of different ways, as mentioned above.
It is a way to connect with amazing people when you are in such a troubled state.
I think we all truly care about each other.
It is always so sad when we see another farewell, but we know they are doing what they need to do.
And we understand.
And we miss them, even if we didn't interact with them, because we have read their posts.
We have come to know them.
Thanks everybody!

 

[Johnnythefox]

I'm sure it's also welcoming to those wanting to discuss mental health issues.

 

[Retched]

I went to a new med manager today. Was honest about how I'm feeling (except for the ctb plans I have, in place) and said all my friends are online, excluding exactly where online. But it's this community I was talking about. It's better therapy than I've ever had irl.

 

[bigj75]

It's the number one place to come on the Internet.

You have people who relate to you and people to talk to.
You have a wide array of information to properly ctb.
You have methods to combat depression if suicide isn't right for you.

It's definitely where you should go before you make the final decision to ctb.

 

[couragetodie]

While there are scammers, SS is literally one of the only places in the world where one can openly talk about CTB. It's incredibly isolating to not be able to discuss CTB without judgment irl. It's literally enough to cause one to be locked up in certain parts of the world. I mean, to literally just discuss it is that dangerous. For those of us suffering, it is a place where one can go without judgment in a world constantly pushing one to feel guilt if even to consider ctb as a way to end the pain and prevent the inevitable future pain.

 

[color_me_gone]

It's better therapy than I've ever had irl.

way way better
the shrinks can't appreciate how we feel
and they don't really care - it's just a job

 

[meowcat]

To me, this site is a lot of things.
Finding the right method to ctb.
Therapy in a sense that i can talk to people who empathize.
Exploration and preparation to ctb without any pressure from anybody.
And many have passed through this site before doing the final act.
Regardless of what I do,this site has been a great source of comfort and learning.

 

[Redt2go]

I think not, I think there is a lot of talk which has been really helpful for me

 

[daikon]

I was expecting a sort of hateful internet vibe when I first came here, but people are actually very compassionate. It's not a bunch of bullies pressuring people into suicide, it feels like a bunch of people at wits end grasping for at straws, together. It is a lot of talk but hey, it's a forum after all

 

[borntodie777]

Yeah I'm guilty of that too, I was supposed to be dead. I was supposed to die on 31 December 2018 but I failed. So I officially joined this place instead of being a lurker and liked talking shit in chat and making some friends.

Ctb is still on my mind but I keep missing the deadline and some of my plans didn't work out as i had hoped

 

[TAW122]

I have actually taken steps and action into my future ctb. I'm definitely on the non-recovery boat because I've seen the vast majority of life as it is and given my circumstances (I won't get into all the details as it'll be too long and off tangents), ctb is for me. It is only a matter of when and where, dependent on the circumstances at said time. This site has just made my day to day life a bit more bearable and having like-minded people here helps me to be able to vent, bounce off ideas, support each other in dire times, and more.

I have my method ready and nowadays, it is only a matter of mostly circumstances and less about time.

 

[couragetodie]

Even if this is only talk for many, it's at least a place where one can freely talk about arguably the most taboo subject in the world. I have only been here a short while but have found a nice community where as miserable as most of us are, our misery enjoys some company of compassion. Not to mention there is a ton of valuable information here that helps those of us trying to make sense of the options and not make a major mistake when we are finally ready to ctb.

 

[Jon]

Everybody's said great things on this thread. Often people say they join it because of the methods, but stay because of the community. I see the site as a suffering-reduction site, both in regards to reducing the pain through suicide and also to reduce the pain in living. Suicide itself eliminates suffering, but even so people who use this site are obviously still alive, so it makes sense to help each other until we reach the decision or until circumstances force us to make that decision. And for many there is no deadline to make the decision, as external circumstances and internal outlooks play their part as well, and are subject to change. And much of the advice of this site is useful as well, because we've all been through or are going through the same or similar kinds of troubles and because most of us believe that there is nothing intrinsically bad in suicide and death, it then pushes us to think of reasons to live when we know deep down that death itself is a solution. That's the key difference between this site and sites which are actively against the right to die, in that they believe death is bad and life is precious, and that we should live precisely for that reason. But few, if anyone on here will buy into that, but just want a frank and open discussion on suicide: the reasons to live and make life a little easier and likewise, have the guidance, if wanted, to exit peacefully.

But there have definitely been people here who have decided to die, just as there are others here who are postponing it, and others still who have gave up on the idea altogether. Everyone benefits in some way or another, as sound advice from like-minded people especially those who see suicide as neither morally wrong nor a selfish act - the latter perhaps being the most insulting and ignorant criticism of those against the right to die - invaluable.

 

[Help_Me]

It's simply for everyone. I personally don't think it it is just about talking. Look at that, almost every week at least 1 user starts a goodbye thread and tries to ctb... We had an intensive streak in November when a lot of people ordered SN and consumed it. Talking is all right, because it helps you to share some valuable experience with others, you may also talk about anything besides suicide. Also, sometimes I see topics with "recovery" tag. This means somebody actually finds strength to live their jacked up lives, or at least tries to.. This forum is for everyone and I find it as a main feature of SS.