There is a half of the human species, whose presence in public life, is seen as a set-up for sexual entertainment, or a source of natural 'care-taking' - if we were human beings the same amount of humor about others based on our desires, and expectations for support, would flow the other way.
Consider we don't agree to live and die this way.
FOR EXAMPLE: Here, would it seem as natural to say, that this is a place for discussing a serious topic and so not a place to look
for boys?
First, well, if someone was doing that - they would probably talk about looking
for men. "Boys" would seem weird or insulting. (This is not a place for minors.)
And then - we accept that there are
many men here, and people will often want to talk to them about things. But
talking to a man is not understood as euphemism for sexual entertainment or off-color jokes like astolfo posted above. (No complaint about you, astolfo, just an example.) Nor is it as loaded with the expectation that a man should provide fill-in for missing parental care.
(Lack of caretaking can be devestating, regardless of the caretaker/parent's gender - and we keep getting into this weird territory where this loss isn't taken as the same serious 24/7 pain when experienced by women.)
