Is the answer to just not care?

[NeverGoodEnuff]

I just now realized that if I didn't care about others, didn't care about who or what they are, all this pain and suffering wouldn't exist. The source, for me, always seems to be from other people that I care about.

Hmmm... will have to think about this.

Comments anyone?

 

[Red]

Ignorance is bliss...
Oblivion sounds pretty good to me!

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I don't think you can choose to not care. You may be able to pretend you don't, but I don't think it's a choice for most people.

I didn't care once. 1997. Most of it. It was the first and only time SSRIs worked for me. It was bloody fantastic. Whatever happened, i just dealt with it, nothing phased me because it was all just a game put there for my entertainment. Didn't last though and probably good that it didn't because I mostly behaved like an arrogant tw*t.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Yes. However it can take a bit of work to retrain your brain, but yeah not caring is a basic way to put it. Honestly I've found for me personally I've had to basically rewire my whole brain but everyone has different problems so you might not have as much to "rewire". It all depends on what the problem is and what you want to change.

 

[Mr2005]

Certainly makes life easier if you only care about yourself. However I didn't even do that much. I'm a better person now but find life absolutely brutal. Was it worth it? Probably not. I'm still ultimately caring about something other than myself for my own sake. If you're hoping you'll be rewarded from them you'll be disappointed

 

[L-L]

If you didn't care about the things you do now, what would replace it?

I've a feeling that the majority of people who are "like us" will, to some extent, have difficulty regulating their emotions. I imagine that if you didn't care about the things you did, other things would fill the "things I care about" void, and you'd be more fixated on them.

Hell - maybe it should be a new treatment.
"Stop caring about the shit you do, and start caring about something that won't get you down".

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

A person who doesn't care would make a perfect politcian.

From others, little hurts, little hurts, little hurts then a big hurt and BAM, all done caring. Once that happens, they can't hurt me anymore. A light comes on and I see who they really are.
Edit: dealing with it... Two years ago, I met someone (not romantic) that I thought would be a Good Friend. However, I consciously approached it guardedly. One evening, during a conversation about relationships, she said something along the lines of she maintained contact with people she doesn't like just in case she needed something from them. It was just a quick comment. I have never forgotten it. I have helped her numerous times when nobody else would, expecting nothing in return. Once, I did ask her to help me but she said no. It was really just a test to see what she would do.

Now if I could just do that with everybody. Seems so cold, though.

 

[XYZ]

Not caring is the key to leading a happy life. I don't lead a happy life.

 

[greebo6]

I just now realized that if I didn't care about others, didn't care about who or what they are, all this pain and suffering wouldn't exist. The source, for me, always seems to be from other people that I care about.

Hmmm... will have to think about this.

Comments anyone?

Something so often easier said than done....But you may have something there.

 

[SipSop]

I didn't read your post, only the title.
The answer is "no".
Caring is important, it shows you what you should focus your attention and energy on. Also it shows what bothers you and what should be discarded.
By doing so you indirectly care for yourself and feel mor fulfilled, happy, satisfied.

The solution? Power.
I do not want to go into detail about this. Many types of power and ways to exercise it.

Powerful people care the most. About themselves and thei interests. As your power grows, you focus narrows on you and what you care about.

To deny your emotions is energy depleting without productive purpose. And will make you mentally and physically sick ib the long term, wondering why you have outbursts at slightest inconveniences.

You need power to care.

 

[woxihuanni]

A person who doesn't care would make a perfect politcian.

From others, little hurts, little hurts, little hurts then a big hurt and BAM, all done caring. Once that happens, they can't hurt me anymore. A light comes on and I see who they really are.
Edit: dealing with it... Two years ago, I met someone (not romantic) that I thought would be a Good Friend. However, I consciously approached it guardedly. One evening, during a conversation about relationships, she said something along the lines of she maintained contact with people she doesn't like just in case she needed something from them. It was just a quick comment. I have never forgotten it. I have helped her numerous times when nobody else would, expecting nothing in return. Once, I did ask her to help me but she said no. It was really just a test to see what she would do.

Now if I could just do that with everybody. Seems so cold, though.

One cunt like her breaks many people's trust in good people.

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

Powerful people care the most. About themselves and thei interests. As your power grows, you focus narrows on you and what you care about.

You need power to care.

Yes, you do need power to care, about yourself and your own interest but not about others. Thank you for clarifying that.

Perhaps the road to healing, in this SS context, is to care only about yourself. You made my point better than I did.

 

[SipSop]

You made my point better than I did

That's the point of this place. To figure thigs out, to enlighten you so you can make the right decisions for yourself.

The beauty of Sanctioned Suicide.