you seem really thoughtful, i think thats inspirational, but i also have a penchant of looking up to people who make me feel seen. i completely agree that instant gratification is something of a sleuth to society, breaking down connections and stuff. obviously don't stay with someone abusing you but... at least, with my current boyfriend (? are we ever together anymore, its so odd i dont know?)
he said he was uncertain about things and i was hurt and said if he wants to break up he should do it confidently so it hurts me less, and he said it and i got hurt obviously, he took it back and said he wasnt even really certain but he wanted to do what i asked, then the next day after i had a complete BPD meltdown, not violent towards him ofc, moreso myself. i am self destructive.
(i spent a few good minutes bashing a desk speaker against my head lol...)
he told me he's taking a break from being online. never said whether we're breaking up or not. but i figure its something like that bc when i texted his phone, when i do text now, he barely replies. if he does its short and plain.
"its okay ash.",
"everything will end up okay.",
"@ work" and i mean at least he's trying yk? he's stuck with me for almost a year now despite the long distance and the mental health struggles, because hes seen the purest part of me and the part that can be better. i see the same in him. and he's so talented, so am i. so feeling him pull away because of his life and the distance just hurts so much. it makes me feel like i fucked up being so needy. being negative and self-destructive. but i don't know how to stop it.
i lose everyone i love. no matter how much i try to love them and be forgiving as id like someone to be with me. we've both dealt with mental struggles so... i know hes got so much going on, i just wish i was more at the forefront. i dont know how to explain that i seriously want to kill myself and am in the process of probably going through with it.. and im scared he just wont care. im scared he doesnt have the energy to deal with me. but then why even respond, why not just block me when i tell him a million times to do it, and tell me he hates me, and im a burden and he doesnt need me?
its so confusing.
but i want to stay, because i know he loves me. and i love him too. maybe its the bpd but i dont believe in giving up so easily. if i love you, i want
you and nobody else. ill do everything to make our future real, if i can... i'll try my best even though im a lazy loser who doesnt even have any real passions.
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im not even a "failure". i'm going to community college, already ahead in credits from doing dual enrollment in senior year of HS. i dont have a job cus i got fired but yk... i cant drive yet... lol so okay maybe im a
bit behind but, i'm smart, i'm kind, i do what should be the "right things" kinda like you spoke about... but
i still want to die. ive still always wanted to die. i still suddenly over night feel like i lost the one person i love. and i cant take it.
to be told
"you'll find someone else, oh he was shitty anyways, theres better, you're young." this all seems annoying to me, because it comes from people who dont know me, or my relationship, and everything we've been through. and if youre even a little bit insecure in your relationship these comments will get to you. ive learned to shut it down by telling them, no i know he loves me. he was there after my suicide attempt, waiting after i got out of the ward, even after all my freak outs, all the pain, the times i cut and cried and broke down, he was there and loved me the same way i loved him through his own episodes, or relapses. obviously, two mentally ill teenagers in love lol its a horror story right? but still... theres so much beauty in it as well.
we both make music, weve made a couple songs together. im featured on a song on his first vinyl, of his first EP. im so happy, i paid to get it. but things suddnely just went downhill the past 4 days or so. and i just ... i dont know. its like a blinked and then its all gone. so shattered and broken and i dont know how to put it back together. how to pretend things are okay.
and now, i've already bought the SN., meto, benzos. ive told my one other friend and some people who are fans of my music that i'm probably ending it soon. no one wants me to. but i feel like ive made a commitment, and just like my relationship, i feel i have to follow through.
"stop suicide-baiting" a friend told me a few days ago.
that hurts. so much. they are never happy until you're dead and gone.
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