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ClownMe
Don't Cry for Me, I'm Already Dead
- Apr 7, 2021
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Hey everyone, it's my first time posting on here, ive been a long time lurker after being directed here by a comment on youtube (of all things) a while back.
Ive been really hesitant to post because: 1) im not very tech savvy and ive struggled browsing this forum at times (even though im young) and 2) im extremely scared of telling random strangers on the internet about what's going on in my life because im a very private person.
I hope ive formatted this post correctly and posted it in the right section, please inform me if I havent.
Anyway, here it goes...
A bit of backstory about me (because i think it's relevant to the question im asking),
Im a 20 year old male from Australia and ive suffered with horrible depression ever since I was 12 years old and its been unrelenting. My home life has always been abysmal, my mum is a narcassist who blames me for everything, she once even told me to knock myself off, my dad is an alcoholic and I can tell he secretly doesnt care about us despite the act he puts on and I dont really have a relationship with either of my brothers nor do i have any friends, i know a lot of people will say stuff like "oh your family loves you deep down", but the reality is they dont, i know that for a fact. I should note that our family is poor, not necessarily dirt poor but were lower working class and cant afford any luxuries, as a result of this and my mum working weird hours I havent been able to gain my license because I just dont have the time or the funds to practice driving, but even if I did I wouldnt be able to afford my own car, if i need to go anywhere I have to walk or walk and then catch a train. I got my first job at 14 working retail, I then went on to do work experience in the metals and engineering, electrical and labouring fields, I graduated high school in 2019, however I hadnt been able to secure employment until just recently, the only problem is that the job is a KFC a mile away, ive worked it out that ill be getting home by train at around 1am (potentially later) almost every night im rostered on to work there. This all leads me to today, ive lost all my motivation and will to live, i have my induction night tomorrow where I have to meet all the other trainees and do a few other activities but I just couldnt care less, i feel like a zombie, i thought for 2 years that finally landing a job would make me happy, but it hasnt. I dont want to go to this induction night tomorrow but I know if I dont my mum will kick me out and i will be homeless. It doesnt feel like im living right now, once I start this job full time my life will almost literally be work 24/7 due to the travel requirements and the fact i need to fit some kind of sleep in between. I knew I had problems but i think it only just hit me how low ive sunk.
My plan at this moment in time:
The only thing im living for as of this moment is my 13 year old jack russell, i promised myself that no matter how bad things got i would never commit suicide and leave him behind. Ive decided it will have to be after he passes away that i start looking into suicide methods, this could be anywhere upwards of 2 years, he is still relatively healthy for his age.
This is where my question comes into play, do you think i should abort this plan and extend my life at least by a little bit longer? Say, into my 30's or 40's? Im posing this question more to the "older" people on this forum, aged upwards from their early 30's who have had similar experiences to the one ive described above.
Can you get your motivation to live back after such a long time with no motivation?
Is there any worth in living past your early 20's if you're severely depressed?
I really want some honest answers so please dont hold back.
Thank you to anybody who has read this post in it's entirety, i know it's long but i needed to give you all the facts so you can better advise me on my decision.
Ive been really hesitant to post because: 1) im not very tech savvy and ive struggled browsing this forum at times (even though im young) and 2) im extremely scared of telling random strangers on the internet about what's going on in my life because im a very private person.
I hope ive formatted this post correctly and posted it in the right section, please inform me if I havent.
Anyway, here it goes...
A bit of backstory about me (because i think it's relevant to the question im asking),
Im a 20 year old male from Australia and ive suffered with horrible depression ever since I was 12 years old and its been unrelenting. My home life has always been abysmal, my mum is a narcassist who blames me for everything, she once even told me to knock myself off, my dad is an alcoholic and I can tell he secretly doesnt care about us despite the act he puts on and I dont really have a relationship with either of my brothers nor do i have any friends, i know a lot of people will say stuff like "oh your family loves you deep down", but the reality is they dont, i know that for a fact. I should note that our family is poor, not necessarily dirt poor but were lower working class and cant afford any luxuries, as a result of this and my mum working weird hours I havent been able to gain my license because I just dont have the time or the funds to practice driving, but even if I did I wouldnt be able to afford my own car, if i need to go anywhere I have to walk or walk and then catch a train. I got my first job at 14 working retail, I then went on to do work experience in the metals and engineering, electrical and labouring fields, I graduated high school in 2019, however I hadnt been able to secure employment until just recently, the only problem is that the job is a KFC a mile away, ive worked it out that ill be getting home by train at around 1am (potentially later) almost every night im rostered on to work there. This all leads me to today, ive lost all my motivation and will to live, i have my induction night tomorrow where I have to meet all the other trainees and do a few other activities but I just couldnt care less, i feel like a zombie, i thought for 2 years that finally landing a job would make me happy, but it hasnt. I dont want to go to this induction night tomorrow but I know if I dont my mum will kick me out and i will be homeless. It doesnt feel like im living right now, once I start this job full time my life will almost literally be work 24/7 due to the travel requirements and the fact i need to fit some kind of sleep in between. I knew I had problems but i think it only just hit me how low ive sunk.
My plan at this moment in time:
The only thing im living for as of this moment is my 13 year old jack russell, i promised myself that no matter how bad things got i would never commit suicide and leave him behind. Ive decided it will have to be after he passes away that i start looking into suicide methods, this could be anywhere upwards of 2 years, he is still relatively healthy for his age.
This is where my question comes into play, do you think i should abort this plan and extend my life at least by a little bit longer? Say, into my 30's or 40's? Im posing this question more to the "older" people on this forum, aged upwards from their early 30's who have had similar experiences to the one ive described above.
Can you get your motivation to live back after such a long time with no motivation?
Is there any worth in living past your early 20's if you're severely depressed?
I really want some honest answers so please dont hold back.
Thank you to anybody who has read this post in it's entirety, i know it's long but i needed to give you all the facts so you can better advise me on my decision.