Is it weird to rely on others?

[DevilInHell667]

Is it ok for me to ask questions about myself about self acceptance? Is it weird that I need to ask these questions to feel relieved about myself?

 

[Circlingthedrain]

From my experience you kind of have to rely on others to feel any sort of acceptance. Especially if you want to ctb or are just sinking into depression. I'm probably wrong but just for me the worse I got made it harder too accept anything about myself

Is it ok for me to ask questions about myself about self acceptance? Is it weird that I need to ask these questions to feel relieved about myself?

 

[Thereisnothing]

When we are so low and depressed its very hard to feel positive about anything and especially ourselves. If we have very low self esteem its hard to feel good about ourselves and worse when we have had people run us down and made us feel worthless. it people are kind to someone and give them praise and encouragement and show us what we are worth then our own self worth and acceptance gets better. Accepting ourselves is hard, but not many people in this world are kind to others genuinely so, so its down to us to feel good and worth for on our selves. if someone pays a compliment or says something positive about us then we should believe and accept it. We all need reassuring, nothing wrong with that.

 

[SlackJim]

It is completely normal to depend on others, that is how we have evolved, as social beings. I think it is good to try and get to a place where we feel confident enough to not depend on external stimuli for self worth (weather that is drugs, relationships, possessions etc.) but it is not weird not to do so. Maybe ask yourself where these questions come from "why do I want approval from X?" "why don't I feel good unless I'm accepted by Y?". I wish you the best, sorry if what I'm saying isn't relevant.

 

[imagineit]

It is completely normal to depend on others, that is how we have evolved, as social beings. I think it is good to try and get to a place where we feel confident enough to not depend on external stimuli for self worth (weather that is drugs, relationships, possessions etc.) but it is not weird not to do so. Maybe ask yourself where these questions come from "why do I want approval from X?" "why don't I feel good unless I'm accepted by Y?". I wish you the best, sorry if what I'm saying isn't relevant.

This. It is part of the human experience. But humans don't always do it right, both in reaching out and in helping out.

Asking questions is the bedrock of knowledge and discovery and so one should never be afraid of asking questions. Particularly if they involve pursuit of personal truth. But that information must be scrutinized and your reasoning sound if you are to make good use of your time spent asking questions.

 

[k75]

It is completely normal to depend on others, that is how we have evolved, as social beings. I think it is good to try and get to a place where we feel confident enough to not depend on external stimuli for self worth (weather that is drugs, relationships, possessions etc.) but it is not weird not to do so. Maybe ask yourself where these questions come from "why do I want approval from X?" "why don't I feel good unless I'm accepted by Y?". I wish you the best, sorry if what I'm saying isn't relevant.

I was going to say something similar.

 

[Starrywaters]

Dependence on others is at the very centre of human nature. We are social creatures, they say loneliness kills for a reason.

You came into the world dependent; for somebody to feed you, dress you, keep you safe. You grow up dependent on your teachers to learn, friends to learn from.. dependence changes as we age but it is at the centre of our very beings.

Never feel sad or awkward for depending on others. Everybody does it.

 

[Moonicide]

It's more than okay to ask those questions, and it isn't weird to rely on others, love. I'm very much guilty of that and have placed my heart and happiness into someone else's hands. It didn't turn out too well. When it comes to relying on others, there has to be a healthy balance between being supported and being dependent. Not only that, but it is such a lonely feeling when you seek acceptance and validation from others. You feel empty, because you can't find it within yourself. It's not easy to get to the point of self acceptance. I'm close to 30 years old and I've always struggled with it... I've come a long way from when I was in my early 20s, but it still has left me hollow... My heart goes out to you. I really hope you can find self acceptance within yourself one day, you deserve it. You deserve to be able to rely on yourself instead of others when the time calls for it. Just know we are here for you and we are listening. You are not alone in this.

Sending you all of my love.