Is it OK to cry?

[ReadyasEver]

I grew up in the 70's and 80's. A man's man. I was an athlete and played collegiate football. An engineer and executive by trade. The world has dealt me some severe blows. In an earlier post, I noted to the community that I have a heart condition now that will require surgery in the next year, along with a diagnosis of terminal cancer. Right now I feel decent, but it gets worse every month. Pain wise I'm coping fairly well. I going out on my own my terms. I'm not going to watch my family watch me die. In another post, I mentioned about possibly getting my family involved with the idea CTB. Not sure how to do it. I find myself overwhelmed at times with anxiety, fear, and sorrow. I cry by myself. It's hard for someone not in despair also to truly understand your situation. All of us are here for various reasons, but we want the same result, peace and the pain to stop. I'll cry with you as we make this journey together.

 

[LiveSlowDieFast]

All of us are here for various reasons, but we want the same result, peace and the pain to stop. I'll cry with you as we make this journey together.

That's a really beautiful thing to say.

 

[Sinbad]

In another post, I mentioned about possibly getting my family involved with the idea CTB. Not sure how to do it.

A loving family will support you regardless of how you explain your despair and the desire to CTB.

Tell them about assistant suicide. And how this option will save everyone from unnecessary pain.

 

[Jodes]

I grew up in the 70's and 80's. A man's man. I was an athlete and played collegiate football. An engineer and executive by trade. The world has dealt me some severe blows. In an earlier post, I noted to the community that I have a heart condition now that will require surgery in the next year, along with a diagnosis of terminal cancer. Right now I feel decent, but it gets worse every month. Pain wise I'm coping fairly well. I going out on my own my terms. I'm not going to watch my family watch me die. In another post, I mentioned about possibly getting my family involved with the idea CTB. Not sure how to do it. I find myself overwhelmed at times with anxiety, fear, and sorrow. I cry by myself. It's hard for someone not in despair also to truly understand your situation. All of us are here for various reasons, but we want the same result, peace and the pain to stop. I'll cry with you as we make this journey together.

No harm or shame in crying at all man. I'm totally for going outmon my own terms too, it feels relieving kmiwing you have that fallback , allows you to tidy loose ends and maybe make memories with anyone closesd to you, even if it's just the nurse

 

[MsM3talGamer]

I grew up in the 70's and 80's. A man's man. I was an athlete and played collegiate football. An engineer and executive by trade. The world has dealt me some severe blows. In an earlier post, I noted to the community that I have a heart condition now that will require surgery in the next year, along with a diagnosis of terminal cancer. Right now I feel decent, but it gets worse every month. Pain wise I'm coping fairly well. I going out on my own my terms. I'm not going to watch my family watch me die. In another post, I mentioned about possibly getting my family involved with the idea CTB. Not sure how to do it. I find myself overwhelmed at times with anxiety, fear, and sorrow. I cry by myself. It's hard for someone not in despair also to truly understand your situation. All of us are here for various reasons, but we want the same result, peace and the pain to stop. I'll cry with you as we make this journey together.

I have cancer too and I'm in a lot of pain today. Hello fellow cancer-sufferer.

 

[Miss clefable]

Please don't feel shameful about crying because your a guy it's just toxic muscularity so cry your fucking heart out okay hugs

 

[ReadyasEver]

I have cancer too and I'm in a lot of pain today. Hello fellow cancer-sufferer.

May we find the courage and conviction to find peace and calmness.

 

[Comatose11]

Of course it's ok to cry. What you're going through is tough. No one deserves to go through what you're going through.

 

[TAW122]

There is no shame in crying. Society is sick for reinforcing and enabling the toxic masculinity and gender roles. As far as getting your family to understand your point of view and wanting to go out on your own terms, it's a gamble, depending on what your family's moral system is. Are they devoutly religious? Do they have something against suicide in general? Are they staunch pro-life? etc. Nevertheless, a loving family, like @Sinbad said, would respect your decision and accept that you are minimizing your pain and suffering even if they don't agree with you.

Finally if you aren't in a state that has euthanasia or assisted suicide, then you may look into methods of ctb'ing yourself while you still can (jumping, firearm, hanging, SN, N, inert gases, etc.). Also, if possible, craft out an Advanced Directive, living will, and of course an DNR (Do Not Resuscitate order) and have them on file. Then get someone who has power of attorney as well as an attorney to help you with the legal stuff.

 

[ReadyasEver]

The will and everything else is laid out. We have maintained fairly well.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

I grew up in the 70's and 80's. A man's man. I was an athlete and played collegiate football. An engineer and executive by trade. The world has dealt me some severe blows. In an earlier post, I noted to the community that I have a heart condition now that will require surgery in the next year, along with a diagnosis of terminal cancer. Right now I feel decent, but it gets worse every month. Pain wise I'm coping fairly well. I going out on my own my terms. I'm not going to watch my family watch me die. In another post, I mentioned about possibly getting my family involved with the idea CTB. Not sure how to do it. I find myself overwhelmed at times with anxiety, fear, and sorrow. I cry by myself. It's hard for someone not in despair also to truly understand your situation. All of us are here for various reasons, but we want the same result, peace and the pain to stop. I'll cry with you as we make this journey together.

I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with so much. I'm not terminal but I do have 2 debilitating and very painful illnesses that have taken most of my freedom and independence away. Nothing compared to what you're going through but I can empathize. Never feel like it's not ok to cry. I cry a lot actually, and sometimes you just need to. My best wishes to you for comfort and peace.

 

[Watson]

You're going through so much already and you shouldn't have to torture yourself by trying to keep your tears at bay.

Every emotion we experience, we can't help but feel them— they are ours and ours alone, and we shouldn't have to hide or discount them.
Sometimes our emotions can't be expressed in words and can only be expressed in tears.

If you want/need to cry, I say cry and keep crying if you have to. And if your crying turns into ugly crying, that's ok too.

I will never understand just how daunting your situation is, but I'm truly sorry that you have to deal with all this. We can cry together :(

 

[Kyrok]

The appropriate reaction of a man to his own crying is crying.

 

[BeyondtheVeil]

Crying is cathartic. It's a release of energy. Emotions were never meant to be suppressed or bottled up. Emotion= Energy in motion. They're meant to be fluid. And at times that fluidity will show itself in the form of tears. It's all a part of being human... Much love and peace to you brother!

 

[Nik]

If we weren't meant to cry, we wouldn't have tear ducts.

 

[iceman]

It's perfectly natural and normal to cry, don't ever feel bad for being in pain and being in touch with your emotions. I am sorry you're going through so much, but I am glad you have this forum where you can speak openly about things like this.