Is it better to have toxic friends or no friends at all?

[tirednwired]

Toxic friends stress me out but I feel like having none would just make me more prone to thinking about CTB.

 

[mrpeter]

no friends is always better
is your entire friend group toxic are they online friends or real life friends

 

[tirednwired]

no friends is always better
is your entire friend group toxic are they online friends or real life friends

I had a close group of friends in high school but we all went to different unis and they have all managed to find other friend groups. I haven't made many friends in uni and my closest friend is extremely toxic. A lot of her other friends/people she introduces me to are like this too. I have one other good friend here but he has a busy schedule so I don't see him often. Not sure what to do especially because I just signed an apartment lease with the toxic one :(

 

[mrpeter]

I had a close group of friends in high school but we all went to different unis and they have all managed to find other friend groups. I haven't made many friends in uni and my closest friend is extremely toxic. A lot of her other friends/people she introduces me to are like this too. I have one other good friend here but he has a busy schedule so I don't see him often. Not sure what to do especially because I just signed an apartment lease with the toxic one :(

you can always try to make new friends its better to leave toxic friends if they are wearing you down

 

[-nobodyknows-]

Having no friends is better than having only toxic friends… though there are times when I wish I had some

 

[tirednwired]

you can always try to make new friends its better to leave toxic friends if they are wearing you down

It's one thing to realize when someone is toxic, leaving is a much harder story unfortunately :(

 

[leavingsoonx]

Toxic friends stress me out but I feel like having none would just make me more prone to thinking about CTB.

Depends on how toxic is it to you. I've had toxic friends and honestly felt relieved when I know I wouldn't hang out with them again and feel suicidal after it. Yet I have no friends now and it's pretty much the same level of bad except you can't even get good parts out of toxic friends anymore. Lonely.

 

[vanillamilkshakes]

alone 100%, I hung out with toxic people just because I didn't want to be alone. Its a mistake

 

[tirednwired]

Depends on how toxic is it to you. I've had toxic friends and honestly felt relieved when I know I wouldn't hang out with them again and feel suicidal after it. Yet I have no friends now and it's pretty much the same level of bad except you can't even get good parts out of toxic friends anymore. Lonely.

This is the main thing I'm afraid of. Sorry you feel this way :(

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

The ideal situation is one or two good friends - and that's it. If you're lucky enough to find them. If not, being alone for sure. People in general are just simply exhausting.

 

[leavingsoonx]

This is the main thing I'm afraid of. Sorry you feel this way :(

Thank you. Maybe an idea is finding new friends while you have your old friends (savour the good things) and then make that transition when possible. Wish you the best

 

[OldManOfTheLake]

Toxic friends make you feel like you have no one to talk to. Not even yourself.

Going out in the woods and being alone and maybe listening to a podcast? That's the life right there.

 

[LostLily]

I love my friends but I wish they didn't love me so it would be easier to CTB. I had bad friends in the past who belittered my feelings so I understand how hard it is to find good friends.

 

[Adûnâi]

It's obviously better to have toxic friends because you can always ditch them, whereas you can't make friends on demand (chances are, if you don't have them, it's over).

 

[alienfreak]

Alone is much better. Some say "we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with" - i think it is far from that simple, but there is some truth in that statement: we absorb a lot from the people we interact with, regardless of how much you may try not to.

I just signed an apartment lease with the toxic one :(

I would back out of that, in some (most?) countries the penalty may be 1-2 months rent?