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Mate, if you still have hope you can still try. What happened to you fucking sucks, but there are more jobs to get and relationships to be had. Grieve the losses you experienced here but try to get back up. It's horrible but not all is lost. I hate saying reasons aren't valid, so I am not going to because that's different for everyone but I do believe you can become better and get back up.Hoping for things to get better
I would give myself one final push, before I quit, maybe a month, I dont expect any turnaround, Idk I keep making excuses for ctb, I feel I rather die, my mind is fucked. It doesnt let me even try.
A lot of people that I've seen use the first breakup to fuel them. Many join the gym or take on the grind to start a business. Many also just let time heal the wounds. At 21 I would say that you should definitely try using it a source of strength and push forward. Maybe even get a therapist? It might seem like its over right now, but give it some time for the dust to settle in. A lot of people seem to me like they give up too soon. If it doesn't get any better after a year or two or three down the line then you could go down the path you are thinking of going right now. That is at least my framework of thinking... I've tried over and over again personally for many years and it seems like its over for me, but maybe its not for you. CTB is the last decision after all so at least give life a shot for a few more years. You can always come back.
Does there really have to be a timeline but i suppose there could be.
Because time does objectively and scientifically help "heal the wounds". Your mental state changes whether you want it or not. It changes when you leave your room, go in nature or when you go to a bar. It definitely changes big time when a significant amount of time passes. It COULD help him heal from his breakup, but it is definitely NOT a guarantee. Push through 2024/2025 and see how you feel. Might seem hopeless right now, but majority of the time people eventually find something that they care about (whether its a person, a hobby or something else).
I don't think so honestly. Not saying you aren't in pain but there is a path forward for you imo
Sorry but I've been too committed to ctb so I only have one end objective in mind but I understand where you are coming from. I've already waited for a few years now, went in and out of ideation with methods that didn't go anywhere in any serious application. Waiting a bit just does nothing at all, for me, anyway.
I've become adept and still being the same no matter where I go, bar, nature, restaurant, you name it. The scene doesn't change a thing because there's always this part of me that is hidden.
It definitely could. Going that far is just too much time for me to just wait in all honesty, 2024/25 is too far for what's happened already. I have hobbies but it did nothing for me, I have relationships I'd consider personal to some degree but it never stopped me either. I've never been determined at something to see it out.
