Discussion is dating when suicidal too cruel?

[meowingnomore]

if everything goes right i don't think i have more than a month left, but the thought of not being alone for those last few weeks sounds kinda comforting. is it too cruel to start a fling knowing you'll be forced to end it in a few weeks time? should suicidal people only date other suicidal people?

 

[stillmirenai]

It all depends on how you look at it. In the case that it fails, you can see if your partner is worth their salt, whether they'll stay with you and try to help you, or leave you like all the rest. Respectfully, just tell them you're limited edition, due to some condition you have or something. That way, even if you do end up successfully killing yourself, it's not a total shock to your partner.

 

[sorrowful]

i wouldn't suggest getting into a relationship if you are certain you want to ctb. it's likely they will try and talk you out of it, because they wouldn't want you gone and your ctb would hurt them. they could also admit you into a ward and depending on circumstances, laws etc where you are, you could be forced to stay there.

it's something you'd have to discuss before. though i'd imagine finding someone who is supportive of that would be hard. things such as suicidal partners or partners you plan to ctb with also pose risks

regardless, i can understand not wanting to be alone. best of wishes

 

[soft-flower345]

If you're going to, its probably best it's with someone who's also suicidal imo. People who aren't and/or have never been just wont understand and will have a very difficult time processing your death, even if it was just a fling. Your suicide will likely be traumatic to them.

It's different with suicidal people, specifically with those planning on committing because they can understand exactly how you're feeling and both of you can comfort each other in your final days without having to hide that part of you.

 

[jj#blm]

I have a crush on a girl I work with (think about her all the time, even gave her a gift) and decided not to ask her out even though I'm not set on killing myself. I'm only 50% certain that I'll ctb. I wouldn't want to hurt her or worse, make her depressed if I decide to ctb. I understand not wanting to be alone but there are too many risks to dating while suicidal. It's a big responsibility and might even become an obstacle to your ctb.

 

[The anhedonic one]

Personally yes, in my opinion because it is cruel on both people because you may fall deeply in love with that person, yet still feel like ctb, or you may ctb and cause an immense amount of unnecessary suffering for the other person.

 

[S u i c i d e]

I met someone on the Internet, but because it's probably nothing serious and it's just for sex and to have a good time together, it should be okay.