Discussion Is anyone jealous of how their former classmates are now successful?

[freedommatrix]

I'm 21 and graduated with shit grades back in June 2016, I'm still at my third attempt at going to college and if I don't get in, I'll be on the streets cause my parents will kick me out.

My classmates, even the ones who bullied me are now successful. I see them on Facebook going on holidays, getting J1 visas to do work in America.

Meanwhile I'm here about to be homeless.

 

[Squiddy]

I'm slightly jealous of a few of my bullies. Some of them are travelling the world

 

[NeCkDeEp]

Fucking yes. I never knew what to study, always ended up ending a study before graduation as I wasn't motivated enough.
Mind you, people I used to study with are having a partner, living together, some of them are having a kid now (I don't want a kid tho) and most importantly some are still studying to reach their goal and the other ones have graduated succesfully.

Only thing I do with my life is: living alone together with my pets and having a fulltime job at a call center, it haunts me that I don't know what else to do with my life and that I'm already stuck with not knowing what to study for 4 years.

Yes I'm jealous and would have loved to know which study I would have liked to do but seems like I will never know

 

[Final Escape]

I'm not anymore but maybe at one time I was. Some of us are just not as fortunate. When I look back at myself when I was in late teens and into my 20's I was extremely immature compared to my friends who were already making big steps towards adulthood alot earlier. Yea little did I know I was basically 2 yrs old emotionally in an adult body. It's not surprising that I wasn't taking on serious responsibility. I did go through some vocational school what a waste that turned out to be lol! The idea of kids was terrifying because I couldn't even properly care for myself.

 

[StillWaiting]

Yes... I see all my friends enjoying their lives while I am just trying to get my shit together.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Yes most of them have normal happy lives I don't see or speak to them but my mother often tells me of she randomly meets one of them....

 

[LivingToLong]

No, I'm really pleased for their successes! One is now a famous, Oscar winning film director. I couldn't be happier for them because I know how much they loved their work and worked hard to get there.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

Not at all jealous. Because life builds you up only to slowly disassemble you. Their pain of loss in this life will far outweigh mine.

 

[snorli]

Never had any contact with them after graduating high school .

 

[charlottewilts]

I am happy for them. I hope my bullies don't have kids though, but if they do, that they will raise them to be kind

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Why would I be jealous of them? Do I need to be jealous of them?

 

[snowman626]

It seems like everyone grew up normal. Classmates, siblings, cousins. I sometimes go thru their facebook and see them all smiling with friends and doing stuff, this makes me feel more bitter about my life. Im the only loner out of everyone who goes on a sucide forum everyday.

 

[passenger27]

I'm not jealous, but some friend's success stories sort of drive home the fact of what a failure at life I've been so far. A good case in point is finding my best childhood friend on Facebook. I sent him a friend request & he accepted instantly. We were really tight and went through a lot together, so I knew he'd remember me. Then I see he's a lawyer now, and I'm just some bipolar dude on disability, so I'm ashamed to even talk to him. So I guess for me it's not jealousy, but shame I feel about everybody else's success.

 

[lowres]

Honestly I went to a party with some new and old friends (some were mutual) and saw some old peers and some were better off than me working good jobs and stuff but they all had such boring personalities and no in depth interests and were pretty obnoxious when intoxicated, In hindsight i'm glad i got bullied and shit as a kid it made me more reclusive for a period but it also helped me develop thought out opinions and hobbies in my free time and i feel made me more understanding towards people who are treated like shit and now i've honestly stopped giving a shit about what people think of me for the most part i've become more sociable lately.

 

[LivingToLong]

I love how you've turned your experience of bullying around @lowres

 

[Farmmaa]

I'm not jealous, but some friend's success stories sort of drive home the fact of what a failure at life I've been so far. A good case in point is finding my best childhood friend on Facebook. I sent him a friend request & he accepted instantly. We were really tight and went through a lot together, so I knew he'd remember me. Then I see he's a lawyer now, and I'm just some bipolar dude on disability, so I'm ashamed to even talk to him. So I guess for me it's not jealousy, but shame I feel about everybody else's success.

This.
I'm jealous of the life they all lead I guess, but don't resent them for it. Most of them earned everything they have now.

It is disheartening though, knowing that I've also worked hard for many years and have nothing at all to show for it.
It does make you feel even more useless when you don't even know how you're going to pay rent each month and your peers are retiring early, travelling and enjoying life

 

[Moonicide]

No. It was one of the many reasons why I cut all contact and removed myself from any sort of social media platform. Because I knew it would hurt me. I knew it would make me even more impulsive and suicidal. That was my final attempt of trying to preserve the little bit of sanity I had left... I didn't need a constant reminder of my failures.

 

[EmptyMan]

Yes tbh
Even the morons who had nothing better to do than beat other children up and to smoke and do drugs have partners and are way happier then me

 

[Throwawaysoul]

I'm slightly jealous of a few of my bullies. Some of them are travelling the world

This... I know dicks from highschool that murdered someone, went to jail, came out and now have families, trades and homes. WTF. A Vietnam vet lost his life working 3rd fucking shift at a convenience store and these people are living it up now. Not jealous just hate how the world works.

 

[Lotus]

Yes and no. I'm jealous that they're achieving something in their life. I haven't felt that I have achieved something in a long time. However, I know that things aren't always what it seems. My guess is that many of my former classmates are jealous of me. Yes, I said it. ME. From an outside perspective, things are looking good and bright for me, and many people would do everything to be in the position I am in. At the same time, they have no idea of mental and physical health, and my darkest thoughts and dreams. I guess people would be shocked if I CTB. "This girl had everything". Only if they knew...

 

[Squiddy]

This... I know dicks from highschool that murdered someone, went to jail, came out and now have families, trades and homes. WTF. A Vietnam vet lost his life working 3rd fucking shift at a convenience store and these people are living it up now. Not jealous just hate how the world works.

That's crazy