I was watching some videos on YouTube about how a lot of homosexuality is a symptom of childhood trauma. And I thought about how I was beaten and harassed every day at school from when I was 7 until I was 16. At 12 I thought I was bisexual and at 17 I thought I was transgender. Now, I'm trying to renounce my past degeneracy and accept that I am not LGBT but that being LGBT is actually a symptom of repressed trauma. I don't know if it is possible to change from being LGBT but to me it seems more like a symptom of a larger mental illness. Does anyone have a similar experience?
GeorgeJL
Enlightened
- Mar 7, 2019
- 1,621
I don't know anything about this. But one thing which is I am pretty damn sure that there are plenty of LGBT people that have not been abused.
But I wouldn't doubt it if some people became LGBT because of trauma.
But I wouldn't doubt it if some people became LGBT because of trauma.
First loss
Specialist
- Jan 28, 2019
- 393
Try masturbating to masculine women, and progressively going over to more feminine ones, thus, programming yourself to like women once more.
A guy in one forum in one country did this and he claims it cured him.
Good luck.
A guy in one forum in one country did this and he claims it cured him.
Good luck.
why would you fight being gay?
Redt2go
flower child
- Jan 5, 2019
- 1,643
LGBT is not mental illness. You can say you were confused and experimenting but those who are truly LGBT cannot just change who they are attracted to. There are biological aspects associated with attraction.
I don't ever truly remember being straight. I thought I was possibly straight, but I never was. I pondered upon the physical and mental abuse I suffered and if it changed my sexuality. And a lot of my gay friends were sexually abused on top of everything else. But I know a lot of straight people who suffered . the same abuses too....and then I also know a lot of gay people who had perfectly normal childhoods. So I like to believe that childhood abuse has any effect on the sexual orientation.
I've been abused. And I adore women and I feel attracted by them.
Who cares? The only thing that matters is which desire has everyone, and we don't have anything to say about that.
Love is love, doesn't matter the sex/gender.
As you can see, homosexuality, for example is quite common in the nature:
http://library.allanschore.com/docs/Your_Sexual_Brain.pdf
We are not 100% male or female.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/homophobes-might-be-hidden-homosexuals/
Homophobes Might Be Hidden Homosexuals
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/is-homosexuality-a-choice/
Is Homosexuality a Choice?
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Wolfjob_dayjob
Student
- Oct 19, 2018
- 190
No, I absolutely don't think one causes the other. One can be well adjusted and love whoever, one can be not as well adjusted and love whoever.
I think emotional, physical, and sexual abuse and neglect are common for many children. I think many lgbt youth especially are not protected enough and helped through their abuse and that has negative repercussions. Same with other disenfranchised groups.
Sounds like you're hurting op.
I think emotional, physical, and sexual abuse and neglect are common for many children. I think many lgbt youth especially are not protected enough and helped through their abuse and that has negative repercussions. Same with other disenfranchised groups.
Sounds like you're hurting op.
There is no such thing as a 'cure' for being queer, because it's not an illness. Why do we even have to discuss this in 2019? I think more queer people suffer abuse as kids because others sense their differences and don't like them. There is zero chance that someone can go from gay to hetero in orientation. It makes me angry that so many religious types still peddle this myth, which causes terrible harm to people who are expected to 'convert'.
Thi
Thi
This is insane nonsense. Your attitude is what needs curing, not being gay.
Queer_Kenny
Member
- Mar 26, 2019
- 41
I'm not too sure about this either. I was bullied in grade school and high school, but I was beginning to feel that I was Gay before the bullying started. Was I bullied because of my sexual orientation? In high school, I was, and so was my boyfriend. It lead to both of us attempting suicide at the end on our second year in high school. He would try a second time and, unfortunately for me, he succeeded. Back then though, the Gay communities were just starting to stand up for their rights. If anything, being bullied as I was should have made me turn straight. Thankfully, I didn't, and I survived those school years.
Johnnythefox
Que sera sera
- Nov 11, 2018
- 3,129
You summed it up in the first sentence mate, it's a sad day when people believe anything they see online.
Next you'll be telling us time travel and UFOs are real! Why? "becoz ders a veedio
On yootoob dat sez so"
By the way folks, big foot, nessie and God are also real, how do I know? Because a flat earther told me.
If you're looking for facts and seeking the truth then head on over to that bastion of knowledge, yootoob.
I'll leave you with this video of me beaming on to the starship enterprise, this really happened because I say so.
Since neither of these behaviors are the majority or the norm. You have to ask yourself what causes people to deviate. It doesn't really serve your genes to mate with the same sex since u can't have kids unless u hook up with a member of the opposite sex in some way shape or form. I'd love to know the truth on this stuff like all the cases ever to know what is fact or bullshit lol!
Johnnythefox
Que sera sera
- Nov 11, 2018
- 3,129
Head on over to this site, it has the largest community of experts in the world.
The truth and the facts.
My personal belief is that sexuality is a spectrum. Nobody is 100% straight,gay,queer.
Some people just find the person with the characteristics and identity that they find irresistable,regardless of gender.
I do think there are quite a few people who are totally brainwashed into believeing that anything other than a socially acceptable straight relationship is wrong. Those people must live a very sad life,if they have to deny potential connections with someone that may be just perfect for them because of expectations.
As for childhood abuse afecting sexuality,it may cause an individual to be wary of a certain gender,but if they can find that particular person,who can offer them complete trust and devotion aswell as being their very best friend in life,neither gender,appearance,success or anything should really matter.
Some people just find the person with the characteristics and identity that they find irresistable,regardless of gender.
I do think there are quite a few people who are totally brainwashed into believeing that anything other than a socially acceptable straight relationship is wrong. Those people must live a very sad life,if they have to deny potential connections with someone that may be just perfect for them because of expectations.
As for childhood abuse afecting sexuality,it may cause an individual to be wary of a certain gender,but if they can find that particular person,who can offer them complete trust and devotion aswell as being their very best friend in life,neither gender,appearance,success or anything should really matter.
Maybe there are SOME people whose sexual expression is a result of being abused, but in general orientation is orientation. I'm bisexual/sexually fluid and in my experience, sexuality changes over the course of your life. Mine has a lot (although I've always been bisexual, my sexual expression has varied a lot). I suffered verbal/physical abuse but not sexual. I actually shelved the idea of being bisexual when I was twelve because I read about maternal transference in a psych textbook in our house and was like "Oh, I'm not bisexual then, it's because I have a bad mother." LOL. Kids shouldn't read Freud.
One thing, I never thought I was trans, but I have definitely always wanted to be 'gender-neutral' in the workplace (I'm a woman) and I wonder if the kids' rejection of gender identity is a broader rejection of patriarchy/sexism or an actual thing. Because certainly there are three biological sexes (male/female/intersex) and I wonder like, back in caveman days, if there were naturally occurring cavemen who were like "no I'm neither out nor in" (excuse my assumptions of cavepeoples' rudimentary language skills). I definitely grew up knowing the world believed boys were arbitrarily better than girls, and that my mother didn't want me, she wanted a boy, but I always outperformed the boys in school so it confused me.
I pretended to be a tomboy for my mom to like me and once I started working in my early 20s I used to say all the time I wish I could be gender-neutral at work. It's so weird, how men treat you. I went from always being the dumpy friend with the personality to the "cute young executive just in this meeting so [so and so] has something good to look at!" Wtf how did that reaction towards me change so fast?
One thing, I never thought I was trans, but I have definitely always wanted to be 'gender-neutral' in the workplace (I'm a woman) and I wonder if the kids' rejection of gender identity is a broader rejection of patriarchy/sexism or an actual thing. Because certainly there are three biological sexes (male/female/intersex) and I wonder like, back in caveman days, if there were naturally occurring cavemen who were like "no I'm neither out nor in" (excuse my assumptions of cavepeoples' rudimentary language skills). I definitely grew up knowing the world believed boys were arbitrarily better than girls, and that my mother didn't want me, she wanted a boy, but I always outperformed the boys in school so it confused me.
I pretended to be a tomboy for my mom to like me and once I started working in my early 20s I used to say all the time I wish I could be gender-neutral at work. It's so weird, how men treat you. I went from always being the dumpy friend with the personality to the "cute young executive just in this meeting so [so and so] has something good to look at!" Wtf how did that reaction towards me change so fast?
kohaku
Nonbinary Hysteric
- Mar 27, 2019
- 188
YouTube is the worst source for this kind of stuff. You're hurting yourself by believing in these things. YouTube is also known for recommending videos from known fascists and radicalizing the youth nowadays, so I'd do some extra research if your opinion is uncertain. Some channels provide good sources for their speculations but not all of them are true.
But the common belief now is that there is nothing wrong with being LGBT. The people who call it "degeneracy" tend to be the ones who'd love to have minorities suffer and die. Please don't fall into this mindset.
That won't work for me since I've already had my genitals cut off. I don't have any sexual organs left.
I mostly hate that I have homosexual attraction and that, as a result of my mental illness, I mutilated my body through transgender surgeries. I have recently woken up and realized that I am not doomed to homosexuality but that I can overcome my illness.
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First loss
Specialist
- Jan 28, 2019
- 393
Why the fuck would you do that? Is there a way to revert that? God dammit man how do you plan on being straight?
valentine
Student
- Apr 2, 2019
- 101
I thought I was transgender due to childhood trauma. I felt like changing my gender would distance me from my past and I could be a new person. Like if I changed my pronouns and my name I wouldn't be the girl who got abused. I think it's a pretty common experience, tbh. I know a lot of trans people who have experienced trauma.
