my girlfriend sent me a text this morning and said she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. i'm in such disbelief i don't know how to react. i have failed as a person and a boyfriend and i don't know what to do. she was the only reason i got out of bed and now she's gone. i have no idea what i am going to do
I've been through similar situations. People are all the same; you're going to forget about her, she's going to forget about you. And you will be in the same circumstances over and over again throughout the span of your life, so the most productive thing you can do right now is imagine all the good things about your next partner.
Don't be a slave of your own emotional perception of time.
Don't be a slave of your own emotional perception of time.
Awe that sucks :( it's goin to be painful for awhile. Maybe she will try to come back. Did it seem to be going south for a while?
Chlo
Experienced
- Feb 17, 2019
- 213
No partner can ever be your reason for living or your whole world. They don't deserve to have that control over you and that's an impossible burden for them, knowing that you could pull the plug for reasons they may not agree with or understand. You have not failed as a person or as a boyfriend. All you've done is feel hurt (understandably) and have unrealistic expectations of what another person can do for you.
i suppose you aren't wrong. i guess i did delude myself a tad
Omg, I'm so sorry : (. Look, you haven't failed as a boyfriend, and things like this happens, believe me. Just know, it's not meant to be then. Maybe someone better will come along.
Communication is very important. I hope she has told how she was feeling beforehand and not just end it abruptly. Very disrespectful, well in my eyes.
Tell her how you feel, if she doesn't accept. Move on. No point in trying if two parties are not involved.
Communication is very important. I hope she has told how she was feeling beforehand and not just end it abruptly. Very disrespectful, well in my eyes.
Tell her how you feel, if she doesn't accept. Move on. No point in trying if two parties are not involved.
I'm sorry that this has happened to you, especially when you're feeling depressed anyway it must feel like another nail in the coffin. I don't like to malign the girl as I've never met her but I think it's very cruel to send someone a text like that. She should have spoken to you face to face. I think she acted disrespectfully and makes me think you are worth a hell of a lot more than her x
Most definitely, esp if OP explained how he felt towards her and such.
21Neberg
Enlightened
- Dec 17, 2018
- 1,624
I'm still being torn open by my last break-up from two months ago, so I know the feeling of emotional emptiness. It's hard, and sometimes there's just no way to make it silent in your head. How are you coping?
wannabesetfree
I'm tired.
- Feb 26, 2019
- 52
Sorry about what happened OP.
It's going to be tough for you for awhile, but you have to move on. What else can you do really?
I know it felt good to have someone there for you to make you happy but people come and go. Now you need to focus on you and what makes you happy. What are some of your favorite hobbies or pastimes? Or maybe treat yourself to a nice meal or movie or something.
Good luck. I hope you can get through this.
It's going to be tough for you for awhile, but you have to move on. What else can you do really?
I know it felt good to have someone there for you to make you happy but people come and go. Now you need to focus on you and what makes you happy. What are some of your favorite hobbies or pastimes? Or maybe treat yourself to a nice meal or movie or something.
Good luck. I hope you can get through this.
leaps
FUNERAL
- Jan 16, 2019
- 250
It's time to move on..live your life the way you want to. Being single's not that bad
reveriewong
Member
- Feb 22, 2019
- 61
It's never easy to lose someone who you've assigned so much of your heart to.
It's going to take time to grieve, and you will grieve. Hopefully you will process your feelings, and have the self-awareness to work through why you feel that way and why you gave her so much power--power that should not belong to anyone.
May you use this time to heal and to better yourself so that you can create a better future for yourself.
It's going to take time to grieve, and you will grieve. Hopefully you will process your feelings, and have the self-awareness to work through why you feel that way and why you gave her so much power--power that should not belong to anyone.
May you use this time to heal and to better yourself so that you can create a better future for yourself.
LifeSick
Eat the rich or die!
- Sep 20, 2018
- 167
it will get better. At least a little better. Give it some time and good luck until then.
You go through hell and you turn around and express concern for someone else. You're a sweetheart.
massive thanks to everyone who comforted me. it is truly appreciated. i do believe that while it will be difficult, i can get through this.
FTL.Wanderer
Enlightened
- May 31, 2018
- 1,782
21Neberg
Enlightened
- Dec 17, 2018
- 1,624
I'm really not... I don't think I deserve kindness like this. Thanks anyway, I guess. You're far sweeter yourself!
brighter
Warlock
- Jan 22, 2019
- 718
Oh stop being humble, you're a great person, asking how other people are and giving good advice. Lemme quote your post just to remind you:
:)
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