"He paints a picture of the 'grey man' , the fully civilized automata who has relinquished his soul , perhaps has never had a soul at all ... in order to be a part of 'the system'."
I am nor sure what exactly you are referring to here. But then again, the man did leave a mountain of works, so... chances are we haven't read the same volumes :-D
Time for my disclaimer ...
I'm a third hand Kierkargaard reader :
( My exposure to Kierkargaard amounts to
quotes and summations from K to Otto Rank to Becker to me ...
So , not well read ( that's my credibility down the drain ... ))
Otto Rank ( according to Becker ) reinterprets K's 'knight of faith ' ( his trust in God as the ultimate
meaning and reason - living for a future heaven ? ) through the Freudian Atheist lense .
How I am not quite sure ...
The main thrust was that K and Freud were both barking up the same psychoanalyst tree , the difference
being that K was a God believer and Freud was an atheist .
Becker recounts Otto Ranks interpretation of K in this light .
(God thats vague as hell . And I've listened to Beckers Denial of Death several times ! )
I think the grey man idea is that we are all trapped in the civilized narrative , and for some , this prison offers the "freedom from free will " ... because of " following orders " that feedback 'belonging' and publicly lauded 'virtue' .
Whereas , the Freudian rebel , the questioner , the believer in the venal animal inside us all , will not
settle for the arbitrary cultural values that define us .
For me personally , there is the sweet spot of being kind , if possible , and being a rampant doubter of all
the horrors civilization offers .... a kind of atheistic spiritualityy .
Seeing potential for an abstract beauty and wonder , beyond the bog of red tape 'stay in line'
oppressive regulations .
But I digress .
We are all different , and it took me until I was 50 or so to see a difference between existential angst that begets neurosis and the more everyday sadisms ( during childhood )that also beget neurosis .
I found it immeasurabley helpful and it is why I am such a Becker pusher , as it was his ideas that
helped me see that .
( I kind of like the Mr Graveyard thing ... )