I'm morbidly curious about how many people will mourn me

[hemonpath]

This, along with whether I die badly (bodily discharges, pain) are my greatest issues with my coming ctb. I use to know I wanted to be cremated immediately, but then I heard donating your body to science is possible. But I still get a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach at the thought, even though I should be detached about it. That's a huge paradoxical fear. I mean I know I won't know what's going on when I'm dead but it still bugs me.

The 'funeral curiousity' is the worst for me though. If I really were ready to just vanish without making a sound I wouldn't want to wonder how people would react, but at the moment I still do have that at the back of my head. And I hate it.

Nightmare: RIP posts on my facebook. I've seen it too many times to know how cheap those are.

Sorry if I'm not coherent.

 

[ReadyasEver]

You're fine. The unknown is exactly that, the unknown. It's fine to have questions and doubts.

 

[sif]

I think it's fine to feel that and noble of you to admit it actually, in reference to the title.

 

[Smilla]

Perfectly normal to wonder how you will be remembered, but you will have to accept that you will never know.

Facebook RIP-could you delete your account prior to or ask in a note that you not be "memorialized" on there?

They say funerals and remembrances are "for the living" but I am determined to make my wishes known—no obit, no funeral, no service. Those who really cared about me (one, actually), know that I abhor sentimentality, fakeness, and pomp and circumstance and I hope that they honor that.

 

[RyanSuicide]

Odds are many people will mourn you.. ask yourself if your pain outweighs their mourning

 

[RyanSuicide]

Looking at your posts since you joined. I don't know why you joined. You're not saving anyone.

Why the sarcasm? I believe people should think about wether suicide is logical first. I will never apologise for thinking so

 

[iHeartRockArt]

Looking at your posts since you joined. I don't know why you joined. You're not saving anyone.

Please remain respectful to other users even if you disagree. No need to disrespect anyone who's trying to help.

 

[LostGirl]

Odds are many people will mourn you.. ask yourself if your pain outweighs their mourning

Just as others can never know how much you are suffering, how can you know whether your pain outweighs their suffering?

 

[RyanSuicide]

Just as others can never know how much you are suffering, how can you know whether your pain outweighs their suffering?

I can see you're not stupid...That is exactly the problem!

 

[LostGirl]

Youre not very stupid are you? That is exactly the problem!

Do you have to be so rude? Are you here merely to patronize others or do you have something constructive to say?

 

[RyanSuicide]

Do you have to be so rude? Are you here merely to patronize others or do you have something constructive to say?

I was complementing you. I am saying you are intelligent. (sorry if there's a misunderstanding)

 

[iHeartRockArt]

Seems we can't be respectful here. Thread is closed.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

Youre not very stupid are you? That is exactly the problem!

Not sure why people are taking this as an insult. When you say, "you're not very stupid"...it must mean that you've got some smarts! I believe this was a compliment, just worded in a different way.

 

[LostGirl]

Not sure why people are taking this as an insult. When you say, "you're not very stupid"...it must mean that you've got some smarts! I believe this was a compliment, just worded in a different way.

I take that as an insult, just read it in context. Just like, " you are not very ugly", "you are not very unfit". All passive aggressive.

If you TRULY want to complement some one you would say" you are pretty smart." , " you look beautiful"

I don't see how you can read such as a compliment.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

I take that as an insult, just read it in context. Just like, " you are not very ugly", "you are not very unfit". All passive aggressive.

If you TRULY want to complement some one you would say" you are pretty smart." , " you look beautiful"

I don't see how you can read such as a compliment.

I guess some people word things differently. But he corrected himself in the thread, saying he meant it as a compliment and apologized to you. Let's move forward, be respectful, and not derail this thread. I don't want to have to close it.

 

[Comatose11]

Sometimes I wonder the same thing. But I've realized maybe 1 or 2 people will.

 

[SelfishMom]

Everyone at my church who doesn't give a shit about me will use it as an excuse to get together for a big funeral and meal probably. In my note I asked for there to be no funeral so that can't happen. It's my last chance to be petty, come on!

 

[BaconCheeseburger]

There's options in FB settings of what to do with your account when you die, one option is memorialise and the other is delete, I think

 

[21Neberg]

I've thought about this too, I think it's quite normal to wonder how you'll be remembered. What will people say? Will they finally realise the small cries for help I sometimes showed? Or will they make jokes about it, and will I become easily forgotten? You know, maybe I don't even want to know. I just want to be done here.

 

[azucaramargo]

I've wondered who would pay money to fly out to my funeral --- as I live in kind of a remote area.

And, as far as what to do with your remains, please let me tell you what I know about donating bodies to science. (I have no agenda and am not trying to steer you in any particular direction.)

A couple of my family members are physicians, who have worked with cadavers before, and they all say that most medical centers hold sort of like "gratitude prayers" before the docs can touch the bodies. There is a culture of respect and appreciation for those who've given their bodies to science. From what I know, anyway.