DevilInHell667
Member
- Dec 6, 2019
- 73
Should I tell her? We dont have that much of an age difference, but I know that we cant have that kind of relationship.
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Flume
Villain
- Oct 28, 2019
- 300
Yes you should, going on like this will just cause more heartbreak on your end. Tell her the next time you see her.
Tortured_empath
Arcanist
- Apr 7, 2019
- 463
Imo it hinders constructive therapy. At least for me.
noctiva
the invisible girl
- Nov 6, 2019
- 393
Yes, I agree, with both of the previous posters: in the interest of treatment, tell her and get a new psychiatrist.
That way you will get the treatment you need without distraction and, if there is even a snowballs chance in hell, you can make a move if you like. It is at least here strictly forbidden to have any relations between doctor and patient (for mental diseases, not normal GPs) so even if both of you wanted, for as long as she is your doctor, she cannot do anything without endangering her job.
That way you will get the treatment you need without distraction and, if there is even a snowballs chance in hell, you can make a move if you like. It is at least here strictly forbidden to have any relations between doctor and patient (for mental diseases, not normal GPs) so even if both of you wanted, for as long as she is your doctor, she cannot do anything without endangering her job.
ThingWithFeathers
Student
- Sep 23, 2019
- 195
Your psychiatrist's professional code of conduct may require her to stop providing consultation to you as this can lead to conflict of interest and potential abuse of her authority as your doctor. But you must also be truthful to your psychiatrist. Maybe your psychiatrist can continue to provide treatment if you stop your romantic urges towards her and as long as she is not reciprocating she isn't really in violation of any code. But she is very much required to document this as a reason if she chooses to terminate services.
Yea u must find one u aren't in love with in that way. Then ask her out lol! Since she won't be your psych no more.
In my opinion, I wouldn't tell my psychiatrist/therapist if I had feelings or were in love with them, but I've never had that experience. And no, you cannot have a romantic or sexual relationship with them. Conflict of interest, and they can lose their career, possibly license.
Heartbreak can still happen if she doesn't acknowledge his/her feelings, and also doesn't reciprocate those same feelings back. Not to sound like an asshat, but I'm hoping she would be professional and also wouldn't.
It can hinder constructive therapy. I wouldn't be surprised if she recommends or refers PT to another psychiatrist/therapist.
BPD_LE
The Queen of Meme
- Aug 11, 2019
- 1,576
I'm in love with my GP but won't tell her because she'll stop seeing me! Classic BPD problem!
Lol! Right if u kind of like the situation why ruin it. She gives u something to look forward to. So if u like the situation and get something out of it maybe just don't do anything. You can just entertain fantasy. She can give u fuel to cope with BPD. Lol!
Mr2005
Don't shoot the messenger, give me the gun
- Sep 25, 2018
- 3,622
I was in love with mine. She was too beautiful to be in that profession. It made me want to go back when it was a complete waste of time
Temporarilyabsurd
NOISE:signal
- Apr 27, 2018
- 438
This is my first response as well .
If there is going to be a chance of 'love' ... it's pursuit time ... so 'declarations' are disempowering .
There is the 'transference' thing that I am not knowlegeable about ... something to do with projecting your feelings for other people in your life / past onto the therapist ... and it all gets weird in that area I imagine .
Where the 'real' and the 'imagined' do a weird thing ... :/
Maybe it's an 'interesting' thing to 'analyze' though ?
Talk about it with a different Doctor ?
What is all this Love stuff about anyway ?
Jesus . :/
Jean4
Remember. I am ALWAYS right.... until I’m not
- Apr 28, 2019
- 7,557
You are having transference issues which are common. Definitely tell her. It isn't the first time this has happened to a therapist. Be prepared to work through the issues which are causing this.
Perfectly normal, and don't be embarrassed .
Perfectly normal, and don't be embarrassed .
Yes tell her. Its important to be as honest as you can.
I have grown quite fond of my therapist. He's one of the only positive influences in my life. I'd say he's like a father but its more than that.
I have grown quite fond of my therapist. He's one of the only positive influences in my life. I'd say he's like a father but its more than that.
BridgeJumper
The Arsonist
- Apr 7, 2019
- 1,194
Yall being in love with your shrinks / therapists while I hate mine with a fiery passion (not sure if that means Im a shitty patient, theyre shitty professionals, or both).
As for advice. She will probably drop you if you tell her. Shes required to do this. I even got expelled from group therapy for falling in love with one of the guys because having feelings for someone hinders progress.
You could find someone else and then try to hit on her xD
Personally I would stfu and just fantasize about her in my head
As for advice. She will probably drop you if you tell her. Shes required to do this. I even got expelled from group therapy for falling in love with one of the guys because having feelings for someone hinders progress.
You could find someone else and then try to hit on her xD
Personally I would stfu and just fantasize about her in my head
Jean is right, it's called Transference, it is not unusual at all. It is not uncommon for patients to develop feelings for their therapists, due to the empathy received under their care. Their conduct and license is only at risk, if they act on and reciprocate those feelings. Nevertheless having said that, telling them is obviously going to incur some kind of influence in your future treatment/relationship.
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