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noname223

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I read an article about the topic. Seemingly in Germany more and more people prefer having a girl over a boy. Maybe most of the reasons consist of gender stereotypes.

But I thought about my answer. One of the best things I achieved in my life thus far was not to repeat the mistakes my parents made. Meaning procreating. Lol.

Most role models I have are men. The thinkers I listen to the most are male too. I soon want to post a thread with the title: "Who are you imitating?" There was a time as autistic trait I imitated David Foster Wallace. But I think I was just very weird socially to that time. I think I improved gladly in my awkwardness. No more imitating other people in such a way. Masking is the way to go.

I think I would prefer having a girl over a boy. One reason might be my sister is way more functional than me. Maybe the reason for it is my neurodivergence. I was born after her and the older the mother the more likely does autism occur under some circumstance.
Maybe the difference is not the gender. Moreover, as a person I find her horrible superifical and shallow. I don't like spending time with her. At the same even though I like myself more than her I loathe myself a lot.

I think I am a typcial autistic. People in real life told me my autism was obvious. I am not that good in masking. I think having had a psychosis is a hindrance in hiding my neurodivergence. You have to analyze a lot with this combination. Female autists are better in masking, end up less often like a complete recluse just like me. They have better chances to find a significant other. And have better chances to find a job. I assume that because they can adapt better to social requirements. The truth often is though that her functionality comes along with a higher mental pain level. I think I am not independent at all. I think one reason is how I was raised. And it wasn't expected from me to be independent. I am not completely sure the gender is what makes the difference. I just don't like my life much. Even though I have values that I support and the rest of my family consists only of morons that ruined lives of innocent people. I often wish I was a different person. Though, when I meet many people and learn more about them I actually prefer being me.
 
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Trans people exist. Gender isnt binary.
To me this reads as would you prefer your child to have a vagina or penis. And that. Feels strange.

But I also understand society raises and treats ppl bases on how they look/sound so. I think this is more about the type of person you'd hope to raise. A more 'functional' and independent person. That's all about how you nurture them. Not how they are born.
 
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noname223

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Trans people exist. Gender isnt binary.
To me this reads as would you prefer your child to have a vagina or penis. And that. Feels strange.

But I also understand society raises and treats ppl bases on how they look/sound so. I think this is more about the type of person you'd hope to raise. A more 'functional' and independent person. That's all about how you nurture them. Not how they are born.
I think yes. But I don't really consider trans people to have a third gender though. They have the gender that they belong to and which they express.

I thought about adding non-binary people though. It would make the question more complicated. And I think it easier to talk about the difference between boys and girls because many people don't actually know that many and not much about non-binary people. It would make a nuanced debates more difficult. You could argue for the opposite at the same though.

The criticsm is very valid though. Thanks.
 
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yotaka

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Non-binary person here. For what it's worth, I agree: we complicate everything.
 
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noname223

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Non-binary person here. For what it's worth, I agree: we complicate everything.
Shall I delete the thread? It sort of excluded non-binary people. I also didn't feel comfortable to share an opinion on them. Because I don't know enough about them.
 
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yotaka

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Shall I delete the thread? It sort of excluded non-binary people. I also didn't feel comfortable to share an opinion on them. Because I don't know enough about them.
Ah, no, I didn't mean it like that. That's very thoughtful of you to ask, though 💚
 
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