Breadbfra
Specialist
- Jul 16, 2020
- 374
I've been dropping off SS lately due to me finally getting to live with my fiancée. She's what everyone calls a "survivor", because her mother died of suicide so you could imagine what seeing me on this site could do to her.
Today we decided to give her mother a salute at the cemetery. We were both noticing how her grave was basically empty except for two or three dead bouquets, while other graves were always full of flowers. She had 5 brothers, two daughters, many friends...none of them brought her a single flower in 5 months. And you were maybe asking: "Why hasn't your fiancee brang flowers?" Because she always has to go to the cemetery without telling anyone, otherwise her dad wouldn't allow her. And, as it happens in small towns, everyone knows her and what happened.
My fiancée's sister just basically went to the funeral and acted like nothing happened. It even erased her from her son's memory, which suddenly stopped asking about his granny. Now they act like she didn't exist.
I was noticing too that in the facebook group dedicated to this town (no more than 5000+ habitants), they always publish inscriptions about the deads. Every single one.
Nothing was written about her.
I get that our country is centuries away from being civilized but sometimes I feel I'm living in 1800.
i've just noticed that the italian press has started censoring suicide news. They simply don't show on the main newspapers.
A woman's memory has been erased because of ignorant deeply rooted convinctions.
Today we decided to give her mother a salute at the cemetery. We were both noticing how her grave was basically empty except for two or three dead bouquets, while other graves were always full of flowers. She had 5 brothers, two daughters, many friends...none of them brought her a single flower in 5 months. And you were maybe asking: "Why hasn't your fiancee brang flowers?" Because she always has to go to the cemetery without telling anyone, otherwise her dad wouldn't allow her. And, as it happens in small towns, everyone knows her and what happened.
My fiancée's sister just basically went to the funeral and acted like nothing happened. It even erased her from her son's memory, which suddenly stopped asking about his granny. Now they act like she didn't exist.
I was noticing too that in the facebook group dedicated to this town (no more than 5000+ habitants), they always publish inscriptions about the deads. Every single one.
Nothing was written about her.
I get that our country is centuries away from being civilized but sometimes I feel I'm living in 1800.
i've just noticed that the italian press has started censoring suicide news. They simply don't show on the main newspapers.
A woman's memory has been erased because of ignorant deeply rooted convinctions.
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