Discussion idiocy of prolifers

[exhaustedanonymous]

people really "care" about mental health issues until they're actually face to face with someone who suffers from the conditions they spend so much time being false sympathetic about. i have too many emotions bottled in my throat at this moment so i can't really share the things that happened today, but if people want to chime in with their own stories of things feel free to share (i'm asking you too, actually, listening to like-minded people is comforting)

 

[MidnightDream]

Oh yeah, 100%.
I remember I had some friends in college, they knew I had BPD and were soo understanding, until I called out some of their shitty behaviour and was faced with 'you're not actually angry you're just bpd, talk to me when you're done being psycho' - That's just one experience of having my feelings, behaviours and discussions entirely invalidated simply because of a label I was diagnosed with. I've learnt to just cut those people off tbh, why waste my time.

 

[mateodolores]

I have had many experiences in my life where people have discarded and invalided my emotional pain because I'm "difficult".

One of the most painful times was when I was battling addiction and, in my drug-filled daze, I told a guy (not a friend at all), about the pain and trauma I was going through. I came out to him, too — all in the same vent. We were miles and miles away from people. It was just the two of us. I knew I should've kept my mouth shut, but for some reason, I couldn't. I felt as if I had to spill.

He made fun of me and caused me to spiral out of control, attacking everyone around me in a heated rant that eventually led to more drug abuse and more spiraling.

I also have told a friend that I was suicidal and he just looked at me and, with a weird tone, asked, "so you just given up that easily, huh?" The other time he said, "you might be losing your mind, but calm down."


One other experience I've had that's pushed me to isolation from these people is a really ridiculous one. My mother was chewing me out because of something (I don't remember) and I started to cry. She didn't give a shit if I was feeling awful, so I lied and told her I had talked to a friend and they were going through something horrible, so I was sympathizing with them. She did a full 180 and started asking if I needed some time to myself and that she was praying for my friend.


The nerve and hypocrisy of these pro-lifers, I tell you...

 

[Unending]

I personally just avoid people these days because there is always some kind of pain or trauma involved whether it is their doing or my mistake. I just don't understand how I am supposed to connect with others without drugs and I unfortunately can not afford to take drugs anymore with how bad things have gotten. The worst part about people is that I'm one too. I wish this wasn't the case.

 

[Worndown]

A "prolifer" is pro life because life has not bitten them in the ass hard enough. Perspective comes with experience.

 

[NHLTradeRumor]

My friends always seem to care about me, but they know of how much I'm suffering, and refuse to let me ctb. I have BPD, so there is one person in the world who I always listen to, and of fucking course he's in that friend group. He refuses to see that suicide is the individual's choice, and is adamant about "suicide is for lazy people", like what the hell? I know that he cares, he just has a horrible way of showing it sometimes... That being said, pro-lifers really do suck.

 

[Chronicoverwhelm]

I get phony/insincere random check-ins or 'I love you's from someone, because he is a pro-lifer, not because he means it. He just thinks he might be saving my life. It's actually more hurtful to me than getting no messages at all, because I know it's not sincere.

I wish I could have an open honest conversation about CTB with the pro-lifers in my life- "You think I shouldn't CTB? Really? What's your solution for my health issues? My financial issues? Being unable to work & support myself? Being unable to function? My genetics? These things cannot be resolved, they will only get worse and here's the proof ... _______. You have no solution?? I didn't think so! But I should just stay here for you while my life deteriorates more with each passing day?"

 

[Wannagonow]

I've been hurt so many times for just the reasons you shared. As much as I try to ignore the hurtful words, I can't. My solution has been to simply not share things with people anymore. (Here is different of course). It's hard choosing not to share things- but it protects me from getting hurt. I know this won't work for everyone. But it's how I deal with the "fake sympathy ". I hope your situation gets better for you.